so it's been 5 years

[Mens Rea]

I think you have a skewed view on the dating world

Yes being bald (esp if you dont suit it) is a huge confident knocker and of course its going to make it more difficult with women but there's a wife out there for you one that you'd call "hot" and be impressed with. It never ceases to amaze me how some ugly guys can get really hot chicks. Its difficult but its certainly attainable.

Personally i take a dim view on your policy esp at 26 years old. I honestly believe you victim of your mind moreso than male pattern baldness and that even without male pattern baldness you would have confidence issues elsewhere. So hit the root of the problem and work on your mind, you'll be surprised at the progress that can be made. Lose that negative vibe and watch how people react differently to you!

 

[Boondock]

Personally i take a dim view on your policy esp at 26 years old. I honestly believe you victim of your mind moreso than male pattern baldness and that even without male pattern baldness you would have confidence issues elsewhere. So hit the root of the problem and work on your mind, you'll be surprised at the progress that can be made. Lose that negative vibe and watch how people react differently to you!

Bingo. I would also ask: what's more degrading, paying for dates or paying for a hairpiece? If you feel you need hair to get a date then sometimes you have to take radical steps.

 

[s.a.f]

Hmmm, psychologicaly speaking though I think its pretty unhealthy.

 

[Hoppi]

Dude... just BUY hair...

(examples) http://www.virtualrealityhair.com/ http://www.hairdirect.com/

Either that or learn to look awesome bald!

Exhibit a)

Exhibit b)

Exhibit c)

... I rest my case.

 

[Nashville Hairline]

The above will get killed for posting those!


But still, bald guys do still get laid, even the ones who don't look like Bruce Willis or that surfer bloke. There should be no need to visit prostitutes. Askas' problems seem to be as much psychologically as follically.

 

[Hoppi]

yay! Stay strong ma dude!

Also, I really wanna see a picture of you! I bet you look just fine, and I bet anything that is negatively influencing your confidence can be made better! ^_^

 

[Boondock]

Lots of men (including those with a full head of nice hair) and even professionals with high status/high paying careers and a "happy" marriage to a beautiful wife use prostitutes.

Paying for a hairpiece (and also for hair transplants that don't look good) is MUCH MUCH more degrading.

Well perhaps I should clarify. Wearing a hairpiece is much better than letting your hair ruin your life. If I had a choice between my life being ruined and beyond repair, and living a life under a rug and being a bit worried about it, I'd definitely choose the latter.

 

[s.a.f]

Dude... just BUY hair...

(examples) http://www.virtualrealityhair.com/ http://www.hairdirect.com/

Either that or learn to look awesome bald!

Exhibit a)

Exhibit b)

Exhibit c)

... I rest my case.

Yeah just look exactly like a famous multimillionaire Hollywood Hearthrob. (Why did'nt I think of that!?) :dunno:

 

[Hoppi]

You mean Dave McPherson? =D

But yes s.a.f. I think you know that wasnt quite my point!

 

[s.a.f]

Is Dave Mcpherson the first guy? - He does'nt look very awesome to me.

 

[Hoppi]

Is Dave Mcpherson the first guy? - He does'nt look very awesome to me.

he's awesome to me O.O hehe!

Inme rule! ^_^

 

[Hoppi]

so remind me again... why can't you just buy hair?

 

[Hoppi]

Look. I simply see no interest from women since I lost hair. What should I do?

aw dude ._.

I do feel for you man like I said, it's like... I dunno, I really like trying to help people out! Just like I like it when people help me!

It's what makes the world go around ^_^

But yes umm... the trick is to look awesome bald or to buy hair (fake hair or some kind of hair transplant, whatever you want really! Fake hair is cheaper and less painful...)

I really wanna see a picture of you though, this is probably aaaall in your head man!

If you don't wanna post it here then you can always e-mail it to me or send it to me on MSN (check my profile).

See you round anyway, take care

 

[Boondock]

^ This guy is spot on.

If you lose hair you really have three choices:

1. Fight against it, either by prevention or by covering it up (wig or hair transplant)

2. Adjust to it and live your life happily as a bald guy

3. Be miserable

99% of the time the choice is yours to make. I have no problem with people choosing option (3), I just wish they'd start admitting to themselves that they chose that option rather than blaming external factors.

