Girls you grew up with...

[Captain Obvious]

Ah, possibly the most difficult encounter while experiencing hair loss, IMO, is running into a girl I knew, liked, or was involved with during my high school days. I can just see it in their eyes during a chance encounter when they recognize my face but not my hair, as they remember me with a full, youthful head of hair. Now I look like I'm rebounding from some sort of disease!

The more considerate ones will avoid mentioning anything about my apperance at all, yet the vibes are obviously there (at least I think they are). And that is just how I like it, as obviously I want to get it out of the way without saying anything. So go ahead, discreatly glance up at my neverending forehead, get a good look, and grasp the situation.

The less considerate ones always say the same thing "Wow, you look old/older!"... "Uh.. thanks?" What am I supposed to say to that? I'm a nice guy and I understand they'll never know the embarassment of balding so I take the high road and usually respond with "Well YOU look fantastic!".

So does this happen to any of you often? You run into a girl at the supermarket, WELL aware those fluorescent lights beaming down on your head are doing you no justice whatsoever, how do you handle it? What goes through your head?

 

[tchehov]

Yes, it happens.

And it's probably the most poignant encounter for those of us harbouring a lost love.

I still haven't worked out what to do.

 

[zackmcqueen]

look them in the eye and act as if you don't even know youre bald. Works for me.

 

[Captain Obvious]

True that. There's no doubt that confidence is key.

 

[Hans Gruber]

youll likely find that if you start to stare at their hips/stomach that youll get the same reaction that they get from you looking at your hair.

guys lose hair,women put weight on,no one likes it but thats life :hairy:

 

[s.a.f]

Most importantly act with confidence. They can see that you're going bald but for all they know you could'nt care less and you may still lead an interesting and succesfull life. Bumping into people from school was my biggest fear in my 20's, so I avoided any situations where I thought it would be likely to happen. .

 

[tchehov]

Bumping into people from school was my biggest fear in my 20's, so I avoided any situations where I thought it would be likely to happen. .

Did you avoid city centres?

I used to throw myself in ditches because of low-flying aircraft. You just don't know who's Norwood spotting at that altitude.

 

[s.a.f]

Did you avoid city centres?

Yes I'm afraid to say I wasted the best years of my life.

 

[tchehov]

Did you avoid city centres?

Yes I'm afraid to say I wasted the best years of my life.

Have you had any success with your regimen, SAF - I don't think I've seen you mention anything.

PS Gregor Fisher is a funny guy - best role, Rab C Nesbitt.

 

[s.a.f]

I've had hair transplant's some bad ones that helped slightly and a Dr Feller one that was in a different league but I'm a former nw6 so I still look at some of the nw2 guys on here (who think their barely noticible hairloss is the end of the world) with envy. Unfortunatly for me I discovered the meds too late at about nw5. I'm in my early 30's now and life is better than its been for about 7yrs. But I have to accept that nothing can give you back the time that was lost.

 

[tchehov]

I've had hair transplant's some bad ones that helped slightly and a Dr Feller one that was in a different league but I'm a former nw6 so I still look at some of the nw2 guys on here (who think their barely noticible hairloss is the end of the world) with envy. Unfortunatly for me I discovered the meds too late at about nw5. I'm in my early 30's now and life is better than its been for about 7yrs. But I have to accept that nothing can give you back the time that was lost.

There are some other posters like Boru at an advanced Norwood and making progress - I admire anyone trying to come back from that. I'm 31 now and my hair loss only really began to be noticeable over the past year so I guess I'm luckier than some here.

Some of the NW1-2 posters are obviously paranoid but some of them are looking at their family history and making a judgement about what's in store for them and getting on meds for prevention, rightly so.

I don't think I'd go for a hair transplant mainly because I'm a diffuse thinner and I don't see how that could work. I'm hoping for HM but don't think we'll see it for another 10 years at least - I've seen posts on forums going back to 1999 talking about HM being here 'next year'.

What are best years anyway?

 

[chino20]

I saw this girl I used to really like over the summer, she hadn't seen me in a year, shes the fittest girl I could have had but never did (she's one of many regrets in my short life!) but the first thing she said when she saw me was 'you have no hair, what happened!'... Ok it was buzzed to 3/4 of an inch, but still made me paranoid as hell and pretty depressed the rest of the night wondering what she meant.

 

[tchehov]

I saw this girl I used to really like over the summer, she hadn't seen me in a year, shes the fittest girl I could have had but never did (she's one of many regrets in my short life!) but the first thing she said when she saw me was 'you have no hair, what happened!'... Ok it was buzzed to 3/4 of an inch, but still made me paranoid as hell and pretty depressed the rest of the night wondering what she meant.

You shoulda smacked her up the mouth.

 

[s.a.f]

Maybe she was shocked and just said it without thinking?

 

[47thin]

Wait until you're older, 40 plus- everyone looks like crap, especially 95% of the women in the US, at the rate that they are eating.

 

[souldoctor]

yeah, thats why it's so bad losing hair in your early/mid 20s...cos girls in late teens - late 20s often get kinda better looking as they grow into women (like from 18 - 26 or something), whereas if guys start losing hair in this age group, we just start looking like old men

for example a few years ago when i was 21 and had wicked hair, i went out with this pretty hot 19 year old a few times, but we never got serious and i always thought that i was in no rush to get a girlfriend etc
so there was no rush if i didn't get too worked up over this one particular girl at that particular time... fast forward a couple of years and now with hairloss, i dont look anywhere near as good as i used to, whereas i saw her by chance in a pub last week (and i've seen her around here and there in bars etc) and she looks sooo good these days, better now at 22 than when she was 19 etc....and she would probably not even look at me twice nowadays, even though she was all over me few years back!! Coz i was with my mate in the pub when we saw her and her friend at the far end of the pub, and i pointed her out and said i went out with her a few times in 3rd year, and my mate was like whoa man you should have held onto that one...and i was just thinking "yep..if i'd known i was gonna get hit by hairloss at this age, i fuckin well would have..!!"

 

[CCS]

youll likely find that if you start to stare at their hips/stomach that youll get the same reaction that they get from you looking at your hair.

guys lose hair,women put weight on,no one likes it but thats life :hairy:

putting weight on is not life.

I've gained weight when I over ate, and I lost it when I increased my activity. Many people just don't have the willpower to make their life happen they way they want.

 

[s.a.f]

If I could get hair through diet/exercise I'd be Norwood 0. Thats what makes hairloss so frustrating.

 

[CCS]

Wait until you're older, 40 plus- everyone looks like crap, especially 95% of the women in the US, at the rate that they are eating.

this is very true. It is scary. It seems everyone i know at college love to drink and drink, and most don't go to the gym. they are relying on genetics to keep them thin until it catches up with them. I can't find many non-drinkers. The weekend camping with the kids was the only time i'd seen so many college students not smoke or drink, but show a personality I really like, always laughing and making jokes and skits and playing games with the kids. This club is for me.

 

[zackmcqueen]

'Wait until you're older, 40 plus- everyone looks like crap, especially 95% of the women in the US'


Id still bang jane seymour and shes 68...she says so on the loreal advert.