Any Positive ways of Dealing w Baldness?

[dazedandconfused16]

Guys,
I am just wondering if there are people on this website who have managed to just "get on with it?" I am 23, and on the genetic one way street towards NW5-6. The writing's on the wall. Father and Brother bald, horseshoe bald. Grandfather, bald. I recognize all the cynical (spelling?) views of society and its treatment of bald men. When I read these remarks I acknowledge them and their validity. My hair has been thinning since I was 20 and recently has just sped up like no other. I can't help but identifying with these negative life outlooks shared by all on this website, particularly this forum. It sucks. From people I've talked to who are older, they have said balding sucks. But what they have also told me is that life goes on. Baldness at some point stops to consume their every thought (as it seemingly does with me, no joke. I dont think I can go more than an hour without thinking about my own hair or noticing someone else's) I guess what I'm looking for, though I may be clutching at straws here, is for some advice from those of you who have gone through the shitty and come out "ok." Is there any knowledge you can bestow upon us younger guys??? Honestly this sh*t eats me up all the time, but I hate feeling depressed. I see some guys posting about getting on with your life and not wasting these precious years of youth. How do we do it? I am not trying to harp on anyone here, just for once it'd be nice to come here and read something that gives me some idea that eventually baldness and this extreme anxiety is overcome-able so to speak.

 

[HairPieceMan]

it depends your outlook on life.

its hard, im in wig so i have hair back (NW5 @ 23 btw), i can move on and look back on those dark thoughts as in the past.

but if i never solved hairloss, and hter was no wig industry, i imagine id be in a VERY dark place at age 30, i am lucky for hair replacement industry.

the only thing i can imagine is just wig to solve it, or just try to adjust life as a bald man.

conversly to what people MIGHT say about baldness,i DONT think it will get easier as you get older, if you look and feel like sh*t at 25 practically bald, you life with just get worse and worse as you go to 27, 30, 33, 36, 39 then your basically dead inside at that point.

i mean you going to have to tell girls and people socially your 39 now anyway once your 25 with your thinning crown, and when your 39 its just going to get worse becuase you will be in such sh*t by then its like what is the point.

i mean you could embrace it and try to work with it, be sly bald, get tan, dress in power suits, get earings, check neil strauss and what he did, i personally dont like that approach and prefer to have hair as it doesnt work for me with the skin tone/skin care and other mild facial anomilies i have.

if you embrace it like that, make it a little "cool" like him, you can be happy and be socially normal and date OK looking girls and possibly CUTE girls as well.

 

[Joe-1991]

You should all watch this video; it really helps put things in perspective. This guy went blind at 21 only to go on to walk to the south pole. Shortly after his achievement he fell through a bedroom window and is now paralysed as well as blind. He is also BALD.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-12314687

I was very active on this forum about 2 years ago when my hair loss first began at 18. A short stint on finasteride has left me with many symptoms related to lack of androgens. The worst being impotence and 0 libido. I bic my head now and couldn't care less about my hair.

 

[HairPieceMan]

f***, that's pretty nuts.

in any case, not to say somethign bad, but if your blind and you go on extreme adventures, seems nuts, any of these things carry risks, if i go mountain climbing and come back paralysed i only have myself to blame.

but yeah, blind at 21, bald at 25?, then paralysed.

but there will always be worse off people.

at the end of the day baldness is a "social" disablity IMO, it can either be destructive or just have a minor influence depending on your attitude, but some people cannot obtain the attitude bald,, thus need hair to have a positive attitude on life.

so i suggest wig to them.

also i suggest wig to people that just look REALLY bad bald,remember baldness is not equal for everyone, some look like mental patients bald, a look a lot worse than neil strauss bald, with hair i look normal, baldness is like a mild deformity for me.

 

[Joe-1991]

He wasn't paralysed during the trek to the south pole you cretin. He was sleepwalking and fell through a bedroom window some weeks after.

 

[dazedandconfused16]

Joe and Hairpieceman thanks for the responses. Joe i wanna be where you're at mentally with baldness. Did you just get over it at some point and move on? If so, what was that process like, I don't want to let this eat away at me like it has recently

 

[Nashville Hairline]

You should all watch this video; it really helps put things in perspective. This guy went blind at 21 only to go on to walk to the south pole. Shortly after his achievement he fell through a bedroom window and is now paralysed as well as blind. He is also BALD.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-12314687

I was very active on this forum about 2 years ago when my hair loss first began at 18. A short stint on finasteride has left me with many symptoms related to lack of androgens. The worst being impotence and 0 libido. I bic my head now and couldn't care less about my hair.

That guy Mark Pollock is great..I've followed his story for a while now, he has a blog thats worth a look:
http://markpollock.wordpress.com/

(oh and I've seen him on chat shows with his other half and needless to say she's beautiful.)

I think he falls into the category of guys who went bald and didn't think twice about it..they do exist. I think they are people who are generally pretty secure in themselves and have a high self-esteem that isn't dependent on how they look.

The opposite end of the spectrum are the guys who commit suicide cos they are NW2..I have no doubt they exist too

In other words baldness sucks but the mental approach to it is so important, probably just as important as the treatments.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Sounds like you know the score. There is nothing I can tell you to help you cope that hasn't already been said. But all of those coping mechanisms can't give you the same sense of security that having all the hair on top of your head does. I've been bald for over fifteen years and for me it has not gotten easier. Sorry if that is not what you wanted to hear.

 

[HairPieceMan]

it's nice to hear your opinion UCMan,

when i looked into wigs at 24 and now at 25 With a good one, i always wondered if my opinion on baldness would change when i was 35 (a more acceptable age to be bald), but i can see how it woulnd't get better, rather i would be more angry at it what with being bald at 22-35.

i gues the longer you are like this (assumeing its young liek 25 or 30) to all the way to 50 you will just get more annoyed as you wont remember yourself with hair etc.

 

[HairPieceMan]

may i ask when you were bald UCMan, and what Norwood pattern it was etc.