realization about baldness

[Exodus2011]

during my midnight ruminations on baldness, ive realized something about my obsession with getting a girl

really i care more about getting a girl now because i dont want to be bald on top of being alone. getting a girlfriends main purpose wud be for validation

besides if i got a gf i dont really think id like it tbh. not the way i am now. i wud just be insecure about her leaving me for a nw1 and scared of having her put my pic on facebook

what i really think would make me happier is a cool intelligent bald brotha in real life to hang out with, drink with and get close to

someone like fred the belgian i cud actually RELATE to instead of just feel a rift with like my normal norwood 1 friends

between that and weed id think id be pretty happy just screwing escorts

 

[Travalanche]

I'm glad I'm not the only one on here who doesn't post a picture on Facebook. Balding has made me very reclusive to the point of almost being a ghost. Drinking is the only thing that cures my self-pity but only for as long as the effects last.

 

[bald29]

during my midnight ruminations on baldness, ive realized something about my obsession with getting a girl

really i care more about getting a girl now because i dont want to be bald on top of being alone. getting a girlfriends main purpose wud be for validation

besides if i got a gf i dont really think id like it tbh. not the way i am now. i wud just be insecure about her leaving me for a nw1 and scared of having her put my pic on facebook

what i really think would make me happier is a cool intelligent bald brotha in real life to hang out with, drink with and get close to

someone like fred the belgian i cud actually RELATE to instead of just feel a rift with like my normal norwood 1 friends

between that and weed id think id be pretty happy just screwing escorts

Maybe your friends are a problem because you can't relate to them, independently of baldness. I also feel like I need new friends, but not because of baldness, it's just because people change.

But on the other hand, baldness makes us mature faster; we learn we are not inmortal faster than other young people, and with that comes a lot of other realizations that make us see life in a different way. Sometimes I feel that I can relate better to people a few years older, as they have also realized their own mortality for a variety of reasons and have a different approach to life.

 

[Hairbackpls]

I too need some bald bros to hang out, chat and play games with. Friends from foreign countries would be nice. Could visit their place and hang out with.

 

[nikko]

I m not sure if this is serious, in case it s not well then whatever, in case it is well, the following :

C mon guys this is way too extreme. Balding is crap and it affects our confidence and our lives indeed, but jesus you can t let it influence it totally! By my side I REFUSE to let it destroy my life!

I mean what do you want to do, create the "bald gang"and cry days and nights? In this way you are just ghettoizing yourself. And in this way the people will give it more importance and pity you.

Don t misunderstand me, I feel you. We are all in the same situation here, so I understand, but you have to stand up mate. See it as a chance to improve other aspects of your life, your body, hobbies, interests, be more outgoing, whatever you want. You will have to rely on them, be more interesting from now on if you are such an ugly fella without hair. Besides they will keep you busy and occupied so you won t think about your baldness.

 

[bald29]

I m not sure if this is serious, in case it s not well then whatever, in case it is well, the following :

C mon guys this is way too extreme. Balding is crap and it affects our confidence and our lives indeed, but jesus you can t let it influence it totally! By my side I REFUSE to let it destroy my life!

I mean what do you want to do, create the "bald gang"and cry days and nights? In this way you are just ghettoizing yourself. And in this way the people will give it more importance and pity you.

Don t misunderstand me, I feel you. We are all in the same situation here, so I understand, but you have to stand up mate. See it as a chance to improve other aspects of your life, your body, hobbies, interests, be more outgoing, whatever you want. You will have to rely on them, be more interesting from now on if you are such an ugly fella without hair. Besides they will keep you busy and occupied so you won t think about your baldness.

You're probably not bald and young... The difference between having hair and not having it is huge... Improving on other aspects of your life, being more outgoing, new hobbies, etc. works but only temporarily, at the end of the day a bald and young guy is still an ugly freak, most likely lonely.

The only solution is to have hair, really. Yesterday I was thinking, 'what would I do if I had 6 months of life left?'... And the first thing I'd do is get a quality hair system, because that's the only way to start getting the most of my life tomorrow. I'm involved in other treatments now but they take time, of course.

By the way, now that my hair is growing due to the meds, and my hairline is starting to look better, I can see the difference in the way women treat me again. Today I went to the doctor because I felt sick, I was sitting there, tired, not wanting to talk to anyone, and a girl came and sat right next to me (even though I was alone in the area and she had all other seats available), and kept smiling at me while trying to make conversation (my bald crown wasn't visible as I was against a wall). Another girl then sat in front of me and looked at me and smiled, and asked me then some lame question. Both girls were 6-7s. I could sense the interest in both of them but I didn't feel like talking to them. I never ever got that kind of attention --effortless-- in my 2 years without medication and my NW5 shaved head.

