Advice for people who are down about their appearance

[swingline747]

The guy you told me to Google: steroids. This is not even debatable. Few people know this, but you should never be able to see someone's six pack as they say, it's not natural, you have to take drugs to reach that result, you need bodyfat down there.

Horton?
Trust me Horton is NOT on roids. The guys just a mutant skinny strongman who works out like a fiend

 

[VeprSuper]

I'm 5'9, 190, 17 inch arms and not much of a gut. That's in my 40's and I have never used steroids, expensive protein drinks, creatine, nothing other than eating normally. I have my own weightroom and there is no mirror there

Genetics play a huge part and mine are just average. Anyone can make gains, though.

Fred, if you are thin, fit, and happy, that's all that matters.

 

[zzzzz]

1. Maher, bodybuilding doesn't mean becoming a 5'9 225 lb pure muscle steroid user. It is just increasing your muscle mass/decreasing your body fat in order to look better. You can take that to an extreme or not, it is your choice, I am certainly not

2. I don't exercise "because there is a void in my life" I do it to look good. Is putting in work to look attractive mean you are empty inside?

 

[swingline747]

dont work out because you are losing your hair. In the end it only makes matters worse when you still realize you are no more attractive than when you didnt work out and you wasted all that time. I work out because I always have, its addictin now. The more hair I lose the less and less I enjoy working out because I see it is fruitless to the overall picture.
Find a real good friend
find two big rocks to place your head down between
have your friend jump on the top rock
this seems to be the best way out of the situation I can find.
keeping fingers crossed for heart attack or that aneurysm Im waiting for.
Ive lost so much hair since this FUE Ive realized Im now doing a comb over. Working out does nothing to help this. Women dont fawn over you for it. people dont respect your more for it. You are just that bald guy who works out. You look like a criminal, or skinhead, or a bald guy. Thats it, but just a bigger one, which makes you a more noticeable bald guy. Im lucky enough the minoxidil foam thickens my hair but then mid day when I go to the gym and shower after it washes it all out and my hair is thin and whispy again.
Again take me and my brother. I work out he doesnt. He has perfect hair. My first floor tenant made the comment to his wife "wow look at their faces you can tell theyre brothers", so we lookalike. Girls still prefer him because his hair is perfect and he looks young. I can shave my head and look younger but then Im ugly with a shaved head.

Hair makes ALL the difference in looks. You can take a 10 guy with hair and a 10 guy shaved but norwood 7 both buff. Women will always go for the guy with hair. On a job interview, the guy with hair will be picked, even if being interviewed by a guy with whos bald. They look younger, healthier, and more intelligent. Bald men look ugly, distrustful, sinister, old and goofy.

ALSO be aware, working out will literally shorten you. I have lost about an 1.5 inches in height since I was in my early 20's. This can only be attributed to lifting weights and compressing my back and joints. So where I used to be taller now my brother seems taller depending on what shoes we wear.

 

[I.D WALKER]

Hi Swing, Are you referring to losing more of your preexisting hair(which is likely a given situation already) or only your surgically implanted hairs that you are already losing, or both? If it's the surgically extracted/implanted ones , I'm surprised to hear that, and a major bummer for you. If the transplanted(FUE) hairs are not surviving has your surgeon been any help explaining the loss and is he willing to discuss/offer an alternative course of action?

 

[swingline747]

Hi Swing, Are you referring to losing more of your preexisting hair(which is likely a given situation already) or only your surgically implanted hairs that you are already losing, or both? If it's the surgically extracted/implanted ones , I'm surprised to hear that, and a major bummer for you. If the transplanted(FUE) hairs are not surviving has your surgeon been any help explaining the loss and is he willing to discuss/offer an alternative course of action?

Im only 3 months in
I see no growth but its still "early" depending on who you talk to.
On top of that, my shock loss in front started late and is awful, THEN ON TOP OF THAT I just sent photos to the surgeon cause my donor area is covered in folliculitis and red bumps.
This has been a nightmare and like everything else in my life I try to fix and feel good about it just turns to ****. Maybe I have to wait the full year but everywhere online I read it seems things that should be happening to people in the first week are happening to me much later and much worse. I hate my life, honestly I do

 

[swingline747]

If this guy walks near your date (if you are lucky enough to get one) she will cream her panties automatically

[video=youtube;uV19i44R74o]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uV19i44R74o[/video]

You'll always be genetic trash without hair.

