21M Guys,i want your honest input: What makes me so unnatractive?

[Trompt]

At School,i was bullied badly,the popular ones would say i looked "nerdy" and "weird",being the weird one on highschool,and excluded was something i got used to,though,today i have no self steem left. I mean,i didnt choose to be born with this appearance and i cant control It. Yet,people mocked me off ALL the time,nota Just for my appearance,but i have always been Very shy and introspective,mainly in my teens. Noawadays i am way more outgoing,but i Stil struggle. Whatever,this was Just a rant. Im planning on killing myself real soon btw. On the other hand,my older brother is good looking and was popular in highschool

 

[shoegazing]

Mas você nem é feio kkk na escola que eu estudava você seria um 8/10. Não se julgue tanto, cara. Apenas perca um pouco de peso. Lhe entendo por um lado, já que sofri bullying pesado também. Felizmente consegui perder peso e melhorar alguns pontos que eu era desconfortável comigo mesmo antes.

Partir dessa pra o que tu acha que vai ser melhor não é a solução.

 

[Jpw1999]

To me, your eyes are dead and you look very depressed. Everybody gets made fun of in school, a lot of people at that age are just projecting their own insecurities.

 

[Trompt]

Mas você nem é feio kkk na escola que eu estudava você seria um 8/10. Não se julgue tanto, cara. Apenas perca um pouco de peso. Lhe entendo por um lado, já que sofri bullying pesado também. Felizmente consegui perder peso e melhorar alguns pontos que eu era desconfortável comigo mesmo antes.

Partir dessa pra o que tu acha que vai ser melhor não é a solução.

Valeu cara,vou tentar começar a fazer exercícios pra emagrecer,antes da pandemia eu era bem magro,engordei demais. Depressão que tá foda mano,auto estima lá em baixo,desânimo,ataques de Pânico frequentes.

 

[Trompt]

To me, your eyes are dead and you look very depressed. Everybody gets made fun of in school, a lot of people at that age are just projecting their own insecurities.

No matter how much sleep i got,my eyes still look like that. Dark circles are genetic,but it gets worse If i dont sleep enough. What options do i have,so my eyes would look better,other than surgery?

 

[5minutesbeforemiracle]

If you obviously don't put in effort to your appearance, people will look down on you

1. Your haircut is awful. Get something neat that suits whatever hair you have left, don't just let it grow long like that.

2. From the pics, you are either fat, or skinny fat. Start running at least 3.5km to lose weight, while dieting appropriately. Reduced bf% will make your face more attractive as people can see your cheekbones + jawline better.

3. SHAVE YOUR FACE. Your style of facial hair (soft, slightly overgrown; incomplete bear coverage) looks unkempt / gross.

4. Start lifting weights and bulk up. This will improve your overall attractiveness / self-esteem, but won't impact your face specifically.

From the pics, you are currently not attractive but this is easily fixable. If you look after yourself (I mean, groom / maintain yourself), and SMILE you will enter the "acceptable looks" category (no longer creepy) and won't be looked down on. If you get ripped enough you can get more alpha qualities too.

Lastly, don't try ending yourself. Make genuine attempts to improve instead.

 

[Jeju]

You have lots of attractive features. I would consider you attractive but shave.

 

[Trompt]

If you obviously don't put in effort to your appearance, people will look down on you

1. Your haircut is awful. Get something neat that suits whatever hair you have left, don't just let it grow long like that.

2. From the pics, you are either fat, or skinny fat. Start running at least 3.5km to lose weight, while dieting appropriately. Reduced bf% will make your face more attractive as people can see your cheekbones + jawline better.

3. SHAVE YOUR FACE. Your style of facial hair (soft, slightly overgrown; incomplete bear coverage) looks unkempt / gross.

4. Start lifting weights and bulk up. This will improve your overall attractiveness / self-esteem, but won't impact your face specifically.

From the pics, you are currently not attractive but this is easily fixable. If you look after yourself (I mean, groom / maintain yourself), and SMILE you will enter the "acceptable looks" category (no longer creepy) and won't be looked down on. If you get ripped enough you can get more alpha qualities too.

Lastly, don't try ending yourself. Make genuine attempts to improve instead.

Sorry,stopped Reading when you say i dont take care of my appearance and look like a "creep"? ,when you dont even know me bro. I know the beard dont look good,but i grew It out because i shaved every week and It was harming my skin. Your reply is not quite helpful,especially when you assume untrue things and say things to make me feel bad about myself.

