Have I been blackpilled? I’m starting to think that all women care about is looks

[Oknow]

Went on a first date with a woman, probably the worse first date ever to the point she told me off on the date. Told me how she hated gym selfies, not complimentary etc

Asked her for a second for the banter, she agreed, then whilst setting up the second date made plans but she was taking ages to confirm so I found another woman to take her place

Now I’ve gone lukwarm on her to the point she is randomly texting me, calling me honey and sharing random things about her life

I don’t get it

In the past, after a bad first date I would get rejected right away over a lack of romantic chemistry. Now since fixing my style, fitter and generally looking better, I seem to be getting away with a lot more

Coincidence?

 

[doubleindemnity]

Yes and I realized this years ago. I used to have really great dates back as a bald guy but nobody wanted to go on more dates. Then I thought that whatever man ends up dating somebody consistently must have some serious social connection and understanding with them, and give them a lot of enjoyment, way more than I did on dates. But no, most relationships don't have much in common regarding how the pair interact or connect socially, and people in fact even manage to end up in toxic relationships after what I thought was a very trying dating process. The only explanation is that looks are the main factor for dating success. This is why I say that bald guys will struggle to get married. Marriage follows from betrothal which follows from dating which is all based on looks (for a gentleman, that means Norwood level).

Edit: Also the very idea that you, using gym selfies, ended up on a date with a person who hates gym selfies, should be enough evidence. Your looks, shown in the selfie, carried more weight than the behaviour of using a tacky gym selfie. That's not a coincidence or accident because you know how high the standards are for photos on online dating apps.

 

[We Move]

Why are a handful of users using this site as their blog? Do you not have any friends?

 

[Diffused_confidence]

To be truly blackpilled you have to be an incel. You get first hand experience.

Why are a handful of users using this site as their blog? Do you not have any friends?

Coping mechanism.

 

[Jpw1999]

Why are a handful of users using this site as their blog? Do you not have any friends?

Non balding friends are not going to be able to relate to them, here we all are young and have hair loss, so can relate to each other.

 

[doubleindemnity]

Non balding friends are not going to be able to relate to them, here we all are young and have hair loss, so can relate to each other.

This is true, but the op isn't bald. You can even tell by the post..!

 

[Feelsbadman]

i was depressed whiney unemployed immature and still.got laid had a gf and had girls sending me nudes who i didnt even know
make of that what you will.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

everything matters. height matters, hair matters, frame matters, facial bone structure matters, voice matters, facial muscles matter, body matters. and that's only one facet. intangibles matter too: status matters, charisma, hobby's/lifestyle, personality...
money matters as well, and how you spend it
how you breath matters, what annoying habits you may or may not have matter

my point is, to really excel in the dating market as a man, you need to check MANY boxes, if not most. only about 2% of men have power over women in the same way the average women has power over 98% of men.

don't try to pinpoint one thing and disregard the rest, as a man, if you want to feel power over women, you really need to dominate the competition

 

[Norwoody]

Interesting. I thought all they cared about was money?

 

[Feelsbadman]

Interesting. I thought all they cared about was money?

do women flick their bean at night to money?

 

[Norwoody]

do women flick their bean at night to money?

To make money, yeah they do actually

 

[Feelsbadman]

To make money, yeah they do actually

do you get a bean if u MTF?

 

[UnLuckyLuciano]

Why are a handful of users using this site as their blog? Do you not have any friends?

Because all my friends have hair and don't understand this curse.

 

[UnLuckyLuciano]

everything matters. height matters, hair matters, frame matters, facial bone structure matters, voice matters, facial muscles matter, body matters. and that's only one facet. intangibles matter too: status matters, charisma, hobby's/lifestyle, personality...
money matters as well, and how you spend it
how you breath matters, what annoying habits you may or may not have matter

my point is, to really excel in the dating market as a man, you need to check MANY boxes, if not most. only about 2% of men have power over women in the same way the average women has power over 98% of men.

don't try to pinpoint one thing and disregard the rest, as a man, if you want to feel power over women, you really need to dominate the competition

Nope, height and hair matter a shitton. I fking see examples on the street where the dude has a gross beerbelly, but as long as he's 1.85+ and NW0, its okay.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Nope, height and hair matter a shitton. I fking see examples on the street where the dude has a gross beerbelly, but as long as he's 1.85+ and NW0, its okay.

face
height
hair
rest is cope.

 

[Jpw1999]

face
height
hair
rest is cope.

It's pretty fucked up because those 3 are completely genetic and out of our control.

 

[Feelsbadman]

It's pretty fucked up because those 3 are completely genetic and out of our control.

hence my misery
so i go to a psychologist and the psych tells me to go on dating apps
lol!

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

Nope, height and hair matter a shitton. I fking see examples on the street where the dude has a gross beerbelly, but as long as he's 1.85+ and NW0, its okay.

right but I'm not talking about getting a lay or gf, but about having the power of endless opportunities. what's it worth to have a gf that treats you like sh*t because deep down she feels your fear that you can't get anyone else. many men get dominated and discarded by their gfs/wives like this

that's why everything matters. one 8/10 nw0 6'+ slayer with a b**ch voice gets mogged by a similar guy with a deep, masculine voice for example. some things matter more than others evidently, but it's a mog or be mogged world out there

 

[Feelsbadman]

right but I'm not talking about getting a lay or gf, but about having the power of endless opportunities. what's it worth to have a gf that treats you like sh*t because deep down she feels your fear that you can't get anyone else. many men get dominated and discarded by their gfs/wives like this

that's why everything matters. one 8/10 nw0 6'+ slayer with a b**ch voice gets mogged by a similar guy with a deep, masculine voice for example. some things matter more than others evidently, but it's a mog or be mogged world out there

It's true exactly right

HOWEVER, even good looking guys (chads) can get with the wrong women (personality disorder etc) like amber heard who are sociopaths and still get discarded but that's more rare and probably the guys fault for ignoring red flags

if you mogg most guys you'll always have the power as the women will know she can be replaced any second

 

[UnLuckyLuciano]

right but I'm not talking

that's why everything matters. one 8/10 nw0 6'+ slayer with a b**ch voice gets mogged by a similar guy with a deep, masculine voice for example. some things matter more than others evidently, but it's a mog or be mogged world out there

You think women care that the 6ft, nw0, 8/10 dude has a highschool voice?
Lol.