tomsmith said:
Thanks, I thought I was gonna get mashed for posting that topic. I hope no newbies run to the bathroom to try that sh*t! Anyway I guess your right about da girl, I just need a confidence booster I suppose (like a blowjob). How do you do with the girls by the way? Do you normally approach them? I was always of the belief before this nonsense that if you were chasing the girl you were wasting your time and that if a girl was interested she would come to you. I'm not sure if my hair will make me break this practice or enforce it even more!!
This is the reason we don't hook up as often as we should. To think for one second that if a girl is interested she would come to you is the biggest folly you'll ever make in your life. What is the logic behind such a belief? When has it ever been the female's role to take the reigns in establishing a relationship?
While a blowjob may certainly be a confidence booster, you are already way too far ahead of yourself. You're going to already have to be pretty damn confident to get yourself into a position to get that blowjob hahaha..
What one has to realize is that yes, by being dealt the hairloss gene, picking up girls WILL BE MORE DIFFICULT. Why shouldn't it be? Don't bother fooling yourself into thinking girls are going to immediately look into your heart and find what they are looking for regardless of outside appearance. Just doesn't happen like that in this world..
There are, however, quite a few things one can do to get that confidence boost necessary to approach girls in such a manner that will make you 100 times more attractive than you would be normally..
1) Hit the gym - don't think girls care about great bodies on us? Ok, let's think about it this way.. take 2 girls with identical faces, one with a perfect body and one that weighs 200 lbs. Tough call for you, huh? Shallow as it may be, isn't that what this discussion is about? Take 2 guys, one flabby or extremely skinny with a full head of hair and one in great shape with a receded hairline...at least give the girl a chance to see that you care about your appearance as much as she does.
2) Dress well - i'm mostly talking to the guys in their 20's and 30's here, but damn I go to the bars and see some of these guys walking around with sweatshirts tucked into their levi's. You can guess what sort of crowd they attract. Head to your local Structure and buy everything you see that fits
3) Attitude ADJUSTMENT - I made the mistake for longer than I care to recall thinking that what girls wanted was a guy who kissed their asses and treated them like absolute gold. All that does is make you look needy and pathetic and pretty much labels you a loser. Approach them with confidence, if not a bit of cockiness. Don't ask her out, but make her want to be asked out...make her see that if she misses out on you, she's missing out on a great time. Crack jokes at her, go as far as you can without insulting her. For whatever reason, most girls eat that crap up. I still don't quite understand it...I think it has something to do with them seeing something that they can't quite have so easily that makes them want it so much more than something they know they can say "yes" or "no" to.
Stop thinking completely in the present. Set a goal, give yourself 6 months to change yourself for the better. Fix your diet, hit the gym, look your best, develop a confident attitude, start thinking with your brain and not your hair, and CARRY all that with you when you walk around.. You won't have to worry about girls anymore, I can promise you that.
