I Think Hair Loss Changed Who I Am Today

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I never really ever thought about how my life may be different if it wasn't for hair loss, and its hard to say hair loss brought me down this road, but I definitely don't think I'd be who I am today if it wasn't for hair loss. My hair loss started at 20 and progressed pretty fast. Am 25 now. AR inhibitors haven't helped much, am on dutasteride now. Still have hair but my hair is pretty thin and hairline ruined. I've posted pictures, my hair is pretty bad at this point. Hair loss didn't turn me into a social recluse like a lot of people say it does, but I am not who I was before.

I got super depressed and have had depression pretty bad since I started losing my hair. I have had depression since a teenager, and honestly don't know why as my life has been pretty good, but its always been there. I think this just triggered it more and caused it to get worse. Over time I just started caring less about other stuff. I made more stupid and risky decisions.

Before my hair loss started I was basically like a preppy douchey frat kid. I always had really long hair, like hockey player flow. The first comment I would get from girls was on my hair. I was literally obsessed with my hair and it was my favorite feature. I never would have gotten a tattoo. I wore preppy clothes like ralph lauren polos all the time. Didn't really do drugs, other than drink a lot. Never smoked, except weed sometimes. Never would do any tobacco products except if really drunk. I was into lifting, but it wasn't like it is now. My physique wasn't as important to me, my hair was though. I only dated girls that were from good families and had their sh*t together. Most girls I dated had rich parents and were wealthier. I used to think of girls that fucked around or had tattoos or did drugs as trash. I used to think I was better than everyone tbh, which isn't a good thing, but I basically thought I was like a god.

After hair loss started, I still got through college and got a good job, but often will spend nights out drinking with some dumb slutty girl I met on tinder until like 3-4am on a weekday and literally would get nothing done at work the next day. These girls mostly worked at bars or were strippers or didn't have sh*t going for them, but I would have to get up at 7am and go to a good job working from 8/9-5/6. I do a lot more drugs, and if someone wants to try something I always say yes. I used to always wear condoms with random girls, but I literally never wear them/even buy them now. I've dated a couple girls since my hair loss started that I would consider trashy. Didn't go to college, did a lot of drugs, drank all the time, have slept around a lot, didn't have me wear condoms ever. They were good looking girls, but their decisions were sub par, and I guess mine kind of have been too. I started getting tattoos, and have a decent amount now. I wear hats a lot more often now then I used to, and always keep my hair short as it looks terrible long. I wear cut offs and cut up jeans more. One good thing it did, is I got super into fitness and am super into lifting. My physique is more important to me than anything, because I can actually control how it looks, unlike my hair which it seems like there is nothing I can do about. I've contemplated steroids multiple times but still haven't pulled the trigger on that and don't know if I will because of the affects it has on your hair, and I am afraid I will get too big from them. Another good/bad thing it did is it completely got rid of my health anxiety. I had terrible health anxiety and it prevented me from trying a lot of drugs as I thought I might get a heart attack. I am super addicted to nicotine now and dip a lot, have to dip or chew nicotine gum at work now. I literally just don't give a f*** about a lot of stuff now. I definitely have less worries which is good, but I am engaging in riskier sh*t which I guess isn't.

I am not sure if hair loss brought me down this road and turned me into this person, but I feel like it turned me into what I guess you would say is a trashier person just looking at who I am today. I didn't lose my sense of humor and still am the person I was, but looking back I don't act at all like the person I used to be, and don't think I'd ever have imagined turning into this person. Maybe it is because my hair was my favorite aspect of myself, and it got taken so fast out of nowhere without me being able to do anything about it, and kind of changed who I am. I know hair loss is a natural thing a lot of guys go through, but I felt so helpless, given that no treatments worked and I kept getting told I would keep my hair if I take these drug or try these vitamins or apply some topicals, and nothing worked. I kind of felt like I had no control anymore, and maybe that is why it drove me down this road. Anyone else feel like hair loss changed them? Maybe it wasn't the hair loss and was just a bunch of different stuff occurring throughout my life that changed me, and honestly I don't hate the person I am today, but I'm just not who I thought I'd be.

