Running Out Of Hair Style Options, Even Shaving, Is The Worst (rant)

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[Roberto_72]

One of biggest issues that I've struggled to deal with from balding is having to figure out how the hairloss pattern you have will affect which styles you're still able to do. Things like skin tone, head shape, facial features, facial hair, etc are given a lot of attention, but I think one of the most underestimated factors that impacts whether one still looks decent or bad is the way that their balding pattern works. Regular receding hairlines may not be not great, but at least there some hairstyles that some guys can still do so that they can hide their balding. Even lots of guys with the thinning crown when the hair on the crown is thinning still have different ways to try to work around that with concealing or minimizing it.

I probably have one of the worst possible hair loss patterns out there. It's the kind where the hairline's receded backwards and the recession meets in the middle and then stops there, but you're left with that island patch of hair of in the front where no matter what hair style you try to do it looks bad. It basically makes any hairstyle impossible to do and no attempt to make it look somewhat decent makes it unnoticeable.

It started in my teens and got to the point where I'm at now a few years ago, and has basically stopped progressing further. I wasn't too freaked out about balding when it started since I figured I could just shave it when it got bad. I tried doing that, but even with shaving the island of hair in the front still shows. Most guys with the full horseshoe or even diffuse thinning still have shaving it down to the skin as a passable option, but when I tried doing that the island in front still stands out and now I look like I'm holding onto the little amount I have like a comb-over. It's ridiculous.

I have always thought that the worst thing of hairloss is that the damage in terms of looks is not proportional to the quantitative loss of hair. It is way larger.

If you lose 20% of the superficies of your hair, you do not lose 20% of how your hair looks. You lose 40% of the amenability of your hair, if not more.

If you think about, it is one of the few defects that have this "multiplication" effect.

The "island" you mention is a very bad thing, looks-wise. If you comb it backwards, your temples look totally empty. If you comb it sideways, the emptiness behind the island itself will be visible.

There is nothing to do when your hair takes becomes difficult to style. You have to keep it short and invest in a transplant.

Take this example:

How many square inches - centimeters do these pictures differ in terms of hair coverage? Yet, the first photo depicts a god, the second a normal guy.

 

[Roberto_72]

I would kill for even the normal guy’s hairline….

I think huge part of being perceived as an attractive guy is not only about looks, but a lot of the things that are associated with looking conventionally good and which are supposed to be complimentary to that. Like girls think confident guys are attractive usually because they’re confident because their attractive so they act confident which girls find attractive etc etc etc

Like a way that a guy can get away with shaving his head is if he does it and looks like he is moved on with his life, so he conveys something like confident nonchalance or not being a pushover, even though a guy with hair would probably be considered more attractive anyway.

The problem with shaving my head is that you not only can still tell I’m balding, but the way the island sticks out makes it totally obvious I’m trying to disguise it by keeping it shaved down like other balding guys typically do.

On top of that it’s a funny looking hair loss pattern, so I feel like anything I’m trying to do to still look confident like shaving it is like I look I’m overcompensating for the island patch or that I'm trying to rock the look or something. Things like growing a beard, getting tan or lifting don't hide the island, and I’m worried that it would just make me look like a desperate tool or something due to the style handicap. Now that everyone I know has seen me with the shaved head after wearing hats all the time my friends keep making jokes about me like that.

Do you know how to recognize someone who looks good with a shaved head?
Just look at this who HAVE a shaved head. Usually they are those who are continuing the "experiment".

 

[Marky]

I have always thought that the worst thing of hairloss is that the damage in terms of looks is not proportional to the quantitative loss of hair. It is way larger.

If you lose 20% of the superficies of your hair, you do not lose 20% of how your hair looks. You lose 40% of the amenability of your hair, if not more.

If you think about, it is one of the few defects that have this "multiplication" effect.

The "island" you mention is a very bad thing, looks-wise. If you comb it backwards, your temples look totally empty. If you comb it sideways, the emptiness behind the island itself will be visible.

There is nothing to do when your hair takes becomes difficult to style. You have to keep it short and invest in a transplant.

Take this example:

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How many square inches - centimeters do these pictures differ in terms of hair coverage? Yet, the first photo depicts a god, the second a normal guy.

