A possible realization to an old rejection... What do you think?

[maher]

Maybe she had to take a dump. Girls can be meticulous when it comes to that..

 

[kirk]

Around 3 years ago I invited a German girl to my house, a girl who I had been fooling around with for some time. When I told her to come over that day, we hadn't seen each other in 4 or 5 months.

She lived very far, like an hour and a half away, so the plan was to talk a bit and then cook dinner together --and then well, we didn't talk about the rest but we knew what came afterwards--.

So she made the 1 and a half hour trip, arrived at my house, but since the first moment I noticed something weird in the way she looked at me. I thought that maybe it was something that I said so I just didn't pay attention to it. After about 15 minutes of talking, I said something like "well let's have a drink and maybe a snack before we start cooking?", and she said "hmmm... actually I think I'm gonna go". I was really surprised at that response, and she added some lame excuse like "yeah I have to wake up early tomorrow" or something like that.

She left and I was absolutely astonished. I asked myself a thousand times what had happened... Why did she travel one hour and a half and left after only 15 minutes?

I never really knew and had a thousand theories, until today when I saw a picture of myself during those days, and noticed my hair. This was 3 years ago, when I started losing my hair, and my hairline was already receded badly, pretty noticeable and unattractive already, especially for a young girl (I was 26 and she was like 21). It's worth mentioning that after she left that day I was never able to make contact with her again.

Is it possible that my hair was the deal breaker? I can't find any other reasons as to why she would have left like that, especially since we had our history. I think she would have been more forgiving if the problem was something I said (even more considering she had to travel another hour and a half!!!).

Any thoughts?? Or maybe I'm going crazy already?

This is pretty messed up OP. You must have been like me before hair loss. You know, not so vain and concerned with appearance. I was in denial for a loooong time. I think I went a year just telling myself I was getting a series of bad haircuts Then another year fvcking around with that **** of a product Nioxin (blah!). Anyways, it's amazing how hypocritical females can be. They are the first to say how attraction is all about personality and sweetness or whatever, but ohhhh! you better not start losing your hair cause all bets are off!

On the upside, women start losing their looks kinda early in life. So in the future if there is a cure...PAYBACK my friend

 

[hellouser]

This is pretty messed up OP. You must have been like me before hair loss. You know, not so vain and concerned with appearance. I was in denial for a loooong time. I think I went a year just telling myself I was getting a series of bad haircuts Then another year fvcking around with that **** of a product Nioxin (blah!). Anyways, it's amazing how hypocritical females can be. They are the first to say how attraction is all about personality and sweetness or whatever, but ohhhh! you better not start losing your hair cause all bets are off!

On the upside, women start losing their looks kinda early in life. So in the future if there is a cure...PAYBACK my friend

Let's see which sex is the more pleasant one to the eyes when all that fvcking makeup comes off. Most women look like a trainwreck without all that crap on their face.

 

[resu]

Even those women get plenty of attention from fullhead's, this is the thing that I don't get if balding is so common where the hell do these NW1's with no self esteem, no standards come from? They clean all the scraps. It actually seems that we're the minority otherwise a fullhead would feel special. The worse part is that they're some pandering motherf#ckers who ruin every women to the point that they feel like they're princesses full of entitlement.

And yes I understand this post sounds awful but I'm buzzed and I feel awful with a #1 because of the coldness in my head.

 

[Muzzle]

It is true that bald men are sexy but they are not handsome..

So if youre a bald person that means youre nothing but a sex toy for women, don't expect something emotional

 

[bald29]

Even those women get plenty of attention from fullhead's, this is the thing that I don't get if balding is so common where the hell do these NW1's with no self esteem, no standards come from? They clean all the scraps. It actually seems that we're the minority otherwise a fullhead would feel special. The worse part is that they're some pandering motherf#ckers who ruin every women to the point that they feel like they're princesses full of entitlement.

