I'm having a difficult time right now and hair loss is the seed of the problem.

Travalanche

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I'm sure most of you have seen me on here but I'll just do a quick recap, I'm 24 and live in a small town where everyone knows eachother. I'm actually sort of crying right now while I'm typing this and I know that it's not manly but I don't care.

Basically I never attained any form of higher education and the working market where I live is extremely limited, it's very hard to even get a 14hr/week minimum wage job unless you know the person who is hiring you.

About 7 months ago I wrecked my vehicle after losing my last job and drinking/driving on the way home and a a quarter mile from my house there was a fallen tree on the road so I had to take a long detour and blacked out and woke up in the middle of a field before losing consciousness again and waking up in an infirmary.

Now I'm over that and working again for minimum wage in a customer service job (cash register) and having to deal with people for 8 hours straight is driving me insane and I'm not able to wear a hat.

So everyone sees my head and I've even had a few comments on my age/hair loss and due to this I've been drinking VERY heavily for the last week. I'm not cut out for society.

I have severe anxiety and I know that if I lose this job I'll be homeless and I just can't do it anymore. The job is easy but dealing with people just breaks me. I'm completely losing my sanity and that's all there is to it.

I go home and just break down in laughter or contemplate just ending it, my mental state is just extremely poor at best but I can manage to hide it in public but barely.

Even before I started fighting the problem with drinking I was losing it. I show up to work shivering despite warm weather and I feel tingly all over. I sometimes am barely even able to stand due to nerves despite being very physically healthy.

I'm literally at my wits end and I try to calm down and clear my mind but I can't pull it off. I know that I probably need medication but even if I got a prescription I couldn't afford it as I have no extra money at all after my paychecks and the more I work the worse I feel so I'm in a vicious cycle that won't end unless I hurt myself on the job and get disability or hit the lottery or get a solitary job (of which there are none in my area).

I am just completely unable to function in any social setting, I've totally zoned out on the job while collecting money or have begun sweating which causes me to mess up on even the simplest things and I've already gotten a write-up already and I wasn't even mentally present to figure out what it was about when my boss was explaining it to me.

I know I must sound like a pathetic wreck and I am, I'm fit on the outside but on the inside I'm anemic and weak.

I don't know if my hair loss is the only problem, being able to hide it under a hat would certainly be a start though. I let my boss know I'm a hat-person and he looked at me like he gave zero craps whatsoever then again he is 50 and has a perfect hairline with excellent hair quality that's gelled back so he wouldn't know.

I know I overthink things but I can't help it, it's the way I've always been and when a female co-worker commented on the fact that my hair is very thin and that I'm going to go bald I just said "oh well" but inside I felt like I was hit by a train. Then you add in the fact that her boyfriend comes in regularly and is the same age as me and out of shape but has a really great fringe it's easy to see what she thinks of bald/balding guys.

I don't like her anyways but still, it just further proves what I think about most women.

I know nothing will come from this post but I had to let it out and it makes me feel a bit better by doing so. My life has just been so bad up to this point that I have no faith whatsoever left and my only hope is that I can keep the hair I have from getting worse. Geez I must sound like an emo.
 

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I'm sure most of you have seen me on here but I'll just do a quick recap, I'm 24 and live in a small town where everyone knows eachother. I'm actually sort of crying right now while I'm typing this and I know that it's not manly but I don't care.

Basically I never attained any form of higher education and the working market where I live is extremely limited, it's very hard to even get a 14hr/week minimum wage job unless you know the person who is hiring you.

About 7 months ago I wrecked my vehicle after losing my last job and drinking/driving on the way home and a a quarter mile from my house there was a fallen tree on the road so I had to take a long detour and blacked out and woke up in the middle of a field before losing consciousness again and waking up in an infirmary.

Now I'm over that and working again for minimum wage in a customer service job (cash register) and having to deal with people for 8 hours straight is driving me insane and I'm not able to wear a hat.