Instead you just see excuses.
- "I can't wear a hair piece because it wouldn't feel right"
- "I can't get a hair transplant because I don't have the money"
- "I'll never get used to being bald"
- "I just have the wrong head shape to pull off the look"
- "I've lost 70% of my attractiveness, why bother?"
- "I don't have time to go to the gym instead."
- "If I had more money it wouldn't be a problem."
- "It happened to me so young, it had to ruin my life"

All of these excuses are blown out of the water by the fact that hundreds of men prove them wrong day after day after day.

The difference between whether you're one of those men making the best of a bad situation, or being miserable and failing to achieve your goals, has nothing to do with what's on your head, but everything to do with your attitude towards it.

 

[GeminiX]

In regard to everything Boondock posted, I heartily agree.

I was in a personal hell that almost violently ended my life. A bit of luck and some self belief turned my life compeltely around.

 

[Boondock]

2) IMO, wigs, rugs, etc... all look like sh*t. PERIOD! No matter how much they cost or how "realistic" they supposedly are, they still loook like sh*t. Utter, complete sh*t. They are a waste of time (from all the maintenance, etc....) and a waste of money. They are almost always detectable, IMO = 100% detectable. Guys who wear these things get laughed at. Trust me, several guys wear them in the gym that I used to go to, and they fooled nobody! These guys were buffed business professionals, and none of hot gym bunnies wanted a damn thing to do with any of them. It was comical to watch them hit on women and get nothing but 100% rejection, while "head shaver guys were scoring left and right with hotties.

Have you actually tried a hairpiece, though? Saying that they all look terrible because all the ones you've seen look terrible is not really an argument, since you won't have seen the good ones. It's a bit like claiming that all gays are extravagantly camp, because all the gays you've seen in the gym have been extravagantly camp (obviously, the 'silent' remainder don't make other people aware of them so easily).

You also say that your current botched transplants are easily noticeable anyway, so you've got to ask yourself: what's worse, everyone noticing your botched hair transplant, or some people noticing your hair piece?

 

[Boondock]

I think if you look through my posts you'll probably see only 4 or 5 comments even mentioning hair pieces. I'm not "obsessed" with them; I just think for some people who for various reasons a) can't go for a hair transplant and b) can't adapt to being bald, they could be a viable option - although of course not an ideal one.

The only reason why I asked if you'd tried one is because that's really the only way to find out if they work for you. I've seen bad hair pieces, but I've also seen ones that look OK. I've seen some people saying how they hated them, but other posters (here and elsewhere) saying they adapted to them and don't really mind.

If you think I'm ridiculous that's your call. I just think you continually perform mental gymnastics in order to convince yourself you're going to be miserable in life. In this thread you've claimed that all notions of undetectable hair pieces are a marketing scam by the toupee industry. In other threads you've said that hair multiplication is a conspiracy perpetrated by the hair transplant industry to lure people into bad procedures since "you only need it for 5 years before HM". Almost all of your posts are some justification for why it's impossible for you to retain even a modicum of happiness in life.

I'm not saying that you have an easy situation, I just think that you really don't help yourself now that you're in it. You seem to constantly aim to justify your bad life situation, rather than to try and find some way out of it. I do respect your persistence in dealing with these problems, and going back to school to study - so it's clear part of you is aiming to progress in life. I just think you're a bit stubborn and stuck in your ways, and unable to accept that maybe you have more power than you think to change your things.

 

[Boondock]

Dudemon,

You may well be right. All I'm asking is that you entertain the possibility that you might be wrong.

If I were in your shoes - and I know they're hard shoes to be in - I would try one of a few things:

1. Go for a rug

2. Try some scar-repair surgery/therapy/whatever, and try to adapt to going sly.

3. Get the hair tattoo done, and cover the scar with it also.

4. Keep the situation as it is, but work as hard as possible on all areas of life to improve things, and, crucially, put in a lot of work to mentally stop giving a damn about the poor hair and scar (easier said than done, admittedly). If you stop caring, a lot of other people will stop caring also.

I'm not saying that any of these options is easy, but it just seems to me that you've resigned yourself to your fate without having given any of this a chance.

Even if it feels ridiculous at first, isn't it worth giving something like this a try? As I see it you have absolutely nothing to lose, since you feel your life is at rock bottom right now.

If things can't get any worse, what's the harm in trying? And if you haven't tried everything, how can you claim there's nothing you can do?

 

[Boondock]

Fair enough - well best of luck in exploring those avenues. Hopefully one of them yields a result that's acceptable, if not perfect.

 

[Hoppi]

I think usually both cures and treatments are capable of making more money than they cost to develop. Treating something is sadly more profitable than curing it though, which makes me feel uneasy ._.