So basically a sick, tired guy who doesn't want to talk to anyone but has hair is much better than a bald guy who is outgoing, fun, and has a great personality. True story. I'm noticing the difference day by day, the way women are treating me as my hairline improves.

 

[2bald2young]

You're probably not bald and young... The difference between having hair and not having it is huge... Improving on other aspects of your life, being more outgoing, new hobbies, etc. works but only temporarily, at the end of the day a bald and young guy is still an ugly freak, most likely lonely.

The only solution is to have hair, really. Yesterday I was thinking, 'what would I do if I had 6 months of life left?'... And the first thing I'd do is get a quality hair system, because that's the only way to start getting the most of my life tomorrow. I'm involved in other treatments now but they take time, of course.

By the way, now that my hair is growing due to the meds, and my hairline is starting to look better, I can see the difference in the way women treat me again. Today I went to the doctor because I felt sick, I was sitting there, tired, not wanting to talk to anyone, and a girl came and sat right next to me (even though I was alone in the area and she had all other seats available), and kept smiling at me while trying to make conversation (my bald crown wasn't visible as I was against a wall). Another girl then sat in front of me and looked at me and smiled, and asked me then some lame question. Both girls were 6-7s. I could sense the interest in both of them but I didn't feel like talking to them. I never ever got that kind of attention --effortless-- in my 2 years without medication and my NW5 shaved head.

So basically a sick, tired guy who doesn't want to talk to anyone but has hair is much better than a bald guy who is outgoing, fun, and has a great personality. True story. I'm noticing the difference day by day, the way women are treating me as my hairline improves.

Dude it's amazing news that your hairline is improving!

 

[FlopTurnRiver]

besides if i got a gf i dont really think id like it tbh. not the way i am now. i wud just be insecure about her leaving me for a nw1 and scared of having her put my pic on facebook

I'm glad I'm not the only one on here who doesn't post a picture on Facebook. Balding has made me very reclusive to the point of almost being a ghost. Drinking is the only thing that cures my self-pity but only for as long as the effects last.

The last time I allowed a picture of myself to be posted was a few years ago when I had a full head of hair. The above is one of the biggest things that I hate about people. I know this effeminate beta guy who is trigger and upload happy with his camera wherever he goes. He took a [I'm sure intentionally bad] picture of me once and uploaded it without asking me and wouldn't remove it when I realized. I got extremely angry and confronted him, forcing him to remove it. It's this very reason why I don't go to places with people who always take pictures and upload them. The idea that a group of men would take pictures of themselves eating or for any other mundane task repulses me and is not fitting of a masculine man.

However you can't stop women from doing this. Women are inherently narcissistic and social media exists for them a way to fight for attention; get validation from the tide of thirsty men and to make their females friends jealous of them. They have perfected the art of making themselves artificially look better in pictures and they employ all types of techniques such as camera angles, lighting and filters etc. One of the other ways women make themselves look better is by intentionally standing next to a more ugly or fatter woman so relative to her she looks much better. That's why you see so many women who have a fat/ugly 'bestie' in their profile pictures. I believe this also extends to men. Women want to take pictures with balding men that look bad for two reasons. One is to make themselves look better but this isn't the main reason. Taking pictures with balding men (that she feels are far beneath her in value) shows the world that she has an army of beta orbiters and pussy polishers that she is in command of and at her disposal.

 

[hellouser]

I'm glad I'm not the only one on here who doesn't post a picture on Facebook. Balding has made me very reclusive to the point of almost being a ghost. Drinking is the only thing that cures my self-pity but only for as long as the effects last.

Isn't it comforting that our tax dollars are working SO well for researchers 'working' for the past 40 years on a solution to baldness?

Great progress, huh?

 

[nikko]

You're probably not bald and young... The difference between having hair and not having it is huge... Improving on other aspects of your life, being more outgoing, new hobbies, etc. works but only temporarily, at the end of the day a bald and young guy is still an ugly freak, most likely lonely.

The only solution is to have hair, really. Yesterday I was thinking, 'what would I do if I had 6 months of life left?'... And the first thing I'd do is get a quality hair system, because that's the only way to start getting the most of my life tomorrow. I'm involved in other treatments now but they take time, of course.

By the way, now that my hair is growing due to the meds, and my hairline is starting to look better, I can see the difference in the way women treat me again. Today I went to the doctor because I felt sick, I was sitting there, tired, not wanting to talk to anyone, and a girl came and sat right next to me (even though I was alone in the area and she had all other seats available), and kept smiling at me while trying to make conversation (my bald crown wasn't visible as I was against a wall). Another girl then sat in front of me and looked at me and smiled, and asked me then some lame question. Both girls were 6-7s. I could sense the interest in both of them but I didn't feel like talking to them. I never ever got that kind of attention --effortless-- in my 2 years without medication and my NW5 shaved head.

So basically a sick, tired guy who doesn't want to talk to anyone but has hair is much better than a bald guy who is outgoing, fun, and has a great personality. True story. I'm noticing the difference day by day, the way women are treating me as my hairline improves.

I am 23 and I am balding, so you are wrong about that.
I ve never said that a bald dude with interesting and with great personality is better looking than a guy with a full head of hair. Hair is better than no hair. Those are undeniable facts.
I just said that we are balding, dot. We are fighting it. That s how we are and it s evident how it annoys us to be balding, this is why why re on finasteride/minoxidil or whatever you are on.

Stated this, right now we can t rely much on our hair. So we have to find out something else to rely on. And I am the first one who was relying mainly on his appearance for the success of his social and sexual life. Now this is changing and I am pretty frustrated for it, cause I do not know what I am going to do, even if my situation is not that bad and I hope to grew some hair back.

But I don t want it to ruin my life, I m still good at hockey and I hope I will not be kicked out cause of me balding, I have been successful with girls and I will not settle down for a 5-6 just cause I am losing my hair, I don t want to change group of friends just because they re full of hair and they can t understand me,...

I mean I don t know you, but I would t like to be/be know as the bald/balding sad, boring, fat, fearful,.... guy. This is the reason why I was saying that we gotta find something else like new"hobbies,.." to be more interesting

But not grudges mate, I totally respect your point of view.

 

[bald29]

I am 23 and I am balding, so you are wrong about that.
I ve never said that a bald dude with interesting and with great personality is better looking than a guy with a full head of hair. Hair is better than no hair. Those are undeniable facts.
I just said that we are balding, dot. We are fighting it. That s how we are and it s evident how it annoys us to be balding, this is why why re on finasteride/minoxidil or whatever you are on.

Stated this, right now we can t rely much on our hair. So we have to find out something else to rely on. And I am the first one who was relying mainly on his appearance for the success of his social and sexual life. Now this is changing and I am pretty frustrated for it, cause I do not know what I am going to do, even if my situation is not that bad and I hope to grew some hair back.

But I don t want it to ruin my life, I m still good at hockey and I hope I will not be kicked out cause of me balding, I have been successful with girls and I will not settle down for a 5-6 just cause I am losing my hair, I don t want to change group of friends just because they re full of hair and they can t understand me,...

I mean I don t know you, but I would t like to be/be know as the bald/balding sad, boring, fat, fearful,.... guy. This is the reason why I was saying that we gotta find something else like new"hobbies,.." to be more interesting

But not grudges mate, I totally respect your point of view.

That's a good analysis, and I agree with having to improve, but I just don't think that solves the issue in a better way than actually getting hair somehow. And believe me, I have hobbies, I also play sports (semi pro football), I don't think I'm boring, I make solid money for a 20 something, I show confidence, make girls laugh, etc. but at the end of the day most of them don't date bald guys. You may find one but it's literally like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Now when it looks like I have good hair, I only need to sit there, and even with a face of "please don't bother me" I get attention.

But again, I agree with not ruining your life, I'm glad that in my case even with 2 years struggling with girls I still kept in shape, progressed in my career, and enjoyed many things. But we have to remain aware of the importance of having hair in the dating world.

Dude it's amazing news that your hairline is improving!

Thanks Crown is still bad though, hopefully this will change soon. Tomorrow I'm starting my 5th month of treatment, so let's see what happens

Taking pictures with balding men (that she feels are far beneath her in value) shows the world that she has an army of beta orbiters and pussy polishers that she is in command of and at her disposal.

So accurate... I have a female friend who does this, always posting pictures with this completely bald guy... She obviously has an NW1 boyfriend, and the bald guy is totally and shamefully friend-zoned.