Totally agree, just look at the difference, and this guy is not even bald, but it makes a drastic difference with how your face looks
I wouldn't even think this is the same person:

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[Baldingat188]

Totally agree, just look at the difference, and this guy is not even bald, but it makes a drastic difference with how your face looks
I wouldn't even think this is the same person:

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He literally looks the same just face looks older.

 

[Marky]

He literally looks the same just face looks older.

less hair makes face older

 

[johnxavier123]

A full head of hair is one of several things that work together to make a guy attractive, including aesthetic/symmetrical facial features, height, physical fitness, etc.

But for many guys hair ends up being worth 50% or more of their overall looks, and can be the deciding factor that makes them attractive or not. A guy’s hairline is the single most important part of that, since it aesthetically frames the face and is the very first thing that everyone will see. Some guys are only seen as handsome because of the benefit of their hair and when that goes they can suddenly they become unattractive. If you’re only average looking already you can most likely expect to go down by some points for not having a full head of hair.

It’s easy to underestimate how much women are visual just like men. A full head of hair is way more important to women than men realize. Masculine things that guys cling to like beards and big muscles are secondary to having a good hair and a decent face combo. Hair or no hair a woman can be attracted to a guy, but I know of no woman that would think being muscular or having a beard makes up for not being conventionally attractive. Hair always makes a guy more appealing to women because its automatically associated with youth, attractiveness, vigor and vitality. Balding inherently makes a guy look like the opposite of that. And for many it can be the deal breaker.

The island pattern is pretty bad appearance wise. There really isn't a style that would work with it, and would end up just drawing attention to it. You're best bet is to keep it as short as possible.

 

[blackg]

less hair makes face older

The guy is 20 years older in later photos.

 

[Marky]

The guy is 20 years older in later photos.

Ya thats true I guess. But throw in the loaf of hair and these dance moves and that'll get some pussy wet for sure - figure of speech and pardon my french as they say. But you couldn't have one without the other:

 

[Saurabhaj]

Totally agree, just look at the difference, and this guy is not even bald, but it makes a drastic difference with how your face looks
I wouldn't even think this is the same person:

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After certain age,its the skin that makes or breaks a person,not hair line.

 

[Marky]

After certain age,its the skin that makes or breaks a person,not hair line.

disagree. Combination of both for sure, then depends how wrinkly vs how receded.

 

[Rudiger]

Totally agree, just look at the difference, and this guy is not even bald, but it makes a drastic difference with how your face looks
I wouldn't even think this is the same person:

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Holy sh*t losing 0.5% of your hair and ageing for 2 decades adds 2 decades to your looks!

 

[blackg]

Holy sh*t losing 0.5% of your hair and ageing for 2 decades adds 2 decades to your looks!

Well said, Rudeman.

 

[blackg]

I want all of y'all to give your opinion on this guys hair/combover.
Should he just shave it brah's?

 

[Marky]

Holy sh*t losing 0.5% of your hair and ageing for 2 decades adds 2 decades to your looks!

Exaggerate much. Look how low his forelock was to his eye brows, that whole section is pretty much gone - way more than .5%
Yes aging plays a natural part in the way he looks now, but the difference in hair recession is a bigger part of it:

 

[blackg]

Exaggerate much. Look how low his forelock was to his eye brows, that whole section is pretty much gone - way more than .5%
Yes aging plays a natural part in the way he looks now, but the difference in hair recession is a bigger part of it:

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The forelock to brow ratio only looks short in this photo because he is frowning, which obviously has shortened the distance between his eyebrows and his hairline by couple of centimetres (0.787 of an inch)

 

[Rudiger]

Holy f*** I may be one of the biggest antagonistic c**** on here but I'm not going to start arguing over the millimetres of Jordan Knight's hair line over 2 decades.

 

[Marky]

Holy f*** I may be one of the biggest antagonistic c**** on here but I'm not going to start arguing over the millimetres of Jordan Knight's hair line over 2 decades.

The original point was simply hair makes a face look different.

 

[Rudiger]

The original point was simply hair makes a face look different.

And THAT was the example you chose? A guy who has barely receded and aged 20 years, looks 20 years older?

I'm just making a mental note to ignore your bullshit from now on.

 

[Marky]

And THAT was the example you chose? A guy who has barely receded and aged 20 years, looks 20 years older?

I'm just making a mental note to ignore your bullshit from now on.

"barely" right. I'm done with you.