Maybe I need to talk to a therapist lol.
 
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One of the good things about getting older is just about everyone loses hair it just sucks a lot worse when it starts in high school like mine did. I now have more hair than most of my friends did who graduated even college with full heads of hair
 

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Hair loss has definitely changed me when it comes to leaving the house, or leaving the house without a hat on. If I leave the house without a hat on, I feel extremely self-conscious and I start getting paranoid that people are staring at me, and then I just want to go home and hide... I honestly hate going out with a hat on, they give me a headache and makes my hair greasy, which then makes my hair look even more thin when I take it off.

I have definitely learned that I took what I had as a kid for granted... I had perfect skin, and perfect hair but I still felt self-conscious. Now, if I had perfect skin and hair I would feel on top of the world.
 

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One of the good things about getting older is just about everyone loses hair it just sucks a lot worse when it starts in high school like mine did. I now have more hair than most of my friends did who graduated even college with full heads of hair

Joined in 2005? Wow...
 

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I think you should talk to a therapist.

I too loved my hair and when I saw I was losing it, it freaked me out. Thankfully it stabilized with Propecia, low dose Clomid and Lipogaine and the random dermarolling. It definitely left me scarred but also appreciative that I could move passed it unlike the multitude of other people who do not overcome their handicaps and must just change their outlook on life to grow and be happy in this world.

Life is NOT easy but it can be. Life can be beautiful and Life can be worth it. When you start to slowly solidify this into your vibration the world begins to change.
 

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Joined in 2005? Wow...
I don’t post often because it’s best not to think about hairloss. From my college beginning in 1993 to about 2003 I didn’t go out in public without a hat. Now I have no issue like that though bad hair transplants didn’t make things any better . Now I just realize there is not much I can do and most guys my age have hairloss
 

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Hairloss is like god's way (if there is one) of testing how mentally stable we are. Why are we so prone to losing one of our most important features? We don't lose any other body part as we get older, so why this? I'd happily lose a finger or a toe if it meant I could keep my hair permanently for the rest of my life. Whoever designed us humans needs a good hard kick in the balls.
 

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You honestly sounded like a mega douche when you had nice hair.
Yeah I kinda was. Thats the one thing I have liked about losing my hair. I don't really judge people anymore. I used to think looks were the most important thing in the world. I also used to think guys were basically superior to women. I used to be pretty homophobic too, and I realize people are who they are and you shouldn't judge them for anything. You really don't know what is going on in someone's life.

My friends were pretty douchey and treated girls like sh*t tbh. I am not that person anymore and am glad I am not, so I am not saying all the changes were bad.

I think a lot of people go through that alpha bro phase at like 18/19 though so that might have been part of it, but looking back, yeah I was pretty douchey then.
 

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Yeah I kinda was. Thats the one thing I have liked about losing my hair. I don't really judge people anymore. I used to think looks were the most important thing in the world. I also used to think guys were basically superior to women. I used to be pretty homophobic too, and I realize people are who they are and you shouldn't judge them for anything. You really don't know what is going on in someone's life.

My friends were pretty douchey and treated girls like sh*t tbh. I am not that person anymore and am glad I am not, so I am not saying all the changes were bad.
Well good on you for recognizing all that and changing. A lot of that comes with age as well so even if you still had your hair your views on life might have changed.
 

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I don’t post often because it’s best not to think about hairloss. From my college beginning in 1993 to about 2003 I didn’t go out in public without a hat. Now I have no issue like that though bad hair transplants didn’t make things any better . Now I just realize there is not much I can do and most guys my age have hairloss

I don't ever want to lose my hair... I will even go through surgical castration if I need to!
 

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Yeah I kinda was. Thats the one thing I have liked about losing my hair. I don't really judge people anymore. I used to think looks were the most important thing in the world. I also used to think guys were basically superior to women. I used to be pretty homophobic too, and I realize people are who they are and you shouldn't judge them for anything. You really don't know what is going on in someone's life.

