Girls Only Match The Top 20% - A Tinder Study

[JohnsonDDG]

Bingo! Multiple Award Winning Humble-Brag Artist JohnsonDDG get's his validation yet again.

Haha I don't need validation from strangers online.

I'm a decent guy - certainly not elite brad pitt - but decent enough looking to get by and date successfully.

 

[Rudiger]

Haha I don't need validation from strangers online.

Yet keep coming back for more.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Even "chad" will eventually settle for someone because meaningless sex is not all there is. Of course it's nice to f*** but in the end you'll feel emtpy.

Correct.

It gets repetitive after a while. You meet, you date, you f***, you repeat for a month and then end it. And then process begins again.

Whats the point after a while.

Sometimes I would have rather had a wank to p**rn then to have got laid when you consider the 10 hours of chatting online, the 2 or 3 dates, the cost of said dates, all just for sex a few times.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Yet keep coming back for more.

I don't deny that I like posting here and I enjoy chatting to people with many different opinions.

But validation had never been on my agenda. Why would I care if you thought I was attractive or ugly?

 

[blackg]

Correct.

It gets repetitive after a while. You meet, you date, you f***, you repeat for a month and then end it. And then process begins again.

Whats the point after a while.

Sometimes I would have rather had a wank to p*rn then to have got laid when you consider the 10 hours of chatting online, the 2 or 3 dates, the cost of said dates, all just for sex a few times.

It really is a lot easier sometimes, the wank option.

 

[blackg]

I don't deny that I like posting here and I enjoy chatting to people with many different opinions.

But validation had never been on my agenda. Why would I care if you thought I was attractive or ugly?

Same here. How could the guys on here validate my ego?
Doesn't make sense.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Same here. How could the guys on here validate my ego?
Doesn't make sense.

If anything they sometimes use attractive as an insult on here because it means you don't have it as bad as others.

 

[blackg]

If anything they sometimes use attractive as an insult on here because it means you don't have it as bad as others.

That's right. You will be lower on he gourmetstylewellness.com totem pole if you are attractive and mention your sex experience.

 

[Rudiger]

Why would I care if you thought I was attractive

Because it makes you feel good and gives you a temporary high of validation. Same way you can f*** women below your level of attractiveness and get validation from the pleasure they feel. It's pretty simple.

Or to put it more simply, nobody cares about your personal anecdotal experience on Tinder. You are one person, not even a group of people, not even a "most of my friends" anecdote, just a "my experience" anecdote. For the most part you do seem pretty understanding in what is relevant to others generally, but the fact that this is a thread based on a wider scale of experience, and you seem to think your single Tinder experience means something, tells me you don't really care about making a point, just getting across the point you get laid.

From seeing maybe 2 or 3 pictures of you I'd say I'm more attractive than you and I'm in that 20% based on how I see myself in pictures and the reaction I get from females, and also males acknowledgement of my ability to attract. That's not a humble brag, or even a brag, that's just how it is. But I know people don't care about my singular experiences in life as it's based on such a narrow point of view, that it's pointless even worth mentioning.

The only reason I'd have to mention such a thing so consistently is if I needed some validation or acknowledgement from "strangers on the internet" that I'm attractive, when really I'd rather learn from actual wider points of view than give my teasing "I'm no Brad Pitt he he but I'm alright and slay all the time" point of view.

 

[blackg]

Oh sh*t! "I'm attractive too!!" Haha.... Dayum!!!

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Because it makes you feel good and gives you a temporary high of validation. Same way you can f*** women below your level of attractiveness and get validation from the pleasure they feel. It's pretty simple.

Or to put it more simply, nobody cares about your personal anecdotal experience on Tinder. You are one person, not even a group of people, not even a "most of my friends" anecdote, just a "my experience" anecdote. For the most part you do seem pretty understanding in what is relevant to others generally, but the fact that this is a thread based on a wider scale of experience, and you seem to think your single Tinder experience means something, tells me you don't really care about making a point, just getting across the point you get laid.

From seeing maybe 2 or 3 pictures of you I'd say I'm more attractive than you and I'm in that 20% based on how I see myself in pictures and the reaction I get from females, and also males acknowledgement of my ability to attract. That's not a humble brag, or even a brag, that's just how it is. But I know people don't care about my singular experiences in life as it's based on such a narrow point of view, that it's pointless even worth mentioning.

