You know what sucks?

[Mens Rea]

Being the only one in your family with male pattern baldness

My dad is FIFTY and has the thickest head of hair you'll ever see.

Two of my brothers, one 21, one 24 (im 23 btw) both have good thick hair particularly the younger one - his hairline actually goes out an inch - its insane.

WTF is this sh*t about? Im a diffuse thinner and have had to suffer remarks about thinning/balding as compared to the rest of my family.

Tis rather disheartening.

Don't get me wrong im not letting it affect my life, and never will, but still, upon reflection its a pretty shitty set of cards ive been dealt and the blow is definately worsened when your dad of 50 having the head of hair you'd pay any figure for. I just think, when im 50 ive be lucky to have one hair at this rate

 

[ali777]

Try a few medicines and see if you get lucky....

My dad has very healthy hair for his age as well... That doesn't mean I'm jealous or I resent him for having nice hair...

You have the right attitude, don't let it get to you. Hair is not everything.

 

[JJ09]

I can relate to your situation Colin297. My father his father and my younger brother…all have thick hair and I…thinning at 25.

Don't get me wrong im not letting it affect my life, and never will,

I let it get the better of me with disastrous results. :sobbing:

 

[Fundi]

Similar story here.

My maternal grandfather and father aren't bald) and both younger brothers have perfect hair (Both still fairly young, but at an age where I'd already noticed male pattern baldness), as do all my cousins and all my second cousins (In their 40s/50s but one.

2/3 uncles are balding however. (In their late 40s).


My hairloss isn't really noticeable yet though, so haven't received 'You must be the milkman's son' just yet. unk:

 

[Quantum Cat]

I'm losing my hair the same time my Dad is, and he's more than twice my age - he even made fun of me :sobbing:

 

[Bald Dave]

Same here! I am the only person in my family thats loosing his hair as well. At least I stand out at family gatherings so thats probably not such a bad thing.

I have come to realise that by stressing about it is just gonna get you even more stressed out so I ain't care about this baldness thing anymore (well I am gonna try not to care at least).

 

[Fanjeera]

At least that doesn't go for me. I can clearly see where my hair is heading, when I look at my uncle, father, granduncle, grandfather, grand grandfather and so on.

 

[Thickandthin]

EVERYONE in my family has some degree of male pattern baldness, except one uncle on my mom's side. And he's only her half brother.

I'm doomed.

 

[CCS]

Most people in my family are NW3v, or high NW2, or so. Hard to tell since I don't know what most look like. My cousin is NW6 now, my brother nW5, my dad is kind of NW5, but has hairs on top that still give him a NW3 look even with his super high forehead. I stopped my hairloss at NW4, but getting to a dense NW1 seems impossible. Women are picky.

 

[ali777]

I stopped my hairloss at NW4, but getting to a dense NW1 seems impossible. Women are picky.

Here we go again............. how do you know if you don't ask them out?

 

[CCS]

I stopped my hairloss at NW4, but getting to a dense NW1 seems impossible. Women are picky.

Here we go again............. how do you know if you don't ask them out?

I do ask them out. I don't ask out 100 in a row, expecting a different outcome after the first 10 said no. I asked out maybe 10 or 15 in my life. All same answer. Some might say yes to going out, but you can tell by their expressions that they are not happy because they like me. Just happy because they think they might finally get to copy their friends and use a guy. When I see that I cancel.

 

[Quantum Cat]

I stopped my hairloss at NW4, but getting to a dense NW1 seems impossible. Women are picky.

Here we go again............. how do you know if you don't ask them out?

I do ask them out. I don't ask out 100 in a row, expecting a different outcome after the first 10 said no. I asked out maybe 10 or 15 in my life. All same answer. Some might say yes to going out, but you can tell by their expressions that they are not happy because they like me. Just happy because they think they might finally get to copy their friends and use a guy. When I see that I cancel.

if you cancel, you'll never know whether you were in with a chance or not.

What happened on the last date you were on? I want to check that you're doing things correctly.

 

[ali777]

I stopped my hairloss at NW4, but getting to a dense NW1 seems impossible. Women are picky.

Here we go again............. how do you know if you don't ask them out?

I do ask them out. I don't ask out 100 in a row, expecting a different outcome after the first 10 said no. I asked out maybe 10 or 15 in my life. All same answer. Some might say yes to going out, but you can tell by their expressions that they are not happy because they like me. Just happy because they think they might finally get to copy their friends and use a guy. When I see that I cancel.

I've never ever asked anyone out on a date, nor have I ever had an official first date in my whole life.... Those things just happen naturally.

So, in that aspect you have more balls than I do. My idea of chasing women is exchanging phone numbers, then meeting again in a social environment and checking out if there is any chemistry. If I feel chemistry, then I'd try to be in the same environment with her again and take if further from there (most of it usually happens in bars, and after a few drinks it's easier).

You have to talk to women, get to know them and show some interest... But don't go too far that you actually become good friends. There is a thin line between being interested and becoming friends.

Seriously, meeting women in social environments is the easiest thing to do. That way you have common things to talk about, she knows who you are, etc. So, most of the ground work is already established.

 

[CCS]

What happened on the last date you were on? I want to check that you're doing things correctly.

