I've found that it depends on what kind of shampoo I use. I've tried all of the shampoos in this list: http://menshair.guide/best-shampoos-for-hair-growth.html with varying results. The Ultrax Labs one has been the best I've used so far. I'm still shedding but it's slowed down since I started...
I think the main problem of your zero success with women is not your baldness but inferiority complex of being bald. Take it easy, I am almost bald at my 30th and have no problem with women.
Hi samanthacsc and welcome! I do agree that there is a slight problem with your hair after surgery as I had 3 of them. Just give some time for your body to recover and You'll be fine.