Leading a double hair life.

[scorpiolove]

I can't believe it,but I've had a change of heart about hair loss lately, I got a hair piece about a month ago and it really changed my appearance dramatically. I'm talking from looking 39 years old to looking 20 something years old.
I even put my pic up on the internet on different sites and it was hit city. People treated me differently, the new pic I took with my hair piece was one of my best so far.
I even went outside with it once, It was a new experience,
I have been balding since I was 16 years old,and my battle ended for a while at the age of 28 when I got the horseshoe hairline. I thought I had my dads baldness at first but I thought again when I went norwood 6 a few years later. My dad only had a slightly receeding hairline and a little bald spot at the back.
Back to my story, I have been extremely depressed because I took my hair piece off and I look like an old douche again. I did this because I have a trifling *** friend who would laugh at me if he saw me with my toupee on, he's bald himself but he still manages to get all the women, he resents my financial success in life because I came from an impoverished background and now he calls me a baller because I never seem to go broke, it just sucks to be broke because people treat you like a piece of **** when you have no money.
I am considering ending my friendship with him and wearing my toupee and moving on with my life. I know this sounds funny but I am exhausted leading this double hair life. Any opinions or advice on what I should do would be appreciated.
I never knew hair loss at this level before and I sincerly apologize to anyone who read my old posts and got offended, I meant to be helpful or humorous and I came off like an a**h** so for that I apologize. I read a lot of your posts on here, some made me laugh in relation because I can totally relate to some of your posts and replies and others made me hurt inside because of lost hope and not leading the life you want to lead because of hair loss.
just like most of you on here I want the right woman in my life and all that life has to offer, just like you guys and if I can help in any way just pm me and i'll be around. yours truly
scorpiolove.

 

[kpat]

Anyone who cannot accept you as you change is not someone who deserves to be in your life. They will only hold you back. If you want to wear your hair piece then wear it. If it makes you feel good and doesn't harm you, then why not wear it? I have some experience with wigs, and when I've worn a wig that looked like my ideal hair, I felt indescribably better about myself. I felt more like me. It does feel like a double life. But both lives are yours, and you can choose which one you want to live and/or how often you want to live in one or the other.

 

[AddictedtoSoftDrinks]

I can't believe it,but I've had a change of heart about hair loss lately, I got a hair piece about a month ago and it really changed my appearance dramatically. I'm talking from looking 39 years old to looking 20 something years old.
I even put my pic up on the internet on different sites and it was hit city. People treated me differently, the new pic I took with my hair piece was one of my best so far.
I even went outside with it once, It was a new experience,
I have been balding since I was 16 years old,and my battle ended for a while at the age of 28 when I got the horseshoe hairline. I thought I had my dads baldness at first but I thought again when I went norwood 6 a few years later. My dad only had a slightly receeding hairline and a little bald spot at the back.
Back to my story, I have been extremely depressed because I took my hair piece off and I look like an old douche again. I did this because I have a trifling *** friend who would laugh at me if he saw me with my toupee on, he's bald himself but he still manages to get all the women, he resents my financial success in life because I came from an impoverished background and now he calls me a baller because I never seem to go broke, it just sucks to be broke because people treat you like a piece of **** when you have no money.
I am considering ending my friendship with him and wearing my toupee and moving on with my life. I know this sounds funny but I am exhausted leading this double hair life. Any opinions or advice on what I should do would be appreciated.
I never knew hair loss at this level before and I sincerly apologize to anyone who read my old posts and got offended, I meant to be helpful or humorous and I came off like an a**h** so for that I apologize. I read a lot of your posts on here, some made me laugh in relation because I can totally relate to some of your posts and replies and others made me hurt inside because of lost hope and not leading the life you want to lead because of hair loss.
just like most of you on here I want the right woman in my life and all that life has to offer, just like you guys and if I can help in any way just pm me and i'll be around. yours truly
scorpiolove.

If he makes you feel uncomfortable then you should stop being his friend and move on to enjoy your new life.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I am considering ending my friendship with him and wearing my toupee and moving on with my life.

You know what to do.

In life, there are many many people who will try to hold you back, who will resent your success.
They are not your allies. You must be prepared to move on, and make no apologies for it.

 

[uncomfortable man]

All very good advice. How does it feel being treated like a human being again? I bet it must feel like a ton of weight off your shoulders.

 

[Primo]

You know what to do.

In life, there are many many people who will try to hold you back, who will resent your success.
They are not your allies. You must be prepared to move on, and make no apologies for it.

I agree 100% with this, certain friends will be delighted for you and your new found happiness, confidence and success, whilst others will always be resentful, bitter and envious of you. unless of course, you remain comfortably below them in the social pecking order. You need to shake off the later type of friends as quickly and vigorously as possible.

I can relate as I have witnessed a similar divide with my group of friends as we have grown older through our 20s towards our 30s. When it comes to being happy and successful in life and with women, some of them have become so bitter and resentful over the years it's actually laughable and pretty pathetic.

