WHO THE F*CK am I going to be?

[Guest]

I'm 25 now, but who the F*ck will I be in 20 years, after all is said and done.

A F*cking nw7, I could not even comprehend that, it's not even an option.

A nw5 with stranglers everywhere, or do I go for the shave, and look like a peanut headed loser. F*ck man.

Am I going for an Hair transplant, am I going to be one of those guys getting a f*cking Hair transplant. That's ridiculous.

A Norwood 3 perhaps, with a wicked concealing hair doo that a mighty wind could totally f*ck up.

Stop at nw2, That's not going to happen, but it would be nice.

WTF, hairloss sucks, it's just draining me totally.

 

[Matgallis]

i'm 19 now. By the time i'm your age i will probaly be bald... be happy you started later.:cry:

 

[Kramer3]

Yeah definetly be a little happy that at least your maintaining. I'm a Norwood 2 now and i haven't even graduated high school. Thats some hard *** sh*t too deal with. Hair loss is just fucked up man. Every single one of us got unlucky.

 

[cyberprimate]

My opinion is that once someone turns bald completely (yes, with that awful horse shoe pattern) and knows there's no hope anymore, a mental shift necessarily happens. You're condemned to redefine your self image completely. It's either you accept it or not. And most people, if not everyone, accept it. It's like when a relative dies. At first you just refuse that reality. You think it's unfair, and it often is, and you reject it. Then at some point you draw another mental map about your whole relationship to life. Refusing this shift is actually childish. If there's nothing to do about something, then we do have to accept it. Simple as that. My guess is that if everyone here, including me, turned bald for good at once, we would feel devastated for a little while, but would forget about it eventually. Well not forget, but just not think about it all the time, and it would not cause any psycholgical distress. It would actually be easier. "OK, i give up, I am bald and will stay bald, it's not the end of the world after all". The problem with us is that, because of medicine and its expectable possibilities, the agony of our self image lasts (and may last long). So ultimately, the problem is not hairloss, it's the view about ourself in relationship to others. The ideal attitude would be to psychologically die to our hair, and then enjoy what's left of it, applying minoxidil and finasteride without worrying about it because baldness is not an issue for us anymore.

 

[fuzbucket]

Very well said Khai.

There is another thing, balding is generally a slow process so you have little choice but to accept it. If it was some quick thing where we suddenly went bald we'd probably all kill ourselves.

My dad is an example of a NW7 and I really dont know if he ever accepted it, there is some denial about him, he will not let people take pictures of him.... somewhere in his head he still think he's that 20 year old with hair, so in a sense he hasn't accepted it actually, it fucked him up maybe in a way since he used to be a ladies man and now he's danny devito.

In-Valid

 

[Healthy Nick]

I can't even think about it man. I am losing it, but I look like I have a full head of hair. It hasn't even sunk in yet. I don't know what the f*** i'm going to do. Part of me knows that I should be doing all types of things while I have my hair, before I look like a freak. I should be going out and trying to get laid at every opportunity. I should go and socialize. Right now, I'm not really living life. Not socializing, no girls, no job, lame school. I should be doing all these things while I have hair, because when I really start going bald, I'll be fucked. Doing that sh*t is going to be really hard, if not impossible. I am a vain f****r. The future doesn't look bright at all. Because, I know I'll never look as good bald as I do with hair. In fact, I am not going to look good bald. Probably ugly, even though I'm a goodlooking dude. I guess my plan is to lift weights and get huge. Hoping that will give me the confidence to deal with everything. That's my only real option.

 

[Jude]

Ehhh... has everyone forgot that in this day and age, it's very possible to maintain the hair you have? Propecia/Regaine etc. Baldness is not as enivitable as it once was and if we're lucky, there'll be a full-on cure in few more years. I know you all already know all this but since it was'nt mentioned in THIS thread, I thought I'd just remind ye.

 

[Healthy Nick]

Let's face it dude, hairloss can be slowed down, but you'll be bald eventually.

 

[HairFreak]

I don't want to be bald :cry: :cry: :cry:

 

[fuzbucket]

how can u say you can maintain your hair when it's obvious that propecia wears in what seems to be 3 to 7 years.....

 

[fuzbucket]

wears off i mean

 

[x5o]

Propecia (proscar for me) has maintained a cosmetically good look for me for OVER 10 YEARS! Remember that. I just added Avodart to try and slow the process even more. Hang in there. Even if propecia stops working in 3-7, by then there may be yet another drug or treatment. One day at a time, one hour at a time if you have to. Try not to think too far ahead. Stress is detrimental to hair health.