The only reason I'd have to mention such a thing so consistently is if I needed some validation or acknowledgement from "strangers on the internet" that I'm attractive, when really I'd rather learn from actual wider points of view than give my teasing "I'm no Brad Pitt he he but I'm alright and slay all the time" point of view.

You've thought way to hard about who I am!

Honestly, you seem very intelligent; there must be something better you can put your mind to than this non issue.

 

[blackg]

You've thought way to hard about who I am!

Honestly, you seem very intelligent; there must be something better you can put your mind to than this non issue.

I really do like that guy you're referring to. I can't speak his name because he asked me to ignore him.
But God-damn!! He just over thinks everything.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I really do like that guy you're referring to. I can't speak his name because he asked me to ignore him.
But God-damn!! He just over thinks everything.

I know and he writes these posts that clearly must take 15 minutes to construct and you think to yourself why does he give it so much thought?

He should put his talent into something more productive.

 

[Rudiger]

You've thought way to hard about who I am!

Honestly, you seem very intelligent; there must be something better you can put your mind to than this non issue.

It really doesn't take a lot of thought to figure it out, and not that it did take 15 minutes (maybe 5?) but shaming someone over their effort in making a point doesn't negate the point itself.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

It really doesn't take a lot of thought to figure it out, and not that it did take 15 minutes (maybe 5?) but shaming someone over their effort in making a point doesn't negate the point itself.

I'm not trying to shame you over your posts - its just that perhaps you have better things to do.

I'm all for a debate on an interesting topic though.

 

[blackg]

Shaming someone!!!????
Again... Over f*****g thinking!!

 

[Rudiger]

I'm all for a debate on an interesting topic though.

Unless it's you!

In the guts of my post was the pointlessness of mentioning a single anecdotal personal experience as something we should really acknowledge as noteworthy.

I acknowledged that overall you are at least smart enough to see that in a wider experience of things, this kind of nonsense is pretty pointless. All it does is beg for people to say "well, if the facts say the top 20% get attention, and you have one experience, of getting attention, maybe you don't realise you're in that 20%?"

I mean the intention is so obvious and doesn't take rocket science to figure out that you just want that validation. It doesn't require a lot of thought, and I haven't thought that hard about you, it's incredibly clear.

 

[blackg]

Yep, clear as a forest in springtime.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Unless it's you!

In the guts of my post was the pointlessness of mentioning a single anecdotal personal experience as something we should really acknowledge as noteworthy.

I acknowledged that overall you are at least smart enough to see that in a wider experience of things, this kind of nonsense is pretty pointless. All it does is beg for people to say "well, if the facts say the top 20% get attention, and you have one experience, of getting attention, maybe you don't realise you're in that 20%?"

I mean the intention is so obvious and doesn't take rocket science to figure out that you just want that validation. It doesn't require a lot of thought, and I haven't thought that hard about you, it's incredibly clear.

I'll ignore the slight on my character and discuss the topic.

Before I came onto GourmetStyleWellness I would have considered myself average and I thought my experiences were normal. Now after reading a lot and many more discussion I realise that I am somewhat above average (although it is hard to assess where you stand due to issues of objectivity). Its only through reading posts that open up my eyes to how tough it is for some that I begin to know that I am lucky in many ways.

The problem is that men who are 6 or 7s still just look at the 8s and the 9s and see themselves as not that attractive.

Its a bit like a man who owns a house and a nice car but he still envies the millionaire down the street.

 

[Rudiger]

I'll ignore the slight on my character and discuss the topic.

Before I came onto GourmetStyleWellness I would have considered myself average and I thought my experiences were normal. Now after reading a lot and many more discussion I realise that I am somewhat above average (although it is hard to assess where you stand due to issues of objectivity). Its only through reading posts that open up my eyes to how tough it is for some that I begin to know that I am lucky in many ways.

The problem is that men who are 6 or 7s still just look at the 8s and the 9s and see themselves as not that attractive.

Its a bit like a man who owns a house and a nice car but he still envies the millionaire down the street.

Well then you should just ignore the whole point itself, it's not incredibly deep or anything, it's about intentions, and reason.

Your reason for bringing up one single experience, when you're at least smart enough to know this is very pointless in the grand scheme of things, points out your intentions. And you got what you wanted.

Wrestle out of it by saying how lame it is I write for 15 minutes (did I even reply 15mins after you posted? I'm pretty sure I saw it and replied straight away within 5) and backhanded compliments about how I'm so intelligent I need to stop "thinking so hard about you" or- focusing on pointing out your fallacies, but that's about as clear as I can make it, and keep looking the other way.