i feel so alone because of baldness

[Exodus2011]

well one of my 3 friends that regularly spends time with me just decided to stop seeing me.

supposedly cuz im "mean". its mainly cuz he is a fat pathetic lazy nw1 and its impossible not to talk **** to him

the other two friends i hang out with are still there but even then i cant really relate to them like i used to.

their lives are so much more different than mine. in particular what they worry about.

i dont know ANYONE my age dealing with this baldness . . . . this sucks

i feel so ****ing alone. baldness unwinds your existence

 

[shreyaskini]

i'm 18 and i do face the same kinda problem I hate it when my friends say that i'm going to be bald pretty soon. It not only lowers my confidence but also makes me feel very depressed. It's not that i'm ugly or something.. I'm a good looking guy but hairloss has lowered my confidence so much that now i hardly can speak to any girl. But i'm surely not gonna lose this battle. Will try my best to defeat this evil culprit called male pattern baldness and i hope all the ppl suffering from male pattern baldness too don't lose the faith and regrow their hair back. These things can only be understood by male pattern baldness sufferers and i know it hurts a lot.

 

[EvilLocks]

I feel the same way exodus. I have like 4 friends left and I don't even see them that often. When we do meet I feel like I have nothing to contribute because I don't go out and experience things anymore, I stay inside most of the time. Also they love to talk about hair and hairstyles etc, something I find a bit rude since they know what I'm dealing with in terms of hair loss. Hair loss has made me very isolated and I fear it's only going to get worse as my loss progresses. I wonder all the time what left I have to live for, but can't commit suicide because of my family. How ****ing sad it is that that's the only thing keeping me from taking my life at female pattern baldness' unforgiving hands.

 

[paulie72785]

For me its not that bad due to my hair i guess.
Its my attitude towards it.I obsess over it all the time and this seems to take away my ability to advice or listen to anyone.I am a good NW2 with a bit of crown thinning but i guess i can compensate to what my present NW2 hair with my height. Im 6'1 with an average built(mid-obese)(Here i am considered a giant).
Im not saying that all the >NW3 are retards for obsessing, im just saying that i honestly feel truly lucky that im not so receded BUT i do feel for you guys and, i am 100% sure that if i say anything constructive like "Dude you can do it" i am gonna be bombed down coz i haven't felt the level of misery that you all are enduring.
This post was not to help you go high but to share what i feel when i read your post.........
Full of despair and anger for fighting a never ending battle
to gain an advantage over others or sometimes to be a commoner......Be strong Exodus and continue your regimen coz thats all we can do for now.......

 

[paulie72785]

@2bald
Truly disturbing to read of what you had to go through man.

 

[2bald2young]

@2bald
Truly disturbing to read of what you had to go through man.

Well, I decided to delete the post. Suddenly I wasn't very comfortable with posting it. But thanks for the sympathie.

 

[lkm370]

I rarely bring my baldness up to anyone...almost never. Nobody cares so I just don't waste my time

 

[hellouser]

I rarely bring my baldness up to anyone...almost never. Nobody cares so I just don't waste my time

This.

 

[Exodus2011]

yes very true

its only gonna cause more misery. ofc everyone gives the same bull****, its all confidence, etc

makes me so mad that no one wants to admit the truth, that LOOKS MATTER

**** baldness exposes you to reality

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thanks for the feels man, they mean a lot

a lot of receders try to come up and lecture even tho they dont know **** about baldness. . . .

 

[maher]

yes very true

its only gonna cause more misery. ofc everyone gives the same bull****, its all confidence, etc

makes me so mad that no one wants to admit the truth, that LOOKS MATTER

**** baldness exposes you to reality

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thanks for the feels man, they mean a lot

a lot of receders try to come up and lecture even tho they dont know **** about baldness. . . .

Of course, looks matters! And I wouldn't say its only confidence..Its how you carry yourself. It is more of unconscious cues... like body language, non-verbal conversation that goes on parallel to the verbal one, and typically a split second before the verbal one..
All these "unconscious activities" have effect on other people.. Most of us are "damaged".. in one way or another, just dont let them(society) smell the blood.

 

[MercMan]

its mainly cuz he is a fat pathetic lazy nw1 and its impossible not to talk **** to him

I would venture a guess that this is why he doesn't want to be your friend anymore.

 

[Exodus2011]

I would venture a guess that this is why he doesn't want to be your friend anymore.

yea ofc. i was too hard on him. i wanted to motivated him but at the same time it made me mad seeing him waste his easy life

 

[Notcoolanymore]

@2bald
Truly disturbing to read of what you had to go through man.

I missed it, can you give me the highlights?