So everyone sees my head and I've even had a few comments on my age/hair loss and due to this I've been drinking VERY heavily for the last week. I'm not cut out for society.

I have severe anxiety and I know that if I lose this job I'll be homeless and I just can't do it anymore. The job is easy but dealing with people just breaks me. I'm completely losing my sanity and that's all there is to it.

I go home and just break down in laughter or contemplate just ending it, my mental state is just extremely poor at best but I can manage to hide it in public but barely.

Even before I started fighting the problem with drinking I was losing it. I show up to work shivering despite warm weather and I feel tingly all over. I sometimes am barely even able to stand due to nerves despite being very physically healthy.

I'm literally at my wits end and I try to calm down and clear my mind but I can't pull it off. I know that I probably need medication but even if I got a prescription I couldn't afford it as I have no extra money at all after my paychecks and the more I work the worse I feel so I'm in a vicious cycle that won't end unless I hurt myself on the job and get disability or hit the lottery or get a solitary job (of which there are none in my area).

I am just completely unable to function in any social setting, I've totally zoned out on the job while collecting money or have begun sweating which causes me to mess up on even the simplest things and I've already gotten a write-up already and I wasn't even mentally present to figure out what it was about when my boss was explaining it to me.

I know I must sound like a pathetic wreck and I am, I'm fit on the outside but on the inside I'm anemic and weak.

I don't know if my hair loss is the only problem, being able to hide it under a hat would certainly be a start though. I let my boss know I'm a hat-person and he looked at me like he gave zero craps whatsoever then again he is 50 and has a perfect hairline with excellent hair quality that's gelled back so he wouldn't know.

I know I overthink things but I can't help it, it's the way I've always been and when a female co-worker commented on the fact that my hair is very thin and that I'm going to go bald I just said "oh well" but inside I felt like I was hit by a train. Then you add in the fact that her boyfriend comes in regularly and is the same age as me and out of shape but has a really great fringe it's easy to see what she thinks of bald/balding guys.

I don't like her anyways but still, it just further proves what I think about most women.

I know nothing will come from this post but I had to let it out and it makes me feel a bit better by doing so. My life has just been so bad up to this point that I have no faith whatsoever left and my only hope is that I can keep the hair I have from getting worse. Geez I must sound like an emo.

Just be confident and shave it off! Girls love it!

Just kidding :p Anyways, if I was you, I would tell my boss that I have to wear a hat, again and again, until he understands it. That would be the first thing.

Second, it looks like you are in a town with very limited possibilities. This is independent from hairloss and it could become a problem for you later on. You are still young and are still on time to do some important changes in your life. You can still attain some form of higher education, or learn more about something that you like, in a way that you could earn a living doing it. This is not as far or as expensive as you may think, by doing a few courses, or even by using the unlimited resources on the web, in some months you can become pretty good at a lot of things, and start earning more money and looking at a better future ahead. You may think it's late, but very few people at 24 know what they want to do with their lives. Just enjoy the ride, because very soon you'll be looking back at it.

Third, if you have money for drinking, you can certainly spend $60-70 per month in finasteride + minoxidil. You might need to cut out on some luxuries, but that's how life works, you have to take decisions and most of the time you can't have everything. Go see a derm, because you have high chances of reacting well to the medication.

Anyways, hopefully you can get back on track soon :)
 
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Step 1 - Stop drinking so much. That isnt going to help your mental state and it will also mess up your skin. Being bald with ****ed up skin at a young age are two combinations you do not want.
Step 2 - Put up with the bullshyt at work until you can save enough money to leave town to find work in a place that has more opportunities.

I was just thinking. I was at walmart the other day and I saw some ppl in the baking area and the meat area wearing hats at their job. Try working in a grocery store department that allows you to wear a hat.
 

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I've already shaven it off and it looks bad despite me being in fairly good shape. Also, I've been on finasteride for 7+months religiously so that's a non-issue.