And yes I understand this post sounds awful but I'm buzzed and I feel awful with a #1 because of the coldness in my head.

Baldness is actually not that common when you're young, that's why. Only 25% of men begin balding by age 30. That's still a minority.

Balding people in their 20s are even more uncommon of course. I don't know the exact number but I would guess something like 10% or less.

 

[Primo]

Even those women get plenty of attention from fullhead's, this is the thing that I don't get if balding is so common where the hell do these NW1's with no self esteem, no standards come from?

lol, they're all just far too lazy that's why, they want the easy and instant gratification option of these average looking women who will put out for them in an instant because they're desperate for a trophy nw1, as opposed to the harder, more challenging proposition of a good looking girl, who isn't going to open her legs to every guy who approaches her and demands more than simply good looks, to be attracted and seduced.

I have plenty of friends like this all nw1s, all f**king useless when it comes to getting with anything over 6 level women. One of them literally looks like a male model, tall, dark, muscular, chiselled nw1 fullhead, but despite going out almost every week, he rarely ever gets anything better than the odd 6/7 because he relies way, way too heavily on his looks and nothing else and his chat and game is painfully basic. Like I said this routine works for average girls, but not for 7+.

It's human nature I guess, lazy guys just taking what they can get and what is in easy reach and blaming everything and everybody but themselves for not being able to attract the good looking girls they truly crave. Just like the guy who grew up in poverty being more successful in life than the guy who grew up financially comfortable, not having to fight for everything.

I was the same too at around 18/19 pre nw3 days, but it's only when something like male pattern baldness hits you and robs you of that looks, first impression advantage, that you are actually FORCED, more than anything else to become expert level with chat and game ( in order to attract any decent girls at all) it's then that you realise just how f**king useless and clueless 95% of these nw1 guys are when it comes to picking up decent women.

 

[Raz]

but it's only when something like male pattern baldness hits you and robs you of that looks, first impression advantage, that you are actually FORCED, more than anything else to become expert level with chat and game ( in order to attract any decent girls at all) it's then that you realise just how f**king useless and clueless 95% of these nw1 guys are when it comes to picking up decent women.

This is so true. I'm 24, used to be popular with the ladies as a NW1 dude in my teens (up to 19½), then became a diffusing NW3½ quickly at 20 and had to really learn to compensate for things in a different way. I was a mess for a bit, but it started working out some time ago. When I go out with my NW1 buddies, literally most of them are really clueless. Ironically enough, I am (for now) back to being a NW2~, being on the meds, so my game has never been better. You really do feel invincible when you have been robbed of your confidence (male pattern baldness), only to have found a way around it in due time, only to get back your youthful looks again (responding to meds). It's nuts. Sorry if this post came off as slightly showing off - just thought Primo's observation was spot on.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Learning "game", becoming a good listener and conversationalists can with the right women counteract the first negative impression. You basically have to be an expert at human psychology and a master at psychological/emotional manipulation even if it just comes off as being a good person with decent morals and their heart in the right place… underneath all that lies a complex system of manipulation that must rival the most prolific sociopaths. All of this in an effort to enchant and distract the female's attention away from the obvious and seduce them into the "possibility".
I'm not saying it is impossible when you look at Neil Struass (master manipulator) but like Fred expressed earlier, even with successful game and after you have won them over there comes a period where the womens social instincts kick in and they realize "what am I doing with this bald guy? I can do better… were too different blah, blah, blah,".

I guess what I am trying to say is that all you are doing by throwing your game is trying to cast a spell to enable the woman to "see past" the baldness. Spells don't last, they wear off in time.

 

[bald29]

Learning "game", becoming a good listener and conversationalists can with the right women counteract the first negative impression. You basically have to be an expert at human psychology and a master at psychological/emotional manipulation even if it just comes off as being a good person with decent morals and their heart in the right place… underneath all that lies a complex system of manipulation that must rival the most prolific sociopaths. All of this in an effort to enchant and distract the female's attention away from the obvious and seduce them into the "possibility".
I'm not saying it is impossible when you look at Neil Struass (master manipulator) but like Fred expressed earlier, even with successful game and after you have won them over there comes a period where the womens social instincts kick in and they realize "what am I doing with this bald guy? I can do better… were too different blah, blah, blah,".