I too (as we all have) have thought extensively about what I would look like as a Q ball. If mine goes all the way, I'll hit the roids and the gym and get a wicked tan to go with the musculature. Read some of my posts on my buddy who did this.................He gets more *** than ever! Said he should have shaved his head years ago.

Life throws a lot of curve balls. Turn misfortune into advantage every chance you get. Look at misfortune as opportunity and motivation to change yourself into something better, albeit different from what you may have anticipated. None of us have a crystal ball to know what really is coming next.

 

[ShedMaster]

-T.V.R., Sr. .

who is -T.V.R., Sr. ?

 

[blue]

i think jude is right..or maybe hope....that one day there will be a cure but i dont think they are workin on a cure i think tthey are just workin on treatmeats that let you live with it.there is no money in a cure.say 100 million men take a pill that cures hair loss.thats only 100 million dollars now think if 100 million men have to take a pill every week ......now thats where the money is.

 

[Stingray]

Did you know... and this is a fact... The only one that cares about balding is the person who is balding. I've seen lots of honeys with bald guys, unattractive guys, and bald unattractive guys. It's not the looks that matter (maybe it is if you're going after a 16 year old cheerleader) but the attitude behind the image. The funny thing about people is that they can sense your own self image. If you are negative about yourself, they will know and treat you accordingly. No one likes a downer, but no one cares if you're balding. Just accept it, do what you can to prevent it, and if you can't prevent it... live with it. Life can deal some rough cards, but you can always turn it in to a winning hand if you try a little.

 

[Guest]

At this point because I'm such a f*cking vain bastard myself, baldness has almost turned my hair into an obsession. Now more than ever my hair is part of me and it hurts man. A guy with no male pattern baldness would not even be able to comprehend whats going on in our heads. Propecia, minoxidil and side-effect, scams, dmso users, it's F*cking insane.

I am so thankful for what I got, and beleive me I feel for you younger guys, my heart always goes out. But F*ck male pattern baldness could explode at anytime. My crown will start going, furter recession and bam, Nw5 baby.
It's scary as hell, and I don;t want ot take propecia for life, nor do I have confidence it will continue working. I'm still slowly balding, so who knows if propecia is actually working.

I look in the mirror and I just can't picture me bald. My dad is funny and has been extremely successful in life and baldness just never phased him. My mom probably played a role by obviously never caring. It's probably bugged him, but he laughs it off big time. Kind of, it's just life deal with it.

 

[beast]

Did you know... and this is a fact... The only one that cares about balding is the person who is balding. I've seen lots of honeys with bald guys, unattractive guys, and bald unattractive guys.

looks do matter to a lot of women, just like they matter to a lot of men. would you date a women that was bald/ing? if you wouldn't, they you have no right to complain when the hotties won't look your way.

confidence and your personality also plan a big role in dating. no girl wants to be with a guy who is always depressed and angery over lack of hair.

 

[Kramer3]

X50:
Your one of the only guys that i've heard from that has been on proscar for that length of time and hasn't experienced the typical effects of attrition. Maybe you weren't destined to go NW5. Thats what I always wonder about.. Some of you guys I look at the texture and your hairline and I think maybe you were only going to end up Norwood 3 and proscar has just been prolonging that progression and kept you at Norwood 2 for a few extra years..
All i know is if i'm balding now, i better hope that the Big 3 can at least slow it down enough so that when something bigger and better comes out i'll have enough hair for it work on me.

Also I think balding is a less scary thought for certain people with specific headshapes. Some guys look fine bald, particularly ones with certain ethnic orgins. The only thing that consoles me is that i have olive colored skin, which I think makes balding guys look much better.

 

[Vanity]

Most of us on this forum are vain or we wouldnt be taking the time to discuss this issue and be so consumed with our "dilemas."

Plain and simply...some chicks care if the guy has a full head of hair and others dont. Hope that you are with one and end up with one that doesnt.

Ive been in constant torment for years and visited this forum only after I reached the end of my sanity and made an appointment to get an hair transplant. Changed my mind soon after I realized that there may be better options and that Im not the only guy whose consumed.

I agree, we simply need to accept it.....

 

[Stingray]

Yes, I would date a woman who is balding. Why wouldn't I? Hair is only one feature among many. I wouldn't date an overly large chick, because obesity is in 99% of cases preventable and easily reversible... it usually shows a lack of pride and care in one's body. Hair loss, however, is an unfortunate and irreversible condition that some people just happen to have. I've seen plenty of bald, or balding young women, and a lot of them are quite hot, even without the hair.

And if you are so vain as to view your self worth as equal to your image, then you deserve every bit of ridicule and resentment you get... because that is your punishment for vanity.

If you only wish to date the chicks that would only date you based on looks, then perhaps you need to re-assess your angle on dating.