 

[slipy]

someone like fred the belgian i cud actually RELATE to instead of just feel a rift with like my normal norwood 1 friends

how much do you socialize with your nw1 friends?
i've made it a conscious effort to minimize my interactions with normal***s to a considerable extent. i get nothing positive out of it, just grief. there's too much that sets apart me and healthy, non deformed, non traumatized folks. i could never again be one of them, not after all that's happened to me.

 

[Parise]

what i really think would make me happier is hair

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[scorpiolove]

during my midnight ruminations on baldness, ive realized something about my obsession with getting a girl

really i care more about getting a girl now because i dont want to be bald on top of being alone. getting a girlfriends main purpose wud be for validation

besides if i got a gf i dont really think id like it tbh. not the way i am now. i wud just be insecure about her leaving me for a nw1 and scared of having her put my pic on facebook

what i really think would make me happier is a cool intelligent bald brotha in real life to hang out with, drink with and get close to

someone like fred the belgian i cud actually RELATE to instead of just feel a rift with like my normal norwood 1 friends

between that and weed id think id be pretty happy just screwing escorts

You should join the schlock posse! No love, just sex, is the rule!
I think society puts too much pressure on people getting married and having kids,its all propaganda! They say the world is overpopulated and half of all marriages end up in divorce. Why put yourself through that when we can have a bucket of chicken smoke some weed and have sex with female escorts all day and all night.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

You should join the schlock posse! No love, just sex, is the rule!
I think society puts too much pressure on people getting married and having kids,its all propaganda! They say the world is overpopulated and half of all marriages end up in divorce. Why put yourself through that when we can have a bucket of chicken smoke some weed and have sex with female escorts all day and all night.

I would imagine that this would get pretty expensive.

 

[Deadman1]

Balding is crap and it affects our confidence and our lives indeed, but jesus you can t let it influence it totally! By my side I REFUSE to let it destroy my life!

Unfortunately you have no choice in the matter. You think all the guys here are simply making this stuff up?

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I have been successful with girls and I will not settle down for a 5-6 just cause I am losing my hair, I don t want to change group of friends just because they re full of hair and they can t understand me,...

With continued hair loss these things will take care of themselves. You won't be able to get a 5 or a 6. You won't even be able to get a 3 or 4. Your friends with full heads of hair will abandon you as chicks wonder what is wrong with them for having a bald friend.

 

[swingline747]

You know I repeatedly say that we need to make it so we can get balding operations and meds covered by insurance due to mental anguish.

Im not afraid to get loud about it. I see all these fatsos getting nearly free surgery top to bottom yet we have to pay out the *** for it.

Watch, as soon as insurance is forced to cover it I BET youll see a REAL cure.

Im willing to make this part of the website/kickstarter.

I keep saying complain or actually make something positive from it all. I Would so this all on my own but I am REALLY super busy and would need truly devoted people helping

 

[uncomfortable man]

I think there is a case to be made in our defense. Its all about the delivery though. We must submit solid evidence that supports our claim that baldness is causing emotional/mental anguish. Most bald men silently suffer as they know they have no recourse. But there is always the discrepancy in cost and complications between the two proceedures. In other words its easier to get the fat sucked out of them than it is to have multiple hair transplant visits.

 

[swingline747]

I think there is a case to be made in our defense. Its all about the delivery though. We must submit solid evidence that supports our claim that baldness is causing emotional/mental anguish. Most bald men silently suffer as they know they have no recourse. But there is always the discrepancy in cost and complications between the two proceedures. In other words its easier to get the fat sucked out of them than it is to have multiple hair transplant visits.

Lipo isnt covered by insurance, its the lap band and stapling surgery.
Either way, they claim that its because being a fatty fatty fat kid is bad for their health. Let alone most people who get the surgery actually GO BACK to being over weight after a year.
If someone wanted to be healthy then they would manually work on it. Usually they do have to prove they will change their eating habits and lose weight before being approved so I think this same situation should pertain to us. Losing your hair is horribly detrimental to mental health. If you have tried minoxidil and finasteride with no improvement, your surgery should be partially covered.

I KNOW as soon as this happens a "cure" will pop out of the wood work.

 

[scorpiolove]

Swingline and uncomfortable man, we have a winner! We should name our disorder B.A.D.
Bald Anziety Disorder, and get free meds and cash for ourselves and our families. It's a real disorder,as we all know, why would a group of bald people band together so vigilantly and often if it was "just in our heads"
Baldness negatively affects us physically, mentally, psychologically, socially, sexually etc, and it also affects peoples perception of us. I say it's worse than a lot of other disorders in psychology,lets make it work!