Are your summers just going away, together with your life? Mine are...

[bald29]

Just wanted to share my feelings about summer. A summer without dates, without going to the beach.

At least I have an excuse to wear a hat, but, as many people, I love summer. Or at least I used to. A lot of nice places to have drinks, plenty of fancy places to go on dates, girls feeling sexy and happy, and more receptive. I don't have to dig too much into the past; I was just seeing pictures from 2 years ago, with a full head of hair, on a nice rooftop bar, having some drinks with a girl. That was the last girl I dated.

Everything was suddenly taken away. I don't want to be overly dramatic, but it sucks to see my life going away. I've been totally incel for a year and a half now, I can't even convince a decent girl to go for a drink with me. Well, I stopped trying anyways several months ago.

Sometimes I look at the positives: I can work, earn money, go to the gym, play football, with no one bothering me. But that gets old fast, and sometimes I need someone to share things with. I was always independent, but by choice, and when I felt like it I would date for a while, then get tired of it and dedicate my time to myself. Then back to dating, and so on. The important thing here is that I had the choice.

It hurts more to see that I'm being successful, but no one cares. No woman gives a sh*t about that. A friend of mine told me one day: 'It must suck to be making a lot of money but have no one to even go to dinner with you'. He couldn't be closer to the truth.

I just hope that my treatments work and next summer I can have the life of a young adult. If not, I already decided that I'll be wearing a system. Then I can look even younger, and date the 20 year old hotties. That would be a nice revenge

What about you? Do you feel that summer sucks too, and that you can't enjoy it as the normal young people? How do you deal with it?

 

[AddictedtoSoftDrinks]

Just wanted to share my feelings about summer. A summer without dates, without going to the beach.

At least I have an excuse to wear a hat, but, as many people, I love summer. Or at least I used to. A lot of nice places to have drinks, plenty of fancy places to go on dates, girls feeling sexy and happy, and more receptive. I don't have to dig too much into the past; I was just seeing pictures from 2 years ago, with a full head of hair, on a nice rooftop bar, having some drinks with a girl. That was the last girl I dated.

Everything was suddenly taken away. I don't want to be overly dramatic, but it sucks to see my life going away. I've been totally incel for a year and a half now, I can't even convince a decent girl to go for a drink with me. Well, I stopped trying anyways several months ago.

Sometimes I look at the positives: I can work, earn money, go to the gym, play football, with no one bothering me. But that gets old fast, and sometimes I need someone to share things with. I was always independent, but by choice, and when I felt like it I would date for a while, then get tired of it and dedicate my time to myself. Then back to dating, and so on. The important thing here is that I had the choice.

It hurts more to see that I'm being successful, but no one cares. No woman gives a sh*t about that. A friend of mine told me one day: 'It must suck to be making a lot of money but have no one to even go to dinner with you'. He couldn't be closer to the truth.

I just hope that my treatments work and next summer I can have the life of a young adult. If not, I already decided that I'll be wearing a system. Then I can look even younger, and date the 20 year old hotties. That would be a nice revenge

What about you? Do you feel that summer sucks too, and that you can't enjoy it as the normal young people? How do you deal with it?

This is has got to be the worse summer of my life. I hope I can make it up next year.

 

[kirk]

I too and having a crap summer despite being a really positive person. I am becoming a bitter person these days. I get extreme social anxiety to the point of becoming dizzy when not wearing a hat outside. My life was glorious before hair loss. I feel like true male/female pattern baldness should be treated like a disability.

 

[Quantum Cat]

don't like summer's in general becuase I don't like hot weather or sun, but since balding they are definitely worse. I feel so much more exposed. Have to wear hats/hoodies and tons of concealer. My gyno means I have to wear layers which makes me even hotter

sometimes I wish I could say f*ck it' and shave off all my hair and not give a sh!t, but I know how ugly I look with shaved/skinhead because of my head shape.

On top of that I currently have a really painful ear infection, and it's too hot and no houses in the UK are equipped with air con :shakehead:

oh well I shouldn't complain, some people have it much worse... like those poor Palestinians in Gaza being slaughtered by the jews.

 

[SayifDoit]

don't like summer's in general becuase I don't like hot weather or sun, but since balding they are definitely worse. I feel so much more exposed. Have to wear hats/hoodies and tons of concealer. My gyno means I have to wear layers which makes me even hotter

sometimes I wish I could say f*ck it' and shave off all my hair and not give a sh!t, but I know how ugly I look with shaved/skinhead because of my head shape.

On top of that I currently have a really painful ear infection, and it's too hot and no houses in the UK are equipped with air con :shakehead:

oh well I shouldn't complain, some people have it much worse... like those poor Palestinians in Gaza being slaughtered by the jews.

You have Gyno and you're still taking finasteride?
You one crazy mofo, but I respect that.

edit:
Ah I say...
So no surgery?

 

[Quantum Cat]

no my gyno developed about 2 years before I started taking finasteride. finasteride hasn't made it any worse

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I want to have surgery but it's highly unlikely the NHS will do it because it's not life-threatning. