Accept That You Have Changed

[Michael84]

... And move on.
The idea of creating this topic was born after reading numerous identical posts about how bad and hopeless everything is, how people are unhappy when holes don't pay attention to them (because of male pattern baldness of course, no other reason is possible), about how inferior they became, and about their ruined life. I just want to share my thoughts about it.
I don't want to say or convince you that those arguments are wrong. Indeed, it's often annoying and painful to hear comments of friends and be rejected. Indeed, 99% of women either don't care about baldness of their partners or hate it and reject him. None of them thinks that male pattern baldness is something beautiful.
There is also at least one guy on this forum who tries to cheer up that crowd of depressed zombies: he gives positivie arguments, hundred of others say that everything is fuct and we must die. Stop it. Accept the fact that things have changed, you are not gonna be the same again. Yes, you have bad hair and you can not be like Justin Bieber or play Benicio del Torro roles anymore, and most probably you're rather ugly than otherwise. And you can't play an alpha male anymore, that's the fact, don't try to turn the time back and become a teenger with thick hair again. The only way out is to accept it and become indifferent. Whining here will change nothing. If you want to share with us how bad you feel and look then yes, you'd look better with hair and you'd have more hot women if you had your hair. But you don't, that is what you are now. Prepare to deal with other horrible things in your life, apart from baldness, that will surely appear later.

 

[Beingbaldsucksass]

As long as I take finasteride I don't have to accept this bull****

 

[Exodus2011]

michael whats your hair loss situation?

 

[form]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXAQKCeccjg&feature=relmfu

Time is against us now.

 

[slipy]

accept that im never going to be happy with myself again?
difficult task.

might sound a little sad to some that my happiness depends on a ''superfical'' factor but that's the way it is. although i could argue that the desire to look normal and fit in ,at least to the extent of not being singled out, isn't superficial and of little importance.

 

[johnret04]

Michael, what...are...you...on...about?

I'm sorry, but this is a little...redonkulous. While I've never seen anyone on here say that we "are fuct and we must die," it IS to be expected that a ton of people on here are going to want to talk about how to "fix" their balding problem - this is a hair loss talk forum, afterall, hello? There are probably tons of balding people out there that have accepted that "they've changed," but we're never going to see probably 95% of them on these boards because, well, they don't really care. Also, baldness usually is seen as something that's negative (at least to a lot of the people that are in this forum), and if they want to do something to combat that, then what's the issue? So long as they make informed decisions, leave them (us) be. Sorry for the comparison that I'm about to make: Just look at obesity. There are people that have given up on losing weight, but you'll still find a ton who want to do something about it. In my way of thinking, IF there is something that can be done to try and "fix" something that's affecting you, why not?

 

[DannyBoyy]

accept that im never going to be happy with myself again?
difficult task.

might sound a little sad to some that my happiness depends on a ''superfical'' factor but that's the way it is. although i could argue that the desire to look normal and fit in ,at least to the extent of not being singled out, isn't superficial and of little importance.

You want to be "normal" an "fit in"? why cant you just BE YOU and not like everyone else? what is wrong with being different? even though being or going bald is not that much off a deal is for you lot though for some strange reason.

 

[HairGuru22]

Accept and be a low level saiyan like Nappa? Never! (vegeta's voice)

 

[DannyBoyy]

Accept and be a low level saiyan like Nappa? Never! (vegeta's voice)

Or you could be bald an a leader like in star trek...

 

[Exodus2011]

You want to be "normal" an "fit in"? why cant you just BE YOU and not like everyone else? what is wrong with being different? even though being or going bald is not that much off a deal is for you lot though for some strange reason.

i put the study up here before

in fact it IS a big deal for young hair loss sufferers

something like 2/3 of people with at least moderate hair loss under 25 was preoccupied with it, i'll look for the study and post it up here, they surveyed people with hair loss

 

[DannyBoyy]

i put the study up here before

in fact it IS a big deal for young hair loss sufferers

something like 2/3 of people with at least moderate hair loss under 25 was preoccupied with it, i'll look for the study and post it up here, they surveyed people with hair loss

Yes i know its different for young people why would it bother older people? i mean yeah they maybe bothered but its understandable for an older person to go bald...and again why do YOU want to be like everyone else? why dont you want to be different? you like being a sheep? i couldnt careless what a study says dont mean crap and i wasnt talking about hair in that last comment i just ment in general but if not having hair makes me "different" or not "normal" makes me stick out from the rest sort off speak then good you listen to others an follow others i do my own thing thanks.

 

[chicknlittle]

Yes i know its different for young people why would it bother older people?...

Define older please. 30, 40, 50, 60? Im finding that mentally I am the same person I was at 20 as I pass those marks (currently 44). I am as vain as I ever was, and don't want to be less than the strong, hairier person I used to be, though my body is certainly going in that direction : ) I recognize that it would be wise and easier to just accept changes like this, but simply being old does not in itself make it easier to accept change. Being wise like a Buddhist monk, or being apathetic about my appearance might help, but Im not there yet. I think that I will go kicking and screaming through any further hair loss. Possibly, when im completely hairless and shiney I might look around and realize that the world goes on and that it's not actually that bad, but I really don't think that the process of losing will become any easier...