I know I'm making a lot of mistakes, I just lack the willpower to change things. Being stuck in my town is half of the reason I'm doing so poorly and my balding is the other half I'd say.

Drinking is generally inexpensive, I mainly consume the most rancid/cheap malt liquor I can find. I would like to quit but it's what keeps me going sadly and I hate admitting that but it's the truth. I was sober for the beginning of my tenure at my job but I just couldn't handle it and drinking has taken the edge off. That probably sounds terrible...

As for schooling, I have no idea whatsoever of what I'd like to do, I enjoy cooking I guess but I'm not particularly talented at it. I mean I'm not a bad cook but not amazing either, sort of average really if not slightly above. I like to fish as well but I'm not a good enough fisherman to do tours nor am I in the correct area to do so.

A lot of my problems due to being in mid-Kansas where opportunity is rare at best. I plan on going to Colorado in the near future but my mom is in bad health and I like living near her and would hate myself forever should she need my assistance and I was too far away, sorry if that sounds dumb.
 

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I've already shaven it off and it looks bad despite me being in fairly good shape. Also, I've been on finasteride for 7+months religiously so that's a non-issue.

I know I'm making a lot of mistakes, I just lack the willpower to change things. Being stuck in my town is half of the reason I'm doing so poorly and my balding is the other half I'd say.

Drinking is generally inexpensive, I mainly consume the most rancid/cheap malt liquor I can find. I would like to quit but it's what keeps me going sadly and I hate admitting that but it's the truth. I was sober for the beginning of my tenure at my job but I just couldn't handle it and drinking has taken the edge off. That probably sounds terrible...

As for schooling, I have no idea whatsoever of what I'd like to do, I enjoy cooking I guess but I'm not particularly talented at it. I mean I'm not a bad cook but not amazing either, sort of average really if not slightly above. I like to fish as well but I'm not a good enough fisherman to do tours nor am I in the correct area to do so.

A lot of my problems due to being in mid-Kansas where opportunity is rare at best. I plan on going to Colorado in the near future but my mom is in bad health and I like living near her and would hate myself forever should she need my assistance and I was too far away, sorry if that sounds dumb.

Your problems with alcohol could lead to some major issues. Fortunately, you only sound like an alcoholic in his early stages, but you should seek professional help as soon as possible, before it's too late.
 
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Your problems with alcohol could lead to some major issues. Fortunately, you only sound like an alcoholic in his early stages, but you should seek professional help as soon as possible, before it's too late.

Yes I agree with Bald29. The persistent drinking could sink your current state of mind into a deeper hole if you dont stop or seek some kind of help. I want to tell you that being bald isnt so bad and it isnt worth killing yourself over but I would be lying to myself and bull****ting you. I dont know what its like to be a NW2 or a NW3 at 24. At 24 my hair was still in its juvenile hairline location. My advice is to just stop drinking and I know for a fact even though you are having a hard time with balding there are still some things in life that you enjoy doing. Some things that make you smile. Spend more time on those things to get your mind out of the gutter. Now I know how hard it is to focus on other things when all you can think about is your hair but I hope you take that advice better than Iam taking it because Im in no position to be giving advice. Im miserable as fvck too. I cant even function in life like a normal person because all I think about is my hair. I made so many mistakes these past few months that almost cost my job. Im 3 months behind on my projects and all I can think about is my hair. Just because Im not applying that advice as well as I should doesnt mean the advice is useless. Its the most logical thing to do really. Being depressed and drinking will just make things worse even though Im not knocking you for feeling that way because even Im having trouble coping with my own situation.
 

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NORWOOD ****ING 2 IS NOT ****ING BALDING

jesus christ

its a mature hairline at most

norwood 3 is NOT balding either. its some recession

TRY DIFFUSION FOR A DAY. and no, i know diffusion responds well to meds but im already a norwood 6 at 21 so **** me
 
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