Over a year ago. Hard to interpret signals, but here are some possible mistakes:
She invited me back to her apartment, alone, to watch TV, and I did not make a move on her. My friends told me later than when they advised me to behave myself, they just meant don't force her, they did not mean don't try to make a move on her.
When we were out on a cold night and I had a jacket (donated to me by my friend who froze his *** off in hopes I'd put it on her), I offered it to her many times, but she insisted she knew a trick to stay warm: she crossed her arms and flexed and shivered and insisted that worked. My friends told me I should have just put in on her and not taken no for an answer.
I let her talk about her Ex for a long time, though she did kiss me later. I later learned she went back to him, and that he was not as bad as she said he was. I feel bad about having gotten involved now, but she had told quite a story about him.
I told her I'm a virgin.
When I took her to dinner, I ordered pizza for us both, forgetting that earlier she had mentioned she loves salads, though I doubt that matters as much.
Oh, and our sexual interests were not the same, so it would have failed anyway.

I'd have to go into a lot of detail to possibly give you enough info to make an informed judgement on. Not sure I want to put all that out there, since I don't know who is reading.

 

[ali777]

I let her talk about her Ex for a long time, though she did kiss me later. I later learned she went back to him, and that he was not as bad as she said he was. I feel bad about having gotten involved now, but she had told quite a story about him.

I hear talking about an ex is supposed to be a bad sign. Lots of people around here know my ex, and when I go out to parties and stuff people ask me about her.. I always make sure I change the subject...

Oh, and our sexual interests were not the same, so it would have failed anyway.

What the hell is this supposed to mean? You are both heterosexual??? What else is there?

 

[Quantum Cat]

What happened on the last date you were on? I want to check that you're doing things correctly.

Over a year ago. Hard to interpret signals, but here are some possible mistakes:
She invited me back to her apartment, alone, to watch TV, and I did not make a move on her. My friends told me later than when they advised me to behave myself, they just meant don't force her, they did not mean don't try to make a move on her.
When we were out on a cold night and I had a jacket (donated to me by my friend who froze his *** off in hopes I'd put it on her), I offered it to her many times, but she insisted she knew a trick to stay warm: she crossed her arms and flexed and shivered and insisted that worked. My friends told me I should have just put in on her and not taken no for an answer.
I let her talk about her Ex for a long time, though she did kiss me later. I later learned she went back to him, and that he was not as bad as she said he was. I feel bad about having gotten involved now, but she had told quite a story about him.
I told her I'm a virgin.
When I took her to dinner, I ordered pizza for us both, forgetting that earlier she had mentioned she loves salads, though I doubt that matters as much.
Oh, and our sexual interests were not the same, so it would have failed anyway.

I'd have to go into a lot of detail to possibly give you enough info to make an informed judgement on. Not sure I want to put all that out there, since I don't know who is reading.

shouldn't have told her you're a virgin - she might have thought 'OK what's wrong with this guy if he's never had a woman before?' and backed off.

Next time just lie and say you broke up with your last girlfriend a while ago and you've been waiting for somebody special.

 

[Bald Dave]

I stopped my hairloss at NW4, but getting to a dense NW1 seems impossible. Women are picky.

Here we go again............. how do you know if you don't ask them out?

I do ask them out. I don't ask out 100 in a row, expecting a different outcome after the first 10 said no. I asked out maybe 10 or 15 in my life. All same answer. Some might say yes to going out, but you can tell by their expressions that they are not happy because they like me. Just happy because they think they might finally get to copy their friends and use a guy. When I see that I cancel.

Some women won't go for you because you are not their type. That doesn't mean that every women will say no. You've got to learn to take rejection even if it means asking a 100 women out you need to realise that not all women are the same. By getting surgery and gaining muscle etc isn't going to boost your self-confidence and if women still reject you then you are gonna find something else thats wrong with you.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Yeah, my dad still has all his hair. When he sees me upset, like that one time I came back from Quizno's when I lit that napkin on fire and threw it on these jerks table, he was like, what's wrong? I tried to explain to him how hard it is to be bald and he just didn't get it. Don't worry about it...who cares what other people think anyway, he told me. Maybe I'm just sensitive, but I think most people would feel exactly the way I feel if they were to experience it themselves for as long as I have...including my father.

 

[Bald Dave]

Yeah, my dad still has all his hair. When he sees me upset, like that one time I came back from Quizno's when I lit that napkin on fire and threw it on these jerks table, he was like, what's wrong? I tried to explain to him how hard it is to be bald and he just didn't get it. Don't worry about it...who cares what other people think anyway, he told me. Maybe I'm just sensitive, but I think most people would feel exactly the way I feel if they were to experience it themselves for as long as I have...including my father.

I can understand your pain UCMan. The one thing I hate is when people say "don't worry about it" when they don't have any hairloss!

 

[ClayShaw]

What happened on the last date you were on? I want to check that you're doing things correctly.

Over a year ago. Hard to interpret signals, but here are some possible mistakes:
She invited me back to her apartment, alone, to watch TV, and I did not make a move on her. My friends told me later than when they advised me to behave myself, they just meant don't force her, they did not mean don't try to make a move on her.
When we were out on a cold night and I had a jacket (donated to me by my friend who froze his *** off in hopes I'd put it on her), I offered it to her many times, but she insisted she knew a trick to stay warm: she crossed her arms and flexed and shivered and insisted that worked. My friends told me I should have just put in on her and not taken no for an answer.
I let her talk about her Ex for a long time, though she did kiss me later. I later learned she went back to him, and that he was not as bad as she said he was. I feel bad about having gotten involved now, but she had told quite a story about him.
I told her I'm a virgin.
When I took her to dinner, I ordered pizza for us both, forgetting that earlier she had mentioned she loves salads, though I doubt that matters as much.
Oh, and our sexual interests were not the same, so it would have failed anyway.

I'd have to go into a lot of detail to possibly give you enough info to make an informed judgement on. Not sure I want to put all that out there, since I don't know who is reading.

DON'T DO THAT, unless you're after religious girls who would see that as a positive.