 

[DannyBoyy]

I ment 40s an 50s an so on but before you reply just read what i said in the last message actually i write it again for you "i mean yeah they maybe bothered" just think about that bit before you message me back...

 

[Mercury]

something like 2/3 of people with at least moderate hair loss under 25 was preoccupied with it, i'll look for the study and post it up here, they surveyed people with hair loss

JUST 2/3???

i dont see how it is possible that anyone could be unconcerned about going bald before the age of 25. someone please show me that guy.

 

[Exodus2011]

Yes i know its different for young people why would it bother older people? i mean yeah they maybe bothered but its understandable for an older person to go bald...and again why do YOU want to be like everyone else? why dont you want to be different? you like being a sheep? i couldnt careless what a study says dont mean crap and i wasnt talking about hair in that last comment i just ment in general but if not having hair makes me "different" or not "normal" makes me stick out from the rest sort off speak then good you listen to others an follow others i do my own thing thanks.

im not a sheep.. im naturally different despite what i do just from my bizarre racial combination and past.

but this thing still bothers me, and its not abnormal to be bothered by it

 

[slipy]

You want to be "normal" an "fit in"? why cant you just BE YOU and not like everyone else? what is wrong with being different? even though being or going bald is not that much off a deal is for you lot though for some strange reason.

''to the extent of not being singled out'' and to not be victimized and regarded as lesser human , even if they don't say it openly their actions speak for themselves.
stop taking things out of context.

and tell me how is it no big deal? tell me who wants to look old and rotten, like withering to death, while still in their prime age-wise? would it not affect the person emotionally? it's not ''different'', it's messed up, it's wrong.
i wish someone would just take a needle and pop that bubble of yours.

danny makes me miss seb's presence.

 

[Michael84]

michael whats your hair loss situation?

I am approximately NW2 with diffuse thinning on top. I don't take any meds... yet.
I understand you all who want to fight hairloss and maintain your hair but my message was aimed at those who have already lost their hair and those who complain in every single post that everything is ruined around in their life because they think people are disgusted with thin hair and baldspots. Probably they are right and it would be better to regrow your hair but we have changed and should forget our old hairstyles and thick hair because teenage years are gone.
I don't know how to explain this so you could all understand what I want to say. Maybe it's the same like those old ladies in their 60s who still try to look, dress, behave and live like a 20 year old chick. They can be beautiful pleasant looking for their age but they will never be 20 again.

 

[DannyBoyy]

''to the extent of not being singled out'' and to not be victimized and regarded as lesser human , even if they don't say it openly their actions speak for themselves.
stop taking things out of context.

and tell me how is it no big deal? tell me who wants to look old and rotten, like withering to death, while still in their prime age-wise? would it not affect the person emotionally? it's not ''different'', it's messed up, it's wrong.
i wish someone would just take a needle and pop that bubble of yours.

danny makes me miss seb's presence.

Im not taking things out off context you said "i could argue that the desire to look normal and fit in" why i said what i said about why cant you just be YOU and not like everyone else i was just saying basically...anyway... you said ''to the extent of not being singled out'' and to not be victimized and regarded as lesser human" others are doing this cause you are DIFFERENT to them hence why i said whats wrong with being different...the people who take the piss out of you are not worth it they are the type to take the piss out off ANYONE with things wrong with them you just happened to be their next victim these are called haters you get them deal with it.

"And tell me how is it no big deal? tell me who wants to look old and rotten, like withering to death, while still in their prime age-wise? would it not affect the person emotionally?it's not ''different'', it's messed up, it's wrong." you are going over board here yeah you might look abit older but not that bad hell i have always looked older then my actual age even before hair loss so dont give me this bull**** i know how it felt before hairloss so dont go on like i dont know how it feels like dude if you want to give in to haters then be my guess...so now what? you gonna feel bad about yourself? i understand its a b**ch to lose hair but what is feeling depressed gonna do bring it back? seriously please tell me what it does? how does it help in anyway?

 

[johnret04]

I am approximately NW2 with diffuse thinning on top. I don't take any meds... yet.
I understand you all who want to fight hairloss and maintain your hair but my message was aimed at those who have already lost their hair and those who complain in every single post that everything is ruined around in their life because they think people are disgusted with thin hair and baldspots. Probably they are right and it would be better to regrow your hair but we have changed and should forget our old hairstyles and thick hair because teenage years are gone.
I don't know how to explain this so you could all understand what I want to say. Maybe it's the same like those old ladies in their 60s who still try to look, dress, behave and live like a 20 year old chick. They can be beautiful pleasant looking for their age but they will never be 20 again.

I know this response is not for me, but I was one of the people who responded to you earlier on. I get what you were trying to say now. For a second there, I thought you were just being a jerk to hairloss sufferers in general, which I did not think was very nice. But after reading your follow-up comment, I now see what you're saying. Honestly, you sounded a bit douche-y in your original post, so I'm sorry for misinterpreting what you said.

 

[Michael84]

Glad you caught my thought.