To all Suicidal GourmetStyleWellnessers ....

[Admin]

Question for you guys doing a lot of talking about suicide, etc.

Part of me feels responsible. GourmetStyleWellness has only majored in treatments over the years. We haven't put much content or promotion towards Transplants. Primarily because when I started this web site, transplants were not impressive to me at all. The technology was still developing, and the results were lackluster at best. I felt I could spot one from a mile away, and I wasn't too convinced that that level of quality would be considered an acceptable solution for my members. Nevertheless, I intended to create a transplant section, but just have been swamped with maintaining and building the Treatments content for all these years. I have always felt remiss for not having a better transplants information and resource section.

Secondly ....

Hair systems. When I started this site back in 1999, Hair Club for Men was the main player, and everyone I knew was still mocking the concept of hair systems / toupee's, etc. However today, the technology has advanced so significantly that both transplants and hair systems are an extremely acceptable solution for guys losing their hair. You only have to get over the stigma of the artificiality of it. And somehow come up with funds for the cost.

So my question to all of you losing hope and desperate for answers. Have you looked into the hair systems technology currently out there? I went rounds with a buddy recently who came to me asking for help with his hair loss, and feeling disillusioned by the lack of success with treatments. He ignored my advice and went and got a hair transplant, and hasn't thought twice about it since.

You guys know there ARE other solutions out there right? I feel responsible for not having a robust hair system section on this site, showcasing what they can do these days. It doesnt have to be a full "rug" on your head. They have partial pieces and many variations.

Someone recently told me that Enrique Eglasias wears one. That floored me. I dont know if its true, but I do know one thing: Celebrities all over Hollywood have opted for these solutions and not given up hope. My buddy who got the transplant is 1000% content with his appearance now, and ill be honest - i forgot he had one for about a year. It wasn't noticeable at all.

Just wanted to toss this out there. Obviously funds are a factor, but loans and financing are out there. Women get implants, wear wigs, put on makeup, and its perfectly normal. There's no reason for you to give up on life because of your hair. Treatments are just one of several options out there, and GourmetStyleWellness needs to start showing that to its members.

Thoughts?

 

[uncomfortable man]

Thank you for that message. Thanks for caring.

 

[CaptainForehead]

.... for guys losing their hair.
...
You only have to get over the stigma of the artificiality of it.
...
Thoughts?

Dear Admin,

You are correct that hair transplants are a good option (if only temporary) for people who are still in the process of losing hair, ie are not NW6.
Transplants can only do so much.

The second point over the stigma of hairpieces is not minor. The stigma comes from society, and there is nothing that can be done about it by us. Hairpieces radically change the appearance, and that is one of the reason its not socially acceptable, its not the real you. Since its not socially acceptable, its not really a viable solution.

Regarding hollywood stars --- are they open about it? No. And their pictures and shots are preselected.
Also, they quietly transition into these systems while still having hair. This is not really a solution for us NW6s.

@hairmeanssomuch

Here's a 5500 grafts hair transplant (~12000 hairs) on a NW6 (price: 12000€):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNxPWizqHgw


Bottom line: I see solutions.

That NW6 transplant head does NOT look good. Wispy bald spots showing head conveys weakness.

 

[Exodus2011]

But not as much weakness as a full norwood 6 i think

Which is why i think its worth it

It regains ur frame, which is what matters

 

[HairPieceMan]

for most people, system are the only answer, it's just too much money to go down the transplant route and the results are iffy at best, I'm talking about the people that are heavily balding in their 20s and do not have £20,000 to spend on their hairloss solution.

on wearing hair (which costs £20 a month, £350 per system which I can make last 18 months)

tbh mate, most people don't know about people that wear hair, I didn't know myself that guys wore hair, If I knew a guy that wore hair, the transition would be weird, but after a while I guess I'd get used to it.

The guy that sold me hair was wearing hair, I didn't notice, now that I know he is wearing hair, I don't really think less of him, I've never known him before, from the female perspective I don't see any - major- issue.

the idea is to come across comfortable with whatever you are doing, if you go wig-less for a few weeks and grow out your horsehoe you'll feel like an arse, stick to your guns and stick with it.

the Idea is to meet a good woman in your life, one of main concerns with hairloss, so you need that first, everything else comes second IMO.

also the pieces on TopLace look 50x better than ones the stars wear

we can have scalp appearance these days, enrique doesnt even have that, his is a "rug", a "rug" is something without scalp appearance/hairlines/temple flaps etc.

 

[Thom]

While most of us would rather not have to go the transplant or hair piece route at all, the administrator makes a good point. If it affects you so much to where you are considering ending your own life, why not do everything within your power to fix it? Bottom line is, if you like who you see in the mirror, it will positively impact every area of your life. Who cares if you're the only one who knows that the hair on top is not your own? You will feel good walking around in society knowing that people are not judging you, and if your right significant other comes along they will love you no matter what. Try every avenue before you throw in the towel.

 

[Admin]

First off hair transplants no longer take entire strips of skin out of the back of your head. They can take individual follicles out. Is it really true that "most of us" wouldn't have enough donor hair? I can't say that I have that impression. Most of us have plenty of hair in the bottom back of our heads. And always will. And if they can harvest individual follicles rather than having to cut your scalp open, that's a huge improvement. So why wouldn't this be an option?

