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So I don't be really know what to put for this in all honesty. About 3 years ago was the first time I actually noticed my hairline because someone pointed it out to me. Ever since then I have been extremely insecure about it, making every attempt possible to try and make it less visible. Should anyone comment on it, I find myself teary-eyed, embarrassed and frustrated because I just feel helpless against something that not many people my age have to deal with. I've tried so hard to be positive with it, forcing myself to say that I don't care and to accept it. Ultimately, this fails and I find myself coming home some days depressed, wondering why me? Why at such a young age? People have and will call me stupid for letting it affect me when there's people dealing with harsher things but it's hard for them to emphasise when they aren't the ones dealing with it. Like many people on here, my confidence is severely drained, to the point I struggle to form meaningful relationships without constantly thinking "will they notice my hair?". If I have any kind of romantic interest in anyone, my first thought is always "would they care if I was bald?". I don't even know why it makes me feel so insecure, any opinions on this? Feel free to call me childish and to suck it up if.
In my attempts to try and confide in people about my insecurity, it's always been met with false hope and, frankly, makes me feel worse. One of the only ways I get through conversations about it is if I make jokes about it. My mum has tried to help in ways but when I suggest anything serious, such as minoxidil or finasteride, she becomes fixed on the idea that they are too damaging for me. Along with this, she and some of my friends are adamant that I was "born with this hairline" and that it is not really receding. We once went to a GP about it because it was really affecting me and she told me similar to what my mum said and only gave me advice that I can easily get on this website. This gave me a temporary confidence boost until I looked in the mirror months later to realise it was only getting worse.
At this point, I'm at a pitfall. I don't know what to do. I've spoken to my mum again about serious treatment for it and she said she will look into it but no promises. I just feel so helpess. People say that losing their hair makes them feel as if they've lost their youth, yet these are those who lose their hair in their late 30s (a time I wouldn't be bothered about frankly). Imagine how this feels for someone who isnt even at university yet?
I would like to think that my hairline has been like this since my childhood but this is just ignorant bliss that I can't have. I probably sound dramatic but it's honestly affecting me a large amount. My dad is the only bald person within my family and I do not know whether my dad's father is bald. My mum's father has a receding hairline now but still has his hair, so maybe there's hope? This generation is surrounded by the aesthetics of each other and, normally, I would not be affected by social standards but, when it comes down to it, I would like to romantically involved with someone and my hairline is probably the biggest issue that is getting in the way.
I'm sorry for how long this is. Hopefully anyone can relate in some way and perhaps talk to me about it since I haven't actually spoken to someone about it with them being honest and helpful. Also, what would you say my hair is on the Norwood scale?
In my attempts to try and confide in people about my insecurity, it's always been met with false hope and, frankly, makes me feel worse. One of the only ways I get through conversations about it is if I make jokes about it. My mum has tried to help in ways but when I suggest anything serious, such as minoxidil or finasteride, she becomes fixed on the idea that they are too damaging for me. Along with this, she and some of my friends are adamant that I was "born with this hairline" and that it is not really receding. We once went to a GP about it because it was really affecting me and she told me similar to what my mum said and only gave me advice that I can easily get on this website. This gave me a temporary confidence boost until I looked in the mirror months later to realise it was only getting worse.
At this point, I'm at a pitfall. I don't know what to do. I've spoken to my mum again about serious treatment for it and she said she will look into it but no promises. I just feel so helpess. People say that losing their hair makes them feel as if they've lost their youth, yet these are those who lose their hair in their late 30s (a time I wouldn't be bothered about frankly). Imagine how this feels for someone who isnt even at university yet?
I would like to think that my hairline has been like this since my childhood but this is just ignorant bliss that I can't have. I probably sound dramatic but it's honestly affecting me a large amount. My dad is the only bald person within my family and I do not know whether my dad's father is bald. My mum's father has a receding hairline now but still has his hair, so maybe there's hope? This generation is surrounded by the aesthetics of each other and, normally, I would not be affected by social standards but, when it comes down to it, I would like to romantically involved with someone and my hairline is probably the biggest issue that is getting in the way.
I'm sorry for how long this is. Hopefully anyone can relate in some way and perhaps talk to me about it since I haven't actually spoken to someone about it with them being honest and helpful. Also, what would you say my hair is on the Norwood scale?