 

[Renovation]

At School,i was bullied badly,the popular ones would say i looked "nerdy" and "weird",being the weird one on highschool,and excluded was something i got used to,though,today i have no self steem left. I mean,i didnt choose to be born with this appearance and i cant control It. Yet,people mocked me off ALL the time,nota Just for my appearance,but i have always been Very shy and introspective,mainly in my teens. Noawadays i am way more outgoing,but i Stil struggle. Whatever,this was Just a rant. Im planning on killing myself real soon btw. On the other hand,my older brother is good looking and was popular in highschool
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There's nothing wrong with your hair, facial hair is fine also.

The one thing that instantly affects someone's appearance is the eyes and they are not easy to 'change'. I personally don't think you look bad at all maybe just a bit tired. There's a few things that can 100 percent help this. And they DONT include overpriced creams which can make things worse.

- sleep on your back if you can, prevents water collecting into under eye bags. If this really isn't possible then sleep on side, but NEVER on front.

- regularly wash or splash face with cold water to again reduce bags, and avoid over moisturising eye area which makes it worse.

- look up facial massages and eye lid excersies online. Eg temple massages can increase blood flow and reduce eye bags and dark circles.

If you really have the time and effort then maybe even look up 'jawline excersises' and drink plenty water to reduce water retention (strange how that works) but a bit over the top for your situation imo.

 

[5minutesbeforemiracle]

Sorry,stopped Reading when you say i dont take care of my appearance and look like a "creep"? ,when you dont even know me bro. I know the beard dont look good,but i grew It out because i shaved every week and It was harming my skin. Your reply is not quite helpful,especially when you assume untrue things and say things to make me feel bad about myself.

Lmfao at this cope. What impression do you think your schoolmates had of you? They teased you for a reason. They (the people who teased you) and I judge(d) you based on your appearance; now I tell you how we saw it, and you try to deny.

Sure, maybe you do take care of your appearance, but that's not what it looks like when you've got that gross beard/moustache and long hair. And reducing bf% is part of taking care of your appearance.

I'm not trying to be hurtful, I literally gave you good advice on how to improve your looks so your classmates won't tease you anymore.

 

[Trompt]

Lmfao at this cope. What impression do you think your schoolmates had of you? They teased you for a reason. They (the people who teased you) and I judge(d) you based on your appearance; now I tell you how we saw it, and you try to deny.

Sure, maybe you do take care of your appearance, but that's not what it looks like when you've got that gross beard/moustache and long hair. And reducing bf% is part of taking care of your appearance.

I'm not trying to be hurtful, I literally gave you good advice on how to improve your looks so your classmates won't tease you anymore.

I meant i was bullied at School bro,i graduated in 2018. Yes,they teased me for my appearance,which i can not control. My hair was down my chest(like third pic),i cut It down my nick,like 10cm Chopped off. I am planning on getting a haircut tho.

What bothers me is the fact that you are triying to justify someone being teased by their looks,as if It was their fault. Even if you dont take of your appearance whatsoever,It doesnt give me the right to bully/tease you. As you saw,in some pictures i have my beard shaved,and i dont look good either,because i have a weak jaw.

 

[Andi0501]

Find your face okay and even attractive! You re more the latino type, which women mostly prefer.
You should try to smile a little, which then makes you appear much more relaxed and personable. Regular exercise and a healthy diet usually give you a propably a more attractive and masculine appearance

 

[Trompt]

Thanks. I am skinnyfat since 2020. When quarantine kicked in,i went from skinny as hell to skinny fat. Weird thing that i dont eat junk food,i have regular meals with healthy food,but i am sedentary and dont exercise at all. I drinks at least 1L of water a day

 

[spring15]

You are good looking. You should exercise regularly though, good for your physical & mental health

 

[CastorTroy]

You definitely need serous help if you’re thinking about killing yourself!
that is definitely not the answer a friend of mine killed himself and it’s not only a disservice to yourself but tragic for all who know and knew you it will leave a scar on them for the rest of their lives as well!
I have a theory even though how isolated you feel or how being victimized for so long makes you not care or figure everything is pointless that’s not true you just haven’t found where or what you need to be to find absolution or direction or really figuring out who you are . Something as simple as an ayahuasca journey or a level 5 mushroom trip might be what you need or maybe not I dunno how fragile your mental state is could be you just need a change of scenery of culture maybe like teach English in some 3 rd world country off the grid challenge the way you see the world . When I lived in Italy for a few years it was like an alien world to me compared to the US
There is always potential or opportunity no matter how hopeless the situation might seem or feel . You are probably suffering from PTSD related to all this mess and that must be addressed ASAP

 

[DanielHooper]

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