If you're continuing to lose hair, you go back in 10 years and have another procedure done. In the meantime you stay on treatments to help maintain.

As for pieces - guys I used to be embarassed to tell people that I run a hair loss site for a living. I was terrified to go to Walgreens and pick up Propecia. So humiliated by the topic. Yet today I can't even comprehend why that would be. When you consider pieces, we are not talking George Constanza. I really think that a couple guys who posted here still have the circa 1999 mentality on hair systems. If Enrique has one, and is living life just fine with it, why can't we? That guy does live concerts in front of tens of thousands of people.

Since mister debbie downer was the first to shoot reply and simultaneously everything down in this thread im going to remove that post as unhelpful. I want people to continue reading the other posts, not close this thread out because of that first reply. I think this is a valid discussion and both options are valid options. Look into the technology before you give up.

Admin

 

[HairPieceMan]

it's useless, some people like to live in despair.

do you not remember dudemon, I even tried to convince him how well systems work, he made up random excuses such as "pool parties" and its really obvious and all that stuff.

he even said his life was destroyed via hairloss and spend £40K on transplants from age 25-45. really old days transplants, and even then he is still planning on BHT which is really expensive.

he mentioned his wife leaving him and how he got no good women since hairloss, the guy refuses to wear hair. look how great they look, they are inexpensive to @ £10 a month for a topper, £20 a month for a full cap.

 

[CaptainForehead]

But not as much weakness as a full norwood 6 i think

Which is why i think its worth it

It regains ur frame, which is what matters

I disagree. A full norwood 6 (shaved close) does not convey weakness. If anything, it conveys strength and power. Athletes, bodybuilders, wrestrlers, Statham and the Rock have made sure of that. Aesthetics take a huge hit, but other than that no detrimental effect.
Wispy, half bald looks emasculating. The man neither looks young, nor seems to have the mature strong look of a full baldy. He has no appeal to both classes of women: those who like hair, and those who are fine with the full bald super masculine look.

The problem is not with his hairline, the problem is his low density, wispy look, and baldness showing in his crown.

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If Enrique has one, and is living life just fine with it, why can't we?

How do you know that Enrique is living life just fine with it? How can you be sure that he isnt a member on this site? :woot:

None of of my real life acquaintances know about my depression with me being ugly. We put on a mask in real life.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Interesting.............

 

[CaptainForehead]

The shaved head is intimidating

That is a good thing.

 

[DannyBoyy]

Intimidating is not a good thing, you scare people, girls included. Thin hair grown out like Jason Statham or Jack Nicholson is better, but slick with a horeshoe is worse.

Some like the "intimidating" look the "bad ***" look cause it makes them feel save with that person i see many people with the hair you lot speak off and some women just say no...its what ever floats your boat...you talk as if ALL women are gonna go for you cause you suddenly have hair.

 

[uncomfortable man]

But what is the mantra everyone says for the bald man?

Just shave it.

The consensus seems to be it's better to just shave it if you are bald or close to it. Nobody seems to like the whispy patches and their perception is that you are desperately trying to hold on to something thats not meant to be there for you.

And weather or not someone comes off as a badass with a shaved head has more to do with physic than your head. A skinny guy like myself does in fact look weak with baldness. Sure, I could invest time and energy into working out and getting all buffed but meh.

 

[DannyBoyy]

No, but if you don't have hair, no woman are gonna go for you, just based on your looks.

This is just stupid your looks (your face) dont change if you have hair or not how vain do you think women are? im not saying there isnt vain women but still...

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

I just think it would be nice to have a moratorium on suicide threads. Most are from the same couple of people anyway, endlessly posting the same rubbish. None of us here are qualified counsellors or psychologists (afaik) and anybody feeling that way needs to seek professional help, that is those who DO feel that way, and aren't just endlessly venting the same thing over and over again.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Like um, I can't work out, not only because meh but because I definitely don't have the body to work out

Mr LazyBones, you workout TO get the body.

At least UC man is honest in that he has no desire to work out, like fat chicks choose not to work out

 

[uncomfortable man]

What is funny is if I had a full head of hair, my self image/esteem would enable me to love myself again and I would in effect take better care of myself, including working out. At least that is what I tell myself. Or I could be just as lazy with hair.... I won't ever have the privlidge of knowing that.

I just hate the way I look so much, I don't think it would help.

 

[CaptainForehead]

What is funny is if I had a full head of hair, my self image/esteem would enable me to love myself again and I would in effect take better care of myself, including working out. At least that is what I tell myself. Or I could be just as lazy with hair.... I won't ever have the privlidge of knowing that.

I just hate the way I look so much, I don't think it would help.

It helps loads UC man. A thing I want to point out is that we know how the surrounding structures to the face (eg hair outline) are important. Working out builds up the neck, it changes the face context. Bald heads look so much better with thick necks.

I dont see why self esteem is important for working out. Channel the self hate into working out!

 

[gascoigne]

Being skinny and bald is a disaster.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

But skinny older people look really gaunt. When I get older I'd rather have some weight on my face than it to be gaunt and heavily lined :/