Four questions for those of us who remember ever having good hair

[Roberto_72]

There has never been a year in my adult life where hair has not been a worry.

I have never known what it was like to sport "normal hair".

I wish I could ask the people who had good hair as adults before thinning (if they are in this forum, I guess they must be thinning somehow):

1. How conscious were you of your hair? Did you give it for granted or did you actively think "I have good hair and I will make use of it during interpersonal interactions?"

2. Did you always have the same style or did you think of changes? How often? Did you ever plan growing long hair?

3. What did you think of baldites? Did you think they were losers, or were you indifferent to them?

4. Did you ever hear women talk badly of baldness? How did you react?

Thanks!

 

[DoctorHouse]

I always got complemented throughout life that I had "great hair" even from hair stylist. I came from a bald father so I feared hair loss all my life. I never thought my hair was as good as my brother's or certain other people's. Always thought baldness was a sign of true masculinity but never made fun of anyone bald. Don't remember any women saying they don't date bald guys. Don't remember anyone saying something bad about bald people like I read on here. I had to change my hairstyle due to losing hair and I am not crazy about the style but I have no choice. I never thought anyone bald was a loser. I thought acne was the biggest curse of all. And once I started to lose my hair and age, it become an obsession. I learned how to spot NWs and worst of all realized I never had good hair like I thought I did. When I see people like Zayn Malik, that is what I call great hair. My hair was always fine and straight. Had a huge forehead that I never realized until I came here. I don't have great hair for a hair transplant so I have finally reached the acceptance mode that I have better hair than most of my peers but I don't have hair like the elite like Patrick Dempsey or Brad Pitt.

 

[Swoop]

I never had good or excellent looking hair. I have always had some of a slightly recessed hairline. But was I conscious of it? Nope. In fact I was a NW2 at age 19 I think. Sure I did think maybe once or twice, hey I got a bit worse hair than my peers. I walked around like a boss though, didn't bother me at all. Simply because it was good enough for me. Also, it didn't have any impact on my facial aesthetic value at all. The critical moment only came when it started to accelerate in my early twenties. NW2 became NW3 and NW3 started to go to NW4 territory with diffuse hairloss in my NW5 area. Started to look like a birds nest. That was the moment when it became a identity problem and I had to undertake action and that's when I landed on these forums. Had my hair loss stabilized at NW2 or NW2.5, I would never undertake action and give one damn.

Oh and I didn't think anything of baldites and I still don't think anything of baldites .

 

[Eren]

1. I was conscious in the sense that I wanted my hair to look good and styled (not greasy). There were a lot of days that I actively enjoyed having hair, mostly when looking in the mirror.

2. Never had long hair. I did have a slick back haircut for a while but mostly through my life I had and have the comb over (not the vain attempt of course but the real hair cut). I had a very low hairline as a child, thick hair and great density. At 18 it changed to a deadstraight hairline rather than the rainbow shaped hairline I had as a child. I definitely did have GREAT hair.

3. Indifferent, my father is bald my grandfathers of both sides are bald, uncles both sides bald, nephews cousins etc all bald. The only time I gave it a thought was when I was looking at a EURO 2004 match between The Netherlands and Sweden (The Dutch won after penalty kicks). I saw a a Swedish footballer with a shaved head but he looked young. I was 12 at the time and thought "HOW THE F*CK is that possible? He is so young." I ran to a mirror and looked at my hair and was glad it was still there. Other than that, never thought anything.

4. My male pattern baldness started at 19, so I never payed attention to that. However, I always knew I was going to lose all my hair given my family history, but NEVER did I even think it was possible to lose it so young.

We all know how (young) women think about bald men. No girl grows up and has an image in her mind about her future husband being bald. They all just assume it's someone with hair.

 

[Folliman]

1. I was conscious in the sense that I wanted my hair to look good and styled (not greasy). There were a lot of days that I actively enjoyed having hair, mostly when looking in the mirror.

2. Never had long hair. I did have a slick back haircut for a while but mostly through my life I had and have the comb over (not the vain attempt of course but the real hair cut). I had a very low hairline as a child, thick hair and great density. At 18 it changed to a deadstraight hairline rather than the rainbow shaped hairline I had as a child. I definitely did have GREAT hair.

3. Indifferent, my father is bald my grandfathers of both sides are bald, uncles both sides bald, nephews cousins etc all bald. The only time I gave it a thought was when I was looking at a EURO 2004 match between The Netherlands and Sweden (The Dutch won after penalty kicks). I saw a a Swedish footballer with a shaved head but he looked young. I was 12 at the time and thought "HOW THE F*CK is that possible? He is so young." I ran to a mirror and looked at my hair and was glad it was still there. Other than that, never thought anything.

4. My male pattern baldness started at 19, so I never payed attention to that. However, I always knew I was going to lose all my hair given my family history, but NEVER did I even think it was possible to lose it so young.

We all know how (young) women think about bald men. No girl grows up and has an image in her mind about her future husband being bald. They all just assume it's someone with hair.

This is what hurts.

 

[Roberto_72]

1. I was conscious in the sense that I wanted my hair to look good and styled (not greasy). There were a lot of days that I actively enjoyed having hair, mostly when looking in the mirror.