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Are you on finasteride? transplanted hairs will die without finasteride.

Yup on the guy in the vid. Trust me you are a second tier male. Even with money, your hot trophy woman will just be plowing this guy on the side. Hair loss FORCES you to literally just grab ANYONE and try and get a ring on the finger and kids in the belly or be alone. Personally/preferably Ill just Die alone. Hopefully pre 40. Love the comments on the guys looks in this compared to the college guys vid over 4 years.

You dont need finasteride for transplanted hairs. You need it for the hairs around them. Transplanted hairs (should be) are immune to the DHT that poisons your looks.

I personally can not take finasteride as I get side effects. I am trying a topical finasteride but in a VERY low dose. Im screwed and honestly the more I look back I should have not done this (hair transplant) accepted becoming an ugly freak compared to my other siblings and either turned to seclusion or becoming a violent natured animal.

 

[hellouser]

The next person who gleens at my bald head I will tell them if social convention had men wearing no pants it would be him who is embarrassed and not me.

You're giving people too much credit. They don't give a sh!t about hypothetical social conventions. They're satisfied with CURRENT social conventions and have no desire to give you any sympathy nor are they interested in having you feel better about yourself. The moment you get your hair back is the day you'll have them finding ways to rationalize their life satisfaction through the positional good theory;

There's an economic concept known as a positional good in which an object is only valued by the possessor because it's not possessed by others. The term was coined in 1976 by economist Fred Hirsch to replace the more colloquial, but less precise "neener-neener".

So essentially... you are to be bald and STAY bald just so the privileged of society can continue peg you at the bottom of the totem pole.

Know what I think? I think people are full of fvcking SH!T, I despise humanity.

 

[maher]

What we need is some kind of masonic lodge.

 

[hellouser]

Why are you guys talking about bodybuilding. Who even wants to be a meathead. It's nice to have SOME muscle definition.. Girls love that and its easier to buy clothes, everything fits

Only works to your advantage if your chest is exposed as often as your balding head to make up for your hair loss.

 

[hellouser]

^ This. When you live in Belgium, the land of eternal rain, working out won't do you any good, if you do it to impress other people, which is why people work out.

Plus walking around shirtless is punished by the law here.

Working out may make you feel better (I still don't know exactly why), but it won't give you an advantage when trying to score that hot 18 year old if you're sporting a chrome dome.

Working out raises testosterone levels and releases endorphins as well as increasing seratonin. It's actually much better for your mind than you think.

If she doesn't like bald men, having an athlete body won't change her mind, you'll still be bald.

And thats why baldness is basically a sexual death sentence.

 

[Primo]

Working out is for losers.

Who needs the gym, when you can sit around feeling sorry for yourself all day and jerk off to some quality nw1s like this dude below instead! unk: I could quite literally jizz all over his hairline, it's just too hot right now...and no I'm not beta in the slightest, I'm not a social retard either, I'm just red pill til I die, I like to spend all day every day in my room away from reality and the actual practices of the real world where I can wallow forever in a comfy blanket of self pity behind a 1000ft brick wall of sorry excuses... Also, I have become "self-aware"...just like Skynet. I suggest you all do the same.

 

[Exodus2011]

Working out is for losers.

Who needs the gym, when you can sit around feeling sorry for yourself all day and jerk off to some quality nw1s like this dude below instead! unk: I could quite literally jizz all over his hairline, it's just too hot right now...and no I'm not beta in the slightest, I'm not a social retard either, I'm just red pill til I die, I like to spend all day every day in my room away from reality and the actual practices of the real world where I can wallow forever in a comfy blanket of self pity behind a 1000ft brick wall of sorry excuses... Also, I have become "self-aware"...just like Skynet. I suggest you all do the same.

LMAO true as **** man.

even if baldiness makes it harder to get girls, at least we can still live normal life . . . . . . . people in wheelchairs can't.

 

[uncomfortable man]

even if baldiness makes it harder to get girls, at least we can still live normal life . . . . . . . people in wheelchairs can't.

