mr p's story

[mr p]

I am a hair piece wearer, it is the latest (cyber hair) I have always had
comments like, is that your own hair, is it stuck on.
have been called wiggy on many ocasion.
I have got so self consious over the years i have been wearing it, is making me feel ill. I have been so embarassed some times ive felt like there is no end in site.

I am thinking of taking it of after 23yrs being with false hair. my work mates and freinds have only seen me with my hair, Also my wife has only seen me like this, although she new it was not my own hair. I have only
recently spoken to my wife about it as it was a taboo subject. she has told me to speek to a cyco therapest and try and explain how i feel.

I no it is not goig to be easy, has i have a bit of scaring from grafts i had in the front of my head, Ive also got a bit of hair down the sides & back.

I feel like i want to be free and be my self, shave wot hair ive got,
Any one else been in this posision as it is hell of a turning point , also is there any thing i can do about my grafts, like scalp make up.

help from any one would be apresieated.

ps: ive lost all my confidence please help :age 48

 

[Trent]

here's what i recommend. first of all, you're not alone, although maybe not to your degree, we all feel that loss of confidence associated with looking different than we used to on top. 50 percent of all men have hairloss by the time they are your age, so its not like if you took off your wig you would look like some freak, you would look like half the other men out there. secondly, there are places out there that do grafts of "other people's hair" its called "hair club for men" here in the states. i know some people that use it, and it looks very natural, in fact a friend of mine's dad had it done and i didn't even know about it until the friend told me. and this guy was completely bald. and the good news is, its not a piece, its real hair growing, just not your own and you have to get it dyed like once every two months from what i understand. this would eliminate the need for you to have a piece and it would cover up any scars that you might have. i know you can get it wet, wash, it, etc, its basically like having real hair.

if that's not your style, and you just want to be free and be yourself, go see a plastic surgeon about scar removal. i know a lot can be done in that field, and you could wait until that surgery is complete to take off the hair piece. if that still isn't for you, i guess that you just have to learn that there are more important things in life than how you look. you have a wife that obviously doesn't care about that sort of thing if she knew you when you still had a wig, and just walk around with your head high. i can't promise you people won't make comments, but how is that different than everyother smartass remark you hear from people that really don't mean anything, its just those people trying to deal with their own insecurities. so you have to face it with a bit of humor and people will back off. Oh? so you took off your wig huh? Yup, i just decided it wasn't for me anymore. its as simple as that. go see a pscyhologist who specializes in this stuff to help you face the new change, i bet they will help you with the perspective side of things. Just keep your chin up. Watch some of the footage of the tsunami in Sri Lanka if you need some perspecitve, there are children there who lost their entire families and all their belongings in an instant. and they didn't even have it that good to begin with. best of luck, keep us posted on your decisions!