2. Never had long hair. I did have a slick back haircut for a while but mostly through my life I had and have the comb over (not the vain attempt of course but the real hair cut). I had a very low hairline as a child, thick hair and great density. At 18 it changed to a deadstraight hairline rather than the rainbow shaped hairline I had as a child. I definitely did have GREAT hair.

Thank you for your testimony. It must have been great.

 

[shookwun]

Never had good hair my entire life.

Always had crappy characteristics.

 

[resu]

My hair was my allure, I had prettyboy hair with natural blond highlights.

 

[buckthorn]

There has never been a year in my adult life where hair has not been a worry.

I have never known what it was like to sport "normal hair".

I wish I could ask the people who had good hair as adults before thinning (if they are in this forum, I guess they must be thinning somehow):

1. How conscious were you of your hair? Did you give it for granted or did you actively think "I have good hair and I will make use of it during interpersonal interactions?"

2. Did you always have the same style or did you think of changes? How often? Did you ever plan growing long hair?

3. What did you think of baldites? Did you think they were losers, or were you indifferent to them?

4. Did you ever hear women talk badly of baldness? How did you react?

Thanks!

1) it rarely crossed my mind.

2) I had really thick longer, wavy hair in my early twenties that everyone loved... then in grad school til now (33) kept it shorter. I did grow it a bit longer a few years ago and looking back at those pics and how much density I still had at 30-31 makes me want to put my gun in my mouth.

3) Never thought about bald people really. Nowadays, I will actually see pictures of friends that were bald/balding and be like, "no sh*t, they were bald"?? I noticed overall looks, like facial structure a lot more. so, indifferent.

4) I can't recall ever hearing a woman talk poorly about balding/bald people and I interacted extensively with hundreds of woman, whether friends or lovers. I still don't really hear it, and now I am looking for it.

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I never had good or excellent looking hair. I have always had some of a slightly recessed hairline. But was I conscious of it? Nope. In fact I was a NW2 at age 19 I think. Sure I did think maybe once or twice, hey I got a bit worse hair than my peers. I walked around like a boss though, didn't bother me at all. Simply because it was good enough for me. Also, it didn't have any impact on my facial aesthetic value at all. The critical moment only came when it started to accelerate in my early twenties. NW2 became NW3 and NW3 started to go to NW4 territory with diffuse hairloss in my NW5 area. Started to look like a birds nest. That was the moment when it became a identity problem and I had to undertake action and that's when I landed on these forums. Had my hair loss stabilized at NW2 or NW2.5, I would never undertake action and give one damn.

Oh and I didn't think anything of baldites and I still don't think anything of baldites .

How old are you now?

 

[Swoop]

How old are you now?

27, time flies fast .

 

[colony]

Same here, I didn't know that bald man existed. I had really thick hair (When I swim my hair was not getting wet or in showers) but my father was always saying that his hairloss started at my ages when I was 17(He always had thin hair). I did not listen to him because I never thought that it would happen to me. I think I would not complain this much if my hairloss was started in 25 yo or later. Plus it is more depressing when you suffer from retrograde alopecia and bald spot on top of your head in age of 19...

 

[Eren]

Thank you for your testimony. It must have been great.

It was, but it did not last long. Unconsciously, I made hair to be THE thing that defines my identity. I do not think, I will EVER be able to cope with it because of that.

This is what hurts.

I don't want to sound negative, but I honestly think that this is just reality.

 

[Norwood One]

I had beautiful curls. Thick thick hair, like the barber needed like 15-20 minutes to cut it. For a guy that's a lot of time.

Those were the good times

 

[lickawrist]

Yes! I had girls run their fingers through my hair and play with it; nowadays I don't let anyone touch it xD

 

[xetudor]

No girl grows up and has an image in her mind about her future husband being bald. They all just assume it's someone with hair.

Poor women, having to deal with bald men. It's like they all end up looking like Victoria Secret's models when they're 50. Even the beautiful ones are beautiful for a short time frame.

 

[swingline747]

There has never been a year in my adult life where hair has not been a worry.

I have never known what it was like to sport "normal hair".

I wish I could ask the people who had good hair as adults before thinning (if they are in this forum, I guess they must be thinning somehow):

1. How conscious were you of your hair? Did you give it for granted or did you actively think "I have good hair and I will make use of it during interpersonal interactions?"

always conscious. I knew it was happening and tried fighting. Took rogaine in my youth to no avails, tried propecia but it was too pricey to keep going, and always tried natural or snake oil remedies. I knew at the time (like pre 25 it was still passable) I had to make the best of it while I had it. I was a seriously good looking guy then and used it to get a lot of things. But also a super hard worker, keeping two jobs (full and part) and school full and part time at nights and weekends. Wish I had more time though after I fully got my school finished to have some fun.

2. Did you always have the same style or did you think of changes? How often? Did you ever plan growing long hair?

I changed it quite a bit, ran long through high school (past shoulders) to trimmed sides, then kind of worked a curly afro-y kind of thing for a while (my hair is naturally curly). I liked different styles.