Normal is relative. Someone else here said it best in their thread that it boils down to the law of averages. As long as you don't have too many visible flaws you can fit in to the average, which is a safe place to be. But once you have too many problems like the OP accounted for some unfortunate guy who was short, skinny, pale, bald and glasses you tip over into "freak" territory and that is when people turn on you.

Baldness in itself wouldn't be so harmful if it weren't for the hostile attitudes of OTHER people towards US. We are the victims of a social disease. They enforce an uncomfortable reality upon us with their behavior, literally rubbing our faces in it saying "neener neener". It's the animosity of human nature in action. People will always have a malevolent side to them that seeks out weaknesses in others to exploit for personal gain. It's the way of the world unfortunately, and if your in a wheelchair or obese or just plain ugly anything that puts them outside the norm relegates them to a lower class in which the quality of life is directly effected by way of how people perceive and interact with them.

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Know what I think? I think people are full of fvcking SH!T, I despise humanity.

Your right, undeniably so. Is it true that we are brothers of kindred spirit, comrades in our shared hatred for humanity?
A fellow realist....I think so. :agree:

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[VeprSuper]

Haha, check that guy out again in 10 years after the heroin and HIV have taken their toll:woot:

 

[swingline747]

Haha, check that guy out again in 10 years after the heroin and HIV have taken their toll:woot:

Hell still get more *** than us

 

[hellouser]

Hell still get more *** than us

LOL, so true.

 

[VeprSuper]

Haha, "***" is prolly accurate:woot:

 

[karankaran]

one thing which makes me angry is the one pointed out by 'uncomfortable man' , is when people lecture u on baldness without knowing a thing about it. and it is not just the case in america , it is the case everywhere. it is as if people decide what they think about things and consider it as a truth , the scientific knowledge is not even considered and is usually labelled as a 'belief'.

A perception not based on any facts or evidence is a 'belief' and a scientific theory is not, but unfortunately in this world, it is quiet the opposite.

In India, people told me to rub nails to get new hair!!! i understand that not every1 can know everything about every topic, but people can stop acting as jerks when presented with scientific facts.

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Most people in the world are a pathetic excuse for humanity.

 

[swingline747]

Working out is for losers.

Who needs the gym, when you can sit around feeling sorry for yourself all day and jerk off to some quality nw1s like this dude below instead! unk:

well with a pic like that how can you NOT whack one out?! Thats what I ask you

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one thing which makes me angry is the one pointed out by 'uncomfortable man' , is when people lecture u on baldness without knowing a thing about it. and it is not just the case in america , it is the case everywhere. it is as if people decide what they think about things and consider it as a truth , the scientific knowledge is not even considered and is usually labelled as a 'belief'.

A perception not based on any facts or evidence is a 'belief' and a scientific theory is not, but unfortunately in this world, it is quiet the opposite.

In India, people told me to rub nails to get new hair!!! i understand that not every1 can know everything about every topic, but people can stop acting as jerks when presented with scientific facts.

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Most people in the world are a pathetic excuse for humanity.

Well understand much is still based on old wives tales and some countries dont have the scientific info we do. We get most of our info from the internet, something a large population of India still doesnt have regular access to.

You want to feel down about appearance.
I had my guy at my house doing siding who Im pretty friendly with and we started talking about working to hard and its effects on your looks and hair. He has seen my brother and made a comment along the lines of "well your brother doesnt work hard hes still really young and immature"
I said "my brother is only 2 years younger than me"
He gave me a look of shock like I was his doctor and just told him he had cancer.

This goes to show how old baldness can make you look and how young hair can make you look.
Me and my brother were having drinks and he told me "yeah I got bored of that 19 year old I was fooling around with"
Granted my brother is THIRTY TWO!
I would LOVE to have a 19 year old again to fool around with but Id be damned if one would still even look in my direction.

It also like my life just wants to **** me at every corner with stress. Between my rentals and my issues with my GF and my own house Im shedding hair away like snowflakes.

I just found out one of the guys I work with whos 40 and has a SUPER thick head of 10 year old boy hair has just been diagnosed with MS..... I would take the trade if I could.