Something happened to me this long weekend....

[DaSand]

Over time when being on a generator at home during a storm and doing other things to keep my hair loss off of my mind, a couple of things came to me. The first idea was that I can't let my balding control my life. I think it's so bad sometimes when I see guys who are younger than me and I see that some have it much worse.

I recall again a classmate of mine who was NW4 by 16. I see him at church and he is NW6 or NW7 at 21 years old. There was also a guy at my college who is NW7 at 21 and girls still talk to him including pretty ones.

A lot of the board has seen my loss and think it's aggressive, I think it might but I realize I'm having my dad's hair loss and not my mom's father who was bald by 21 with thin hair on top. My dad had a receding hairline with some thinning and didn't go bald until his late 30's. My brother got my mom's father loss. I have my mom's family height, but I look like my dad.

When I mention to people about my loss, very few notice it.

But the thing is that I don't have to put up with it for too long with things like Intercytex and Curis coming out, I'm looking forward to the day I get it back.

But for now, I got to finish school, get a good job and save up so I can get it. I'm doing all three of them. Plus, I'm working out so it takes my mind off of my loss.

I also do other things like write and visit friends to keep my mind off of my loss. I visited my old high school last Tuesday. Despite a lot of crap happened there, there were a lot of good memories like the teachers and the social events. The teachers there were good and wanted to see you succeed. It felt so good to be there, it took my mind off of my hair loss seeing old teachers.

When I do things like this, I worry less about it. You guys have to do the same to if you want to enjoy life. The second thing is we need to get off of the forum and enjoy life.

Carpe Diem as Robin Williams said, ladies and gentleman! :hairy:

 

[Aplunk1]

Wow,

you sound like a great guy, DaSand.

Thanks for the sage words.

I was pretty down in the dumps for most of the day.

I'm really glad that I came across your post.

And, although I cannot compare to some of your high school experiences, I'm glad that you have reflected on them, and taken the positive side.

You're already a success.

Keep saving up.

I forsee a good treatment or a possible cure within our lifetimes.

 

[TheGlamorous]

Awesome for you.

My hair loss has really only affected me negatively since August. Since then my life has been on a downward spiral and it's looming close to oblivion. Obviously i'm using overdramatic metaphors, but you all get the point.

My zest for life is just not there anymore. I am beginning to regret things I did, and said, and thought- as a teen growing up. I used to make fun of people in my head if they were worse looking then me.

I used to judge people on their looks, and hang out with better looking people over better friends.

Losing my hair has made me realise how much of an arse I was at age thirteen. But it also scares me, because I know there a lot more "me's" out there who are doing the same thing.

I now look at people who I used to think just looked O.K and I wish I looked like them. I would rather have a below average face and a full head of hair, then an above average face with sh*t hair.

/ends ramble.

 

[DaSand]

The thing is that the meds are only going to delay the inevitable and if HM is going to work well, what have I got to lose? Sure, I may be thinner on top, but it's not bad. I lucked out on getting my dad's hair loss. I've had the same hairline for 6 years as I mentioned.

Each morning I see thin parts, I comb it down and it doesn't look bad. I wash it and dry it without thickening gel, it can look thick without it. I do see myself and I am worried. But I say "It could be worse" and move on.

A lot of the jokes I got from guys who were balding themselves and I had it better than them hair wise.

I am envious of other guys' hair that looks great, but I get my mind off of it. I'm thinning, but I don't have a bald spot. My aunt showed it to me and said it was cowlicks (she owns a hair salon so she's seen balding pates before).

I want to use the meds, but there are cures coming soon. I'd rather get one fix whether it be HM or Curis or whatever instead of being on finasteride or Rogaine for life.

I can't let my loss or my past mistakes control me, you can't go anywhere in life letting those things get to you.

 

[person_123]

i don't mean to rain on your parade, but wont you still need meds after hm? i was under this impression.

 

[sphlanx2006]

Nice post Dasand. I totally agree with you. Well looks, arent the only thing in life and as you said doing other things to take your mind off your hair loss will actually make you think about it less even outside the time frame of each activity. (for me gym, and attending my university classes often has worked well). Only think that makes me sad, is although i got some friends that we spend almost all day with each other, they find it very amusing to comment on my thinning since they see me getting pissed off :evil: Anyway your post made my day a bit. I also think that perhaps in the distant future we gonna regret like hell giving so much importance to this thing...

 

[DaSand]

speculum2, someone complemented your signature, I can defintely relate to that. I have for 3 1/2 years been rebuilding myself after a breakdown. It took me time to realize what I like doing and going for a major I thought I would like but sadly didn't.

I've built up a new life instead of moping about a past love or bad events. I've gone through a lot of bad, but with the bad came good in ways I never expected. I started to read about philosophy and history to understand the world. I'm going back to my hobby of learning Chinese and Japanese. Nietzche said that which does nott kill you makes you stronger correct?.

I sometimes wonder why I moped so badly about making decisions I made so long ago and why I didn't make better choices, I was more naive and inexperienced back then so I didn't know any better plus my mind wasn't exactly in reality dealing with stress and traumatic events.

With my hair thinning, I got of sick of being overweight from a binge of eating and not exercising for about a year. So I improved on it.

With girls, I still notice looks from them. I talked stupid a few times and when I mention my hair loss to them, they said they don't really notice it. I'm not sure if they were doing it to make me feel good or they don't think it's seriously bad.

I think it's the younger girls that are more look-oriented than say women who are 23 or 30. I've known women who dig bald guys.

I've gone through a lot, but I'm going to keep going forwards.

As a mission in Call of Duty is called Not One Step Backwards, we must keep moving forward.

 

[CCS]

at age 23, there are a lot of women who have been on their own at least 3 years, are tired of being poor, have kids, did not finish school, and would like an average or even slightly below average looking guy to take their problems away.

As for women taking to NW7's, it is possible the guys had other looks going for them, but in my experience, hot women will talk to ugly guys as long as it appears the guy has no interest or attempt to hit on them. As long as he knows his role, she will talk to him. Seen it many times. She will pretend like he is not in any pain, and as long as he does not ask for sympathy, she will hang out with him, and enjoy his availability or lack there of. Just as one example, my friend has a gorgeous female friend who will pretend to flirt with him, but only because he swore up and down that he has no interest in dating her and would not have sex with her even if she said yes (so she knows he will not be hopeful if she flirts). He said he has a date with her this weekend. But she is engaged, so it is not really a date, but just a friend outing. I've had those. I heard of a fat bouncer who could flirt with every hot woman who entered the bar, but he went out with a fat woman finally, and she seemed depressed and confused and not sure what she wanted in the relationship. The guy telling me this said, "see? this guy could have any woman he wants, but he was not shallow, and took a fat one." I think she is sad she has to settle, and this may be her first time doing it after being single for years. Big transition.

 

[CCS]

You're doing a good job, DeSand. Save up for HM, get your college degree, get a good job, find fun stuff to do until then, and there is nothing wrong with flirting with hot women who are just having fun but not interested; it will keep your social skills up, I guess. I plan on getting some HM when it is cheaper. I'll beef up my front third with about 3-4 hairs per cm2, and have some put in my scar in back, and maybe even lower my hair line a bit...maybe. That will probably be 6 years from now. By then I'm sure a lot of people will be doing it. But a lot of people who spend all their money on beer won't be able to.

I actually can probably get access to a car. Even though my friend gets everything paid for by his parents, they don't give him spending money, and he does not have a job. He borrows money from me, which I have no interest in him paying back. I just buy him a cigar or a six pack or a $5 pizza here and there so he'll feel indebted to me, and I can get favors from him. He and his friends take me many fun places, and are very fun to be around, but they are usually broke. I just calculate what I think is a small amount and then don't worry about getting it back. Works out good for now until I graduate.

 

[DaSand]

Hey guys, just updating things. I ran into another classmate from high school who is now a Norwood 5 at 22. I keep thinking I have it bad and there are guys who have it worse.

It's hard, but get baldness out of your life and continue to live.