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When you are young and balding you can definitely feel like you are on an island all alone. For the most part you are, as most young guys are not going through the same crap. As you get older you are not as much of an outcast. Of the close buddies I have known from highschool 3 of 5 are dealing with hair loss. 2 of them have "manned up" and shaved their head. It still sucks though. Even if 99% of guys my age were bald, I still wouldn't be happy about it.

 

[Exodus2011]

I missed it, can you give me the highlights?

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When you are young and balding you can definitely feel like you are on an island all alone. For the most part you are, as most young guys are not going through the same crap. As you get older you are not as much of an outcast. Of the close buddies I have known from highschool 3 of 5 are dealing with hair loss. 2 of them have "manned up" and shaved their head. It still sucks though. Even if 99% of guys my age were bald, I still wouldn't be happy about it.

so "manning up" involves hiding the horseshoe and trying to make it look like you are bald by choice?

yea thats not manning up. thats being a pussy lmfao

the real manly thing to do would be to just let it grow . . . . . thats truly not giving a ****

 

[Notcoolanymore]

so "manning up" involves hiding the horseshoe and trying to make it look like you are bald by choice?

yea thats not manning up. thats being a pussy lmfao

the real manly thing to do would be to just let it grow . . . . . thats truly not giving a ****

True but I guess they don't like the horseshoe look. I don't know, I didn't ask them.

 

[doublebatman]

so "manning up" involves hiding the horseshoe and trying to make it look like you are bald by choice?

yea thats not manning up. thats being a pussy lmfao

the real manly thing to do would be to just let it grow . . . . . thats truly not giving a ****

Shaving your hair is now considered being a pussy? I know I didn't shave my diffusing nw5 to make it look like I went bald by choice. I shave because I take pride in my appearance and it looks 50 times better than the emerging horseshoe.

 

[lkm370]

The reason you feel alone because of baldness is because lets face it...your expected to just "man up" about it and move on. When a women goes bald, there is usually sympathy and understanding but when men go bald your expected to just accept it since there are poor orphans in some other country so you should be grateful. This double standard and guilt trip combined with delusions of the reality of our looks based world really sickens me. If your going to tell me to go bald, at least tell me the reality not "chicks dig bald dudes...its sexy." Man every time I hear that...I want to come out swinging. Sure, there is that 5% that look good but for the rest...you literally just look like every other bald guy on the planet:

1)The gym bald guy
2)The beard bald guy
3)The skinny hipster bald guy
4)The fat jovial bald guy

...whatever the style or cliche...guess what your gonna be the f**king bald guy.

 

[Agustin Araujo]

so "manning up" involves hiding the horseshoe and trying to make it look like you are bald by choice?

Apparently. It's more like people think that we want to be bald/balding because they think that we think having thinning/no hair is some kind of style we wanted to go for by our choice, and that were happy with it. Many people are that ignorant.

Exactly! I don't care if you're offering me stupid advice, just tell me the truth.

But no, all we'll always here from ignorant people is: "Don't worry, it's all about confidence, women don't care about looks! Lift weights and make good money and it will be alright."

I wouldn't even want to be offered stupid advice, I only need smart advice and the truth.

All the confidence nonsense usually comes from people with no alopecia. It's because alopecia degrades a person's appearance and is why their confidence is negatively affected, and people who are privileged with no alopecia don't need to worry about that. That's why it's too easy for those who have good hair to say the confidence nonsense to those of us who do suffer from alopecia.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I can't relate to anyone in real life too you know.

Me too. It makes it a bit draining to function in the real world, and professionally. I have to put on an act. Of being a normal guy.

The only thing which is getting me through life, and thank heavens for this, is that I am able to lose myself in TV shows. Periodically I will binge on shows like "The Mentalist", imagining myself to be the protagonist. For a few days every year I just stay home all day and binge on a show every waking minute. For these few days, I am in a world where I am sexually desirable. For a few days, I don't have to face the reality of being incel for life. Fantasy is my drug of choice. Thank heavens for the internet. I have these "mental breakdowns" 2-3 times a year. I don't do physical drugs - I am sure that if I tried, I would not be able to avoid overdosing.


I remember in my early twenties, I was in a deep deep depression (without realizing it). The one thing that made life bearable was the weekly telecast of Smallville. I would be in Tom Welling's shoes for that hour. I would be tall, with hair, handsome, with a great voice.

 

[EvilLocks]

I remember in my early twenties, I was in a deep deep depression (without realizing it). The thing that made life bearable was the weekly telecast of Smallville. I would be in Tom Welling's shoes for that hour. I would be tall, with hair, handsome, with a great voice.

That is just sad, very sad.. But I understand, I'm in a fantasy world where everything is great often as well