Life can be very tricky sometimes.. take care.

[I_Hate_DHT]

Well, last year I had thinning hair, to the point that I had to shave it off, to not look ridicolous. So, I wore a shaved head during all 2005.

The funny thing is that I still got laid and dated girls.

This year things got better with Finas, so I leave it 1 to 2 inches long, and wear a decent looking haircut.

Now, here comes the crazy thing, I date no girls since I have good hair again. ZERO :hairy: Only one girl in the beginning of this year, and it was when I still had a shaved head!!! How can you explain this??? It's just crazy. The only girl I had with normal hair, is my right hand. :lol:

Let me also tell you that all girls told me that I looked like a 30 years old with a shaved head (I am 25)

Now, that I have hair again, girls tell me that I am my age, 25. And that I look younger than when I had shaved head.

I can say I look like a badboy with shaved head. But I preffer myself wearing normal hair like I have now. I don't like looking like a badboy. Just shaved it to not look ridicolous because of my thinning spots, not because I wanted to look like a badboy.

So, what's the deal here?

We complain that we don't have hair to get girls. But when we get hair again, we don't get girls...

SO?

However, today I am in a good mood, but tomorrow I will probably start bitching again about how hairloss affect my social life with girls. :lol:

Let's discuss.

 

[CCS]

interesting post.

stay on finasteride and shave your head again. go get them tiger, and tell us how it goes.

 

[IBM]

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[I_Hate_DHT]

why you change girl? One girl isnt enough? i dont understand these people. one week one girl.

I had a relationship with a woman for 7 (seven) years. And I am young.

And no, I'm not that kind of guy who gets a lot of girls. I wish I could be one of those, but I'm not.

What I mean with "I dated girls" is that I went out with a girl few times and it didn't work to keep it going. Not sure If I am clear. And few months after you know another girls and again. But still could get something. Now with hair, nothing. ZERO.

Greetings.

 

[maroon]

I found this post comforting. Thx man

I don't think i'll need to shave my head if I get on the meds - but I think I could pull off the shaved look if it came to that.

Glad to hear about your success - it's probably better that way around. Cos you can always CHOOSE to not have hair.

Good stuff.

 

[templemonk]

wasup guys.
im22 i'd like to say i had pretty good times with ladies before i started losing hair around my temple area... since i found out ihave male pattern baldness kicked in my system, i shaved everything down. i play basketball so i can pull that basketball player look for now with my shaved head. but now i start noticing bald spots even if i shave it. since the beginning of hairloss, my social life is on its downhill... more than people noticing, its me that getting paranoid and being insecure.
i am in a casual relationship with a girl right now and she keeps asking me to grow my hair back..she says she liked my spiked hair alot. :cry: yeah so did i.(she doesnt know that im suffering from male pattern baldness)
i just tell her that it's hot and i like shaved head.. she says okay.. it doesnt look that bad but i should grow it out when it gets cold.
summer is almost gone and maybe im trippin but i think people start noticing my receded hairline. man.. this is killing me.. i think she'll think she has the upperhand over me once she finds out that im losing myhair and leave me eventually. i try to forget and tell myself that girls ain't shiett.. but man.. im 22 i wanna date lots of girls and more than anythinig.. i wanna have good looking hair at least till my wedding day.
i dont wanna be bald on my wedding with tux on.. that looks ridiculous

 

[Guest]

temple monk, what did you mean by:

but now i start noticing bald spots even if i shave it.

if your hair is shaved all your head is bald isn´t it? Do you have pictures? You should really get on the big 3. I have read that you worry about sides which might influence your sex life, but if you do nothing you hair loss will influence your sex life anyways.

 

[templemonk]

when i say that i mean cuz i dont shave it with knife i just shave it down with a clipper.. even with 0 cutter, it still leaves visible hair lines (maybe 1mm) girls even care about sexy front hair lines when guys shave down their head.. thats how much they care about looks. thats the only reason guys try to hard. to get them and get laid! (well, for now) i'll post pics soon. when i get my finasteride batch. life sux with losing hair... i told my friends about it.. and the sad thing was they didn't even make fun of me about it cuz they knew it would hurtme.. (we make fun of each other about everything all the time) that hurt me in very weird way (im cryin either way.. fawk!) i better not let this $hit hold my back...

 

[Guest]

we all feel the same pain when we are losing hair. It is so sad..... :cry:
But if you are at the early stages of balding you should grow out your hair, since like that your thinning is less noticeable. Look at this guy:
http://www.gourmetstylewellness.com/discussions ... hp?t=27158

When you see him with short hair he is obviously balding. Page 7 has pics two months later with longer hair. It looks MUCH better and is hardly noticeable for many untrained eyes.

 

[templemonk]

maybe hes a good responder to finasteride..
i wish i am too.. i wish all of you guy are.. so we can congr eachother.

 

[SheddingVic]

but if you do nothing you hair loss will influence your sex life anyways.