3. What did you think of baldites? Did you think they were losers, or were you indifferent to them?

My dumb pops was bald and almost all the guys in my family. I hated looking at what I was going to be. I hated it more because my brother (about the same age) never showed signs of hair loss. Still doesnt. Im the bald brother. I get the "you guys are brothers" EVERY FUQING TIME! I never acted negativley towards bald guys but never EVER thought any guy "pulled off" the bald look or looked exceptionally bettter or even good with no hair.

4. Did you ever hear women talk badly of baldness? How did you react?

All the time. My reactions were depression. Why would I be mad at them? Because they dont like baldness? WE DONT LIKE BALDNESS, why should they? I was never angry at them, I was angry at my parents. My pops for wanting to procreate when he knew his family genetics sucked, and my mom for being so desperate as a young single mom (yup the pops married a woman with a kid of COURSE!) for thinking it was a good idea to make a kid with him. I honestly dont think my brother is my full brother. My ma was not the most faithful person and would not doubt hes not my pops kid. Me and him look nothing alike. She denies it and its now too late to get a DNA sample to test.

Thanks!

in red

 

[54684939]

I can't answer your specific questions, but I have come onto this forum quite recently due to recent experiences that I "may" be thinning/having male pattern baldness. I'm 25 years old, and I've noticed my hair has gone softer than before (allways had thick hair in the past) and what looks like a thinning at the crown. I still maintain medium length hair/fullness but it seems it might be going. :unsure: Only time will tell.

 

[g.i joey]

weirdly enough, i always had a high hairline, but i used to have to straighten my hair for how curly and thick it was. Once i hit 18 i realized that my once curly hair became alot smoother and finer, aesthetically, it was more pleasing and didnt really effect me at all till i hit 21. Once i hit 21 i realized that something was up and became so conscious about hair loss to this day, im now 23.

Norwoods didnt exist to me before balding, if you were nw3 or under, that was just your hair, i never considered an nw3 as balding, as long as he had somewhat of a hair style. I didnt even acknowledge bald people that much. But ive come to realize, alot of the people we classify as ugly are usually balding. Most people with intact hairlines regardless of how ugly they actually are, have some sort of appeal in some sort of way.

 

[F2005]

There has never been a year in my adult life where hair has not been a worry.

I have never known what it was like to sport "normal hair".

I wish I could ask the people who had good hair as adults before thinning (if they are in this forum, I guess they must be thinning somehow):

1. How conscious were you of your hair? Did you give it for granted or did you actively think "I have good hair and I will make use of it during interpersonal interactions?"

2. Did you always have the same style or did you think of changes? How often? Did you ever plan growing long hair?

3. What did you think of baldites? Did you think they were losers, or were you indifferent to them?

4. Did you ever hear women talk badly of baldness? How did you react?

Thanks!

Roberto, these are excellent questions and I will respond to each one. I also envy your Italian genetics because most of the Italian Americans that I know have the best hair and virtually no hair loss.

1 & 2. I had short hair until I was about 20, then I started to grow it long. When I had short hair, I wasn't really conscious of it at all. When I had long hair, it would grow wavy, uneven, and messy so I would style it using a flat-iron. That way it would look shinier, longer, and neater. I remember smiling such a sh*t-eating grin as I would style it, thinking about how good it looked. I always wanted to look like a rocker and that's what stared back at me in the mirror. But either way, I always strove to love the image that was looking back at me in the mirror. And I did, until hair loss came along.

3. I didn't think anything of baldites. I had the satisfaction of "not knowing". I thought that if I lost my hair, I would simply shave it off, grow a goatee, and look like a bad-***. Little did I know. And as a sidenote, that is why I see all of these delusional positivity posts coming from the people with the least amount of hair loss. They have the satisfaction of "not knowing" too. Because when I was an NW2, I did too.

4. I can't really remember because I wasn't looking for it. So if I heard it, I didn't remember it and it didn't register with me.

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1) it rarely crossed my mind.

2) I had really thick longer, wavy hair in my early twenties that everyone loved... then in grad school til now (33) kept it shorter. I did grow it a bit longer a few years ago and looking back at those pics and how much density I still had at 30-31 makes me want to put my gun in my mouth.

3) Never thought about bald people really. Nowadays, I will actually see pictures of friends that were bald/balding and be like, "no sh*t, they were bald"?? I noticed overall looks, like facial structure a lot more. so, indifferent.

4) I can't recall ever hearing a woman talk poorly about balding/bald people and I interacted extensively with hundreds of woman, whether friends or lovers. I still don't really hear it, and now I am looking for it.

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How old are you now?

I even see old photos of myself like that. Even photos that I posted on social networking. I can see the hairline recession and the thinning now. But I did not notice back then, until it become more pronounced a few years later, because I really did not have BDD (a word that I see used here all the time).

 

[Eren]

Poor women, having to deal with bald men. It's like they all end up looking like Victoria Secret's models when they're 50. Even the beautiful ones are beautiful for a short time frame.

Hahaha, that's true

I still don't know how much women care for it. Yes, they do care, but at the same time a lot of bald men still find someone that does look decent. It is what it is, the genetic lottery.