My friends were pretty douchey and treated girls like sh*t tbh. I am not that person anymore and am glad I am not, so I am not saying all the changes were bad.

I think a lot of people go through that alpha bro phase at like 18/19 though so that might have been part of it, but looking back, yeah I was pretty douchey then.

Men will never be superior to women, in my opinion. Women can just laugh at balding men, because the likelihood of women going bald is low especially since they have an extensive amount of options in comparison to men.
 

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Men will never be superior to women, in my opinion. Women can just laugh at balding men, because the likelihood of women going bald is low especially since they have an extensive amount of options in comparison to men.

With this way of thinking you won't get any girls even if you're a thick NW0. Girls want men, not pussys
 

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With this way of thinking you won't get any girls even if you're a thick NW0. Girls want men, not pussys

I'm a homosexual, so I don't think I want a girl... But, women are genetically superior to men.
 

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It changed a lot for me. It came at the worst time it could have possibly happened for me. It completely ruined and ended my life. I now consider my life to be over. I have no desire to date woman, am unable to do daily things, miss family events, can't work. I'm pretty much a shut in. I had a lot of problems before this, and it was just one too many. I had a plan early 2018 to end it, and I think I regret not going through with it. I tried to push on for my family's sake, but I knew I would not be able to handle what was happening in my life and to my body, and man was I right. The level of mental pain I've endured... wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
 

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I'm a homosexual, so I don't think I want a girl... But, women are genetically superior to men.

By judging humans just because of their race is very close minded. A strong personality is a lot more important than physical appearance.

And even though I don't like to make these kind of comments but women are definitely not genetically superior to men. If that would be the case, they would rule the world. But they don't, men do.
 

dralex

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I think you should talk to a therapist.

I too loved my hair and when I saw I was losing it, it freaked me out. Thankfully it stabilized with Propecia, low dose Clomid and Lipogaine and the random dermarolling. It definitely left me scarred but also appreciative that I could move passed it unlike the multitude of other people who do not overcome their handicaps and must just change their outlook on life to grow and be happy in this world.

Life is NOT easy but it can be. Life can be beautiful and Life can be worth it. When you start to slowly solidify this into your vibration the world begins to change.
Yeah talking to one probably could help. I've had a few other traumatic things in my life happen over those 5 years as well that probably fucked me up a bit. Guessing its just everything together added up. I guess thats just life though. Everyone has their struggles. I am still happy at times, amidst the depression, and am not suicidal or anything.
 

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Hair loss has definitely changed me when it comes to leaving the house, or leaving the house without a hat on. If I leave the house without a hat on, I feel extremely self-conscious and I start getting paranoid that people are staring at me, and then I just want to go home and hide... I honestly hate going out with a hat on, they give me a headache and makes my hair greasy, which then makes my hair look even more thin when I take it off.

I have definitely learned that I took what I had as a kid for granted... I had perfect skin, and perfect hair but I still felt self-conscious. Now, if I had perfect skin and hair I would feel on top of the world.
The hat thing gets better over time. I wouldn't leave without a hat for a while either. Started getting my hair shorter, and I have to work without a hat, so just got used to it. Other people notice it less than you. And most people don't really think much of it tbh. Just something you deal with as time goes on. I still wear hats more than I used to, but its not as debilitating as it used to be.
 

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I'm a homosexual, so I don't think I want a girl... But, women are genetically superior to men.
I disagree. Most women I've met are weaker physically and mentally. Well every girl physically, but most mentally. Every girl I've dated I would say I had much more control in the relationship than them. Probably limits the amount of women I can date, but I am not looking for a woman that can control or take care of me. I don't like women who are super confident and power-driven, which honestly very few are. Hillary Clinton is an example of one that is, and I find her disgusting, not just in looks but personality. To each their own though.

The only time I really feel powerless is when a girl cries, and honestly after my last ex, I've grown to be pretty cold to that too, because its just all manipulation. If a guy cries its pathetic, if a girl cries everyone runs to rescue her. One thing girls have over guys is they're better at manipulating, by far, thats about it.
 
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