I guess what I am trying to say is that all you are doing by throwing your game is trying to cast a spell to enable the woman to "see past" the baldness. Spells don't last, they wear off in time.

Absolutely true. And that spell sometimes doesn't last too long. When you meet girls, and message them the following day you can tell that they had too much time to think about your baldness, and you're screwed already. I had this happen to me thousands of times as a bald head. Before that, it wasn't the norm.

Dating when you're bald requires extreme amounts of effort. It's not impossible, but in my opinion the effort required is not worth it. Dating is not supposed to be that hard.

 

[2bald2young]

Absolutely true. And that spell sometimes doesn't last too long. When you meet girls, and message them the following day you can tell that they had too much time to think about your baldness, and you're screwed already. I had this happen to me thousands of times as a bald head. Before that, it wasn't the norm.

Dating when you're bald requires extreme amounts of effort. It's not impossible, but in my opinion the effort required is not worth it. Dating is not supposed to be that hard.

True...

 

[scorpiolove]

To Resu, not all black people are the same,you are generalizing because the media decided to put a negative subject out there about black people and most of the media is white owned anyway. Your probably the type of guy to go to a night club and listen to black music all night and bob your head to it. Rock and roll was invented by blacks too, don't forget that. The only thing that whites invented which revolutionized them was the invention of the shotgun,without it, history would of been different and I wouldn't have to hear you spew your ignorance about a culture you know very little about.Black culture is more diverse than you think,and isn't just in the U.S., were all over the world and live in different communities. FYI I'll give you a lesson in Biology,blonde hair and blue eyes are genetically recessive traits just like baldness,but I don't think we should we ridicule each other for being born white or black or bald or whatever the case may be, you didn't choose to be born white and neither did your mother or father,so what are you proud of? being a racist? Your not even on my level intellectually so think before you speak okay.

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Before you think I'm a racist, people,I only speak the truth,most people in the world have dark features, dark hair, dark eyes, dark skin.Take a look around you,even the whitest of the white people mostly have dark hair and or dark eyes,its been like this since the beginning of time and it won't change,and even if you were to say you are a pure race,than I hate to say it, but somewhere down the line, a few of your family members committed incest. BTW I am a mixed race person and I emphasize the word PERSON! I see a lot of you complain about people discriminating against your baldness but then you turn around and discriminate about dating or be seen talking to a black woman, it's a double standard and it's grotesque and ignorant how you want empathy about you being bald but wont accept others for being different(race). Until you accept others differences,no matter how slight or vast they may be,than you don't deserve empathy,the definition of empathy is to put yourself in other peoples shoes or have a positive emotional response toward them. Now can I get an applause.

 

[I.D WALKER]

I don't believe it's ever to one's advantage to ingratiate themselves to anyone, particularly a stranger. We can be pleasant and polite to the dames that catch our eye or are ready to date as long as we remained focused and attentive first to our personal interests and objectives. This is less about being selfish and more about self-respect. Dating ought to be a fun experience and not an event where we put our best angels or highest expectations on the line. Don't ever set up yourself (moreover her) with the notion that this girl might be your best or last shot. Regardless of whether she's an 8 or 9 in your eyes, she is a stranger first. Remember this tip and chances are you won't feel so vulnerable out there in jungle land. Dating can also be about getting familiar with your own character strengths or disadvantage points. You can work at self improvement while you are perfecting your dating skills, but try not to make it bigger than life. In other words, make it work for YOU rather than YOU working out of desperation for it.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I always say you will meet her when you are the most involved at doing what you love. Chasing your passions gets you noticed, but ever since hair loss this has become less relevant.