 

[bald29]

I can't believe it,but I've had a change of heart about hair loss lately, I got a hair piece about a month ago and it really changed my appearance dramatically. I'm talking from looking 39 years old to looking 20 something years old.
I even put my pic up on the internet on different sites and it was hit city. People treated me differently, the new pic I took with my hair piece was one of my best so far.
I even went outside with it once, It was a new experience,
I have been balding since I was 16 years old,and my battle ended for a while at the age of 28 when I got the horseshoe hairline. I thought I had my dads baldness at first but I thought again when I went norwood 6 a few years later. My dad only had a slightly receeding hairline and a little bald spot at the back.
Back to my story, I have been extremely depressed because I took my hair piece off and I look like an old douche again. I did this because I have a trifling *** friend who would laugh at me if he saw me with my toupee on, he's bald himself but he still manages to get all the women, he resents my financial success in life because I came from an impoverished background and now he calls me a baller because I never seem to go broke, it just sucks to be broke because people treat you like a piece of **** when you have no money.
I am considering ending my friendship with him and wearing my toupee and moving on with my life. I know this sounds funny but I am exhausted leading this double hair life. Any opinions or advice on what I should do would be appreciated.
I never knew hair loss at this level before and I sincerly apologize to anyone who read my old posts and got offended, I meant to be helpful or humorous and I came off like an a**h** so for that I apologize. I read a lot of your posts on here, some made me laugh in relation because I can totally relate to some of your posts and replies and others made me hurt inside because of lost hope and not leading the life you want to lead because of hair loss.
just like most of you on here I want the right woman in my life and all that life has to offer, just like you guys and if I can help in any way just pm me and i'll be around. yours truly
scorpiolove.

How long has he been a friend? And how old are you? Letting go of negative friendships is one of the things you will have to do soon or late in this life. It doesn't have to be dramatic though, you can just reduce the frequency of getting together. I have many people in my life that were closer before, but I know they are negative, so now we just get together for a drink once a month at most. That way, they don't have time to affect your life with their negativeness, but you can still enjoy some time together, while you decide if you want to reduce that frequency further or not see them anymore at all.

 

[SayifDoit]

You seem to have a a lot of money why not see how a hair transplant would suit you?
You seem pretty far gone as it is, but hey you never know how good it could look.

 

[scorpiolove]

Thanks for the replies K Pat, Addicted to soft drinks, Captain Forehead and Primo and everyone else, you guys have a lot of good valid opinions and I appreciate them very kindly. I don't feel so alone anymore in my thoughts and I thank you for that. To Uc Man, being treated like a human again puts a tremendous weight off my shoulders people look me straight in the eyes when they conversate with me instead of looking at my stupid hat or bald forehead. You get more respect from the females too. People are so shallow when it comes to people with hair loss. P.S. I remember you from years ago on here when I first joined this site,and it is crude how people in public treat you because of your hair loss, it's heartless and your twice the person that they will ever be because you care for people and you have something they truly lack called empathy.To say if do itand bald 29 I will get back to you on my next reply.

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To Say If Do It I will be a norwood 7 in the next ten years and thats if i'm lucky, A hair transplant would be a waste unfortunately,but I wish I could get a hair transplant. To Bald 29, I am 39 years old and I have been friends with my friend on and off since I was 16 years old,its been too long of a friendship and I hope people can learn from my mistakes in this matter. It's painful to realize how many mistakes you make once you get older. Before my friend came back from tin buck two, I was doing good in life,I had a black belt in karate and I dreamt of that since I was 16 and got it accomplished when I was 27. When I was 28 things went down hill for me. My friend of burden called me one day when I was drinking one day and being stupid, I started hanging out with him again and started drinking more, now at 39 I want to quit drinking,because of physical and mental health reasons.If I could go back in time I would of went to University and stopped drinking and smoking so much weed. Now I take prescription pills and my mental illness has become a sick career of sorts. I know how to save money and thats one of the only things that has helped me survive for so long. Sorry for ranting for so long, I just hope that you guys can learn from my mistakes and dont put the burden on yourselves,life is too short

 

[2bald2young]

I can relate as I have witnessed a similar divide with my group of friends as we have grown older through our 20s towards our 30s. When it comes to being happy and successful in life and with women, some of them have become so bitter and resentful over the years it's actually laughable and pretty pathetic.

Weird comment, you don't why they have become like that and you are now doing the same thing as society does to bald people, finding people pathetic and laughable because they are not successful. While they have reasons to feel that way and that are reasons you don't know and maybe can't understand. I have become very bitter in my life but not just for the lolz if you think that, life really beat the s*** out of me.

As for the OP I would like to say that I am in the same boat (exactly even worse) as you. Instead of 16 & pregnant we have a show called 16 & balding. As a friendly warning, please have a plan when someone who knows you only with a hairpaice finds out that you are bald, people can be really hard.

 

[swingline747]

well judging by the way you make him sound Id be careful in public with him regardless as he seems like the type who would yank it off in a bar to be an a hole while passing it off as joking.

 

[Primo]

Weird comment, you don't why they have become like that and you are now doing the same thing as society does to bald people, finding people pathetic and laughable because they are not successful. While they have reasons to feel that way and that are reasons you don't know and maybe can't understand. I have become very bitter in my life but not just for the lolz if you think that, life really beat the s*** out of me.

No, I think you misunderstood, it's their ulltra-chippy and bitter attitude towards myself and other friends that I find pathetic and laughable, as well as the way they b**ch and sh&t on other friends behind their back, belittle and put friends down in public for no reason. Nothing to do with their lack of success, we're supposed to be friends remember, if anything I want them to be as happy and successful as possible. My case is probably quite an extreme one, lol, but I think everyone has an a$$hole friend like that who they tolerate for years simply because they go way back and click very well in between all the bs, my point is if that friend can't accept how you look, or how happy and successful you are (in the OPs case wearing his new piece) then it's definitely time to get rid of them.