Sorry dude, I'd have to disagree. I shaved my head down to #1 last summer and was still getting laid every week by different hot girls... few of which are models. This is what I don't understand, why stay on a drug that could forever alter your sex drive? Why? A fe wof my friends shave their heads with a razor and still get whichever girls they want all the time! It's all about your attitude and self-confidence!!!!

 

[templemonk]

shaving your head is considered doing something about your hair loss.
isn't it?

 

[person_123]

hairloss affects people in different ways.

right now, even if a girl is interested in me, or i have a chance, i shy away from that chance, because i'm scared that if she somehow see's me leave the shower, or on a rainy day, or under intense light, she'll see my thinning hair, and laugh at me, castrate me and crucify me.

of course, this wont happen, but our mind's play tricks on us, and makes us believe things are worse than they really are.

in reality, girls may make jokes about bald guys when they see one, but if they date one, they might realise how wonderfully testosterone filled in bed he is, and once they go bald, they can't go back.

in our minds though, balding people tend to think, "i'm balding, therefore i'm ugly, therefore i'm never going to get laid again". if they happen to nearly get laid, they'll think something like "oh sh*t, if i go down on her and she looks down, what if she see's my thinning hair?" or when they're having sex they may think "what if she runs her hair through my head and feels minoxidil residue? or feels scalp!!!"

in reality it goes something more like: girl think "oh god this feels so good... don't stop" or "if being bald makes him f*** like this, i'm going to pull out all his hair NOW!"

it's great if you can still get girls while losing hair. but reality is, that most guys just aren't confident enough. some guys aren't confident enough even with a thick full head of hair, imagine those guys (i'm not saying i am or am not one of them) losing hair as well.

i guess i went on a bit of a rant. male pattern baldness sucks. we need a cure, that's the jist of it.

 

[Guest]

hairloss affects people in different ways.

right now, even if a girl is interested in me, or i have a chance, i shy away from that chance, because i'm scared that if she somehow see's me leave the shower, or on a rainy day, or under intense light, she'll see my thinning hair, and laugh at me, castrate me and crucify me.

of course, this wont happen, but our mind's play tricks on us, and makes us believe things are worse than they really are.

in reality, girls may make jokes about bald guys when they see one, but if they date one, they might realise how wonderfully testosterone filled in bed he is, and once they go bald, they can't go back.

in our minds though, balding people tend to think, "i'm balding, therefore i'm ugly, therefore i'm never going to get laid again". if they happen to nearly get laid, they'll think something like "oh $#iT, if i go down on her and she looks down, what if she see's my thinning hair?" or when they're having sex they may think "what if she runs her hair through my head and feels minoxidil residue? or feels scalp!!!"

in reality it goes something more like: girl think "oh god this feels so good... don't stop" or "if being bald makes him f*** like this, i'm going to pull out all his hair NOW!"

it's great if you can still get girls while losing hair. but reality is, that most guys just aren't confident enough. some guys aren't confident enough even with a thick full head of hair, imagine those guys (i'm not saying i am or am not one of them) losing hair as well.

i guess i went on a bit of a rant. male pattern baldness sucks. we need a cure, that's the jist of it.

That´s what is happening to me ..... Oh and don´t worry I have enjoyed your recent posts. Ranting is ok and I personally agree with many of the things you have said. :cry:

 

[s.a.f]

Sorry to burst your bubble here but being a bald guy does not make you any more of a stud than a hairy guy. We dont have more testosterone than ordinary men its just that our hair follicles are not resilient to DHT like most guys follicles are.
I'm also afraid to report that although some women dont mind the bald/balding look the vast majority would choose a man with hair. Some guys manage to look ok without hair but not many can pull off this look.
This problem eats away at your confidence (women like men to have confidence) and can easily make you paranoid. This in turn also has a negative effect on your pulling power.
Sorry to give such a negative post but I'm just stating a few harsh truths here.

 

[IBM]

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[biglemoncoke]

problem is, i am only 18, hadn't had much girls yet. lately just stay home everyday. if i had my highschool hair back, i would go out clubbing and stuff...sucks to be balding

 

[JayB]

Let me give you a quote from my ex girlfriend. When we were playing around after she was relaying a story to me which had been relayed to her from a guy, i started teasing her about flirting with another guy..she got all cute and defensive and said "ewww noo he wasnt even cute ..his hairline was even receding"

OUCH. This is how most girls think when they are younger. The older they get, the more common degrees of hair loss get and it becomes a little more acceptable to be rededing...sometimes even slightly distinguished. I dont mean BALD, i mean receding. But in your 20's...most men still have their hairlines and hair so most girls in the same age range just find men who are receding as looking "old" for their age and unnatractive.

 

[CCS]

interesting. a nw1.5 might be just as attractive as a nw1, but since women are used to one or the other, maybe the prefer the ones they are used to seeing? I doubt an older woman would turn down a nw1, though. And I know 18 year olds who date guys in their late twenties. It seems that looks and money are the bigger factors. My hair right now looks like a nw1.5 diffuse in a nw2 patern, though it will fill in soon. I still want to be a nw1, though.