Who is motivated even more by hair loss?

[I AM AWESOME]

So since there is so much negativity around here, let's move onto a more positive topic; who has been motivated even more ever since hair loss?

My story can be found here: http://www.gourmetstylewellness.com/interac...he-fastest-Hairloss-ever-I-AM-AWESOME-s-story

Basically I lost ~65% of my density in JUST 4/5 MONTHS at JUST 17.

But, contrary to gourmetstylewellness.com logic, I didn't allow this to get in the way of my life goals and in many ways I used this as factor to drive me ever more to success. Ever since the hair loss I've developed/gained a very big work ethic and my grades have never been better.

I've also developed my personality a LOT, gained confidence and got rid of my social anxiety and am having unprecedented success. My hair loss also motivated me to start working out and to get off my fat *** (Was overweight before, borderline obese, now am very healthy)

Why aren't the rest of you like this and use hair loss as a motivating factor to better yourself? It's certainly better than confining yourself to failure for the rest of your life and sitting in your mother's basement ranting about how hair loss has destroyed your life.

Of course I'm not saying that you should all forget about hair and never think about it; heck even I sometimes get emotional about my hair (I mean it is bad losing so much hair at 17), but it drives me even more for success, and reminds me even more why I will try my best to succeed no matter what.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

Good on ya mate!

 

[Scarred4Life]

So how many girlfriends have you had?

All you are doing is overcompensating for your hair loss. Everything you are doing has no affaect on women being interested in you.

 

[slipy]

Everything you are doing has no affaect on women being interested in you.

exactly, but concentrating on other things is the right approach to take, knowing that the dating train has already left the station for him (at 17) and chasing it would be making a futile attempt and thankfully he realizes this. he might as well try to get some fullfilment from opposite sex-unrelated things.
he will be forced to deal with the general prejudice nevertheless, whether he chooses to ignore women or not.

 

[DannyBoyy]

I cant believe the bull**** in here...dont listen to them i am awesome there is WOMEN out there what will like you seriously there is scarredforlife is going for YOUNG women at 50 something and you wonder why he cant get any and slipy...couldnt tell you about him but seriously you WILL find someone you lost a few hairs THATS IT.

 

[antman]

keep it up I AM AWESOME - lots of us are doing the same

don't take this section too seriously. many guys just come on here, take a dump and go back to life

 

[LawOfThelema]

Why aren't the rest of you like this and use hair loss as a motivating factor to better yourself?

this sounds arrogant, presumptive, and narcissitic. blah blah blah why arent the rest of you being like me. thats the way this read.

 

[DannyBoyy]

this sounds arrogant, presumptive, and narcissitic. blah blah blah why arent the rest of you being like me. thats the way this read.

So you want him to go "forget it you are doomed you are never getting a woman/man no one likes bald people blah blah" all he is trying to say is dont let it get you down try and make it motivate you.

 

[uncomfortable man]

this sounds arrogant, presumptive, and narcissitic. blah blah blah why arent the rest of you being like me. thats the way this read.

Agreed. Compound that with the fact that he is only a young kid (20?) with only minor crown thinning and the above statement only sounds worse.

But no, I don't find going bald motivating. Just the opposite... the year before I lost my hair I was in the best shape of my life. Working out and finally putting on some muscle. My hair was almost to my shoulders and women were plentiful. After I lost it I figured what's the point? With hair and muscles, I could have been a Porshe or a Lambrogini but with muscles but no hair I would be more like a Subaru with $8,000 rims. The issue is compensating which can be good or bad depending on how you look at it. Some see compensating as just trying to be your best despite your flaws and others see it as a sign of insecurity to detract attention away from your flaws.

 

[DannyBoyy]

Agreed. Compound that with the fact that he is only a young kid (20?) with only minor crown thinning and the above statement only sounds worse.

But no, I don't find going bald motivating. Just the opposite... the year before I lost my hair I was in the best shape of my life. Working out and finally putting on some muscle. My hair was almost to my shoulders and women were plentiful. After I lost it I figured what's the point? With hair and muscles, I could have been a Porshe or a Lambrogini but with muscles but no hair I would be more like a Subaru with $8,000 rims. The issue is compensating which can be good or bad depending on how you look at it. Some see compensating as just trying to be your best despite your flaws and others see it as a sign of insecurity to detract attention away from your flaws.

Most bald guys look better with muscle so i dont get why you thought "whats the point"

 

[antman]

Most bald guys look better with muscle so i dont get why you thought "whats the point"

it sounds ridiculous but - oddly enough, before i knew of Propecia, my mum complemented me on my results from gym. i replied that with hair loss it was a complete waste of time and she replied - i don't believe you.

i'm not sure how things would have played out without propecia but that's how it was at the time. i just found (and obviously other people) hair loss to be totally demoralizing and disheartening.

it might be an All or Nothing attitude

 

[uncomfortable man]

it might be an All or Nothing attitude

I think you just nailed it.

 

[Jockson]

exactly, but concentrating on other things is the right approach to take, knowing that the dating train has already left the station for him (at 17) and chasing it would be making a futile attempt and thankfully he realizes this. he might as well try to get some fullfilment from opposite sex-unrelated things.
he will be forced to deal with the general prejudice nevertheless, whether he chooses to ignore women or not.

What a load of nonsense. How does working on one's personality, getting rid of social anxiety, losing weight and living a healthy life "has no effect on women's interest"? I know it's a hair loss forum but what is it with people on here equating hair with attraction period?

Nothing at all wrong with "compensating", as in trying to be your best despite your flaws IMO. Hair loss still gets me down every now and then but giving up and letting myself go still never seems like the more logical option. We don't have much choice but to work with what we have, as unfair as life may be sometimes.

 

[HairGuru22]

What a load of nonsense. How does working on one's personality, getting rid of social anxiety, losing weight and living a healthy life "has no effect on women's interest"? I know it's a hair loss forum but what is it with people on here equating hair with attraction period?

Nothing at all wrong with "compensating", as in trying to be your best despite your flaws IMO. Hair loss still gets me down every now and then but giving up and letting myself go still never seems like the more logical option. We don't have much choice but to work with what we have, as unfair as life may be sometimes.

Slipy is right, you will have a hard time getting the ladies if you are balding at a young age unless you have a great head shape, countless rejections etc. The energy you put on pursuing the ladies should be redirected towards other goals that benifts you in the long run then perhaps you will find that special lady stumbling on your path.

 

[slipy]

compensating is cute.

but you know the thing about compensating for baldness? it's a case where the effort that's being put in far exceeds the gain, you're still at a big disadvantage as far as the female aspect is concerned.

The energy you put on pursuing the ladies should be redirected towards other goals that benifts you in the long run then perhaps you will find that special lady stumbling on your path.

+1

 

[I AM AWESOME]

Only on gourmetstylewellness.com can someone who has bettered themselves be ridiculed for it. Mind = blown.

So how many girlfriends have you had?

None. I don't think having girlfriends at 20 is living the life.

My success with girls has been pretty good though. Balding hasn't held me back at all in that aspect, this too considering that I don't frequent the bar/club scene much because I hate that sort of atmosphere.

Before hair loss, I couldn't even speak to girls. Now what other excuse do you have?

[QUOTE[All you are doing is overcompensating for your hair loss.[/QUOTE]
Really? A few follicles on my head isn't going to kill me. I know other balders who do perfectly fine in life. You can make balding as bad or as good as you want.

Everything you are doing has no affaect on women being interested in you.

Yeah because you're with me 24/7 :wacko:. Also not everything I do is centered around women. Jesus, some of you guys are too concerned about women. No matter you can't get woman, you need to change your mindset, don't cater your life towards women, cater your life to what you want to achieve. For me, achieving a Phd in my discipline is far more excitement/satisfying than getting a woman/devoting mylife getting women. FAR MORE.

I cant believe the bull**** in here...dont listen to them i am awesome there is WOMEN out there what will like you seriously there is scarredforlife is going for YOUNG women at 50 something and you wonder why he cant get any and slipy...couldnt tell you about him but seriously you WILL find someone you lost a few hairs THATS IT.

Thanks man, and like I said, I haven't had much problem with the female gender.

keep it up I AM AWESOME - lots of us are doing the same

don't take this section too seriously. many guys just come on here, take a dump and go back to life

Thanks man, good luck in your journey as well.

For me, I'm taking my post hair loss life as a journey, a journey in which I will always keep bettering myself.

this sounds arrogant, presumptive, and narcissitic. blah blah blah why arent the rest of you being like me. thats the way this read.

Lol, OK you keep on going on the track you are and come tell us in 5 years time how you've bettered yourself. So instead of bettering ourselves (Which we should be doing regardless of hair loss), what is your solution to the problem? Coming on here ranting about how your life is destroyed? Seriously, dude, I've probably had it worst than most people in regards to hair loss at a young age. I lost ~65% of my density in ONLY 4/5 months, got depressed about it for a bit, but then thought ''you know what? I can't let a few follicles on my head control my outlook on life''. Thank God I didn't stumble upon this section of the forum when I was first coming to terms with my hair loss; I'd still probably be fat, bald, socially awkward with a number of health diseases.

Agreed. Compound that with the fact that he is only a young kid (20?) with only minor crown thinning and the above statement only sounds worse.

It's not minor crown thinning, it's a lot of hair loss. Especially under natural light, it shines right through my hair and it looks like utter crap.

But no, I don't find going bald motivating. Just the opposite... the year before I lost my hair I was in the best shape of my life. Working out and finally putting on some muscle. My hair was almost to my shoulders and women were plentiful.

I thought you were married? Or did you find your wife after you started balding? That would be pretty ironic actually...

Some see compensating as just trying to be your best despite your flaws and others see it as a sign of insecurity to detract attention away from your flaws.

This is the problem some of you guys have. Fuk what society thinks, you better yourself for your own satisfaction, not for how people will perceive you.

Most bald guys look better with muscle so i dont get why you thought "whats the point"

This is true. I've recently started a bulk after my first cut. Am pretty scared that I might add fat more than muscle lol. Let's how it does.

What a load of nonsense. How does working on one's personality, getting rid of social anxiety, losing weight and living a healthy life "has no effect on women's interest"? I know it's a hair loss forum but what is it with people on here equating hair with attraction period?

This.

Nothing at all wrong with "compensating", as in trying to be your best despite your flaws IMO. Hair loss still gets me down every now and then but giving up and letting myself go still never seems like the more logical option. We don't have much choice but to work with what we have, as unfair as life may be sometimes.

Also this. You don't see many short men (As in really short <5'5'') cry about life, they get on with it. You don't see other men with physical imperfection cry nearly as much as the guys on here.

Slipy is right, you will have a hard time getting the ladies if you are balding at a young age unless you have a great head shape, countless rejections etc.

Again, my sole reason for improving myself wasn't just for the ladies. I will not allow women to dictate my life, I have other goals in life which take much more priority than getting with woman. You will have to face rejection MANY times with or without hair.

compensating is cute.

but you know the thing about compensating for baldness? it's a case where the effort that's being put in far exceeds the gain, you're still at a big disadvantage as far as the female aspect is concerned.



+1

Another guy here who probably bases his whole life around getting women. Getting woman shouldn't be the sole focus of one's life, it should merely be a compliment to a man's life.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

Doing what you're doing should make you happier and more confident, which can only help with the ladies anyway dude! Good going!

 

[uncomfortable man]

Can't you see that you and Slippy are pretty much saying the same thing? Don't focus on women, improve your life in other ways. :dunno:

And IAA, that time was long before I met my wife.

But weather you choose to chase girls now or invest in building a nice little nest for yourself the end intention is the same. You work on improving yourself and build a foundation with the hope in the back of your head that you will meet a great woman, fall in love and settle down. Your just postponing your primitive prime directive.

 

[zeroes]

Agreed. Compound that with the fact that he is only a young kid (20?) with only minor crown thinning and the above statement only sounds worse.

But no, I don't find going bald motivating. Just the opposite... the year before I lost my hair I was in the best shape of my life. Working out and finally putting on some muscle. My hair was almost to my shoulders and women were plentiful. After I lost it I figured what's the point? With hair and muscles, I could have been a Porshe or a Lambrogini but with muscles but no hair I would be more like a Subaru with $8,000 rims. The issue is compensating which can be good or bad depending on how you look at it. Some see compensating as just trying to be your best despite your flaws and others see it as a sign of insecurity to detract attention away from your flaws.

Now I am confused. Earlier this year you said to me that you don't know if your wife would have wanted to be with you if she meet you with out hair. It seems to me you meet her during your hair loss stages. You have more insecurities than hair loss, your pale and your skinny. Hair won't fix those 2 problems. I'm willing to bet you have plenty more insecurities.

I've said this to you before but try living my life for a day then come back on here and cry about your hair.

I can't even find a girl, yet your married and worried about something that most guys don't care about once married.

You should be preaching like dannyboyy not crying like s4l, you are proof that hair doesn't matter.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Now I am confused. Earlier this year you said to me that you don't know if your wife would have wanted to be with you if she meet you with out hair. It seems to me you meet her during your hair loss stages. You have more insecurities than hair loss, your pale and your skinny. Hair won't fix those 2 problems. I'm willing to bet you have plenty more insecurities.

I only had minor thinning when I met her. Big difference between being fully bald. And sure whatever other insecurities I may have pale in comparison to hair loss so much that it is negligable. The difference is I have control over any other aspect that I would want to change whereas with hair loss I am more or less helpless. Skinny? Workout. Pale? Get some sun. Bald? Hmmm.

Get the picture?