Subjective perspective on your hair

[CarlJohanson]

I realised I was losing my hair about 14 months ago and jump into finasteride immediately. For the first month or two I was freaking out and looking at my hairline everyday and constantly stressing about it. After a while I got used to it and wasn't stressed about my hairline at all anymore. Just took my finasteride everyday and carried on with life.

Weirdly almost a year later (2 month ago and up until 2 weeks ago) I started really stressing about my hair again. I think because I though finasteride was causing me side effects. I started freaking out about my hairline everyday, thought I had lost ground. I was on the forums and internet everyday all day looking for alternative treatments and new research. Because I thought I couldn't take finasteride anymore.

What I have learnt through a bit of internet searching is that my "sides" probably have nothing to do with finasteride. And researching this has suddenly made me care a lot less about my hair and focus on other, much bigger problems that I have.

A few other things happened during the week. Which put things into perspective for me. I saw two guys about my age (22-24) at a lecture. The one guy was a NW3 which hes has hiding pretty well and the other guy was NW3.5+ which has wasn't hiding very well. It sunk in how luck I am that I actually have a pretty full head of hair.
A friend of mine, who definitely doesn't have male pattern baldness, pulled his hair back the other day and I got a good look at his hairline and it really not that much different to mine. Im actually doing pretty well which is an awesome feeling! Im not stressing about hiding my hairline anymore because honestly, I think I am the only person who would notice its not 100%.

I've also noticed that my arms are a bit small and not very manly. I need to do something about that too.

Just some stuff that took my mind off my stupid hairline and realise how lucky I really am.

Im keen to hear if anyone else has been up and down about this

 

[DoctorHouse]

I realised I was losing my hair about 14 months ago and jump into finasteride immediately. For the first month or two I was freaking out and looking at my hairline everyday and constantly stressing about it. After a while I got used to it and wasn't stressed about my hairline at all anymore. Just took my finasteride everyday and carried on with life.

Weirdly almost a year later (2 month ago and up until 2 weeks ago) I started really stressing about my hair again. I think because I though finasteride was causing me side effects. I started freaking out about my hairline everyday, thought I had lost ground. I was on the forums and internet everyday all day looking for alternative treatments and new research. Because I thought I couldn't take finasteride anymore.

What I have learnt through a bit of internet searching is that my "sides" probably have nothing to do with finasteride. And researching this has suddenly made me care a lot less about my hair and focus on other, much bigger problems that I have.

A few other things happened during the week. Which put things into perspective for me. I saw two guys about my age (22-24) at a lecture. The one guy was a NW3 which hes has hiding pretty well and the other guy was NW3.5+ which has wasn't hiding very well. It sunk in how luck I am that I actually have a pretty full head of hair.
A friend of mine, who definitely doesn't have male pattern baldness, pulled his hair back the other day and I got a good look at his hairline and it really not that much different to mine. Im actually doing pretty well which is an awesome feeling! Im not stressing about hiding my hairline anymore because honestly, I think I am the only person who would notice its not 100%.

I've also noticed that my arms are a bit small and not very manly. I need to do something about that too.

Just some stuff that took my mind off my stupid hairline and realise how lucky I really am.

Im keen to hear if anyone else has been up and down about this

The less you compare your looks to others who you perceive as better looking than you, the better you will feel about yourself. Better to compare what you accomplish in life versus how you look. I have above average hair for men in my age bracket but when I see hair genetic lottery winners, I get sick to my stomach. However, if I just remember I have ABOVE average hair for my age, I am fine. Yes, its all about perspective. CBT teaches you facts from fiction. Never, ever compare yourself to others as this will be your downfall. There is always going to be someone who has it better but unless you know that person, you can never be sure. He could be a genetic lottery winner but suffer from severe depression or be bipolar. I have seen many cases of this. He may look extremely handsome on the outside but he is a mental basket case on the inside. You just never know the real story behind who you perceive as "lucky" in genetics. Its what you make of yourself that counts in the end. Women will not stay with a guy who is a train wreck even if he is very good looking unless she is a shallow train wreck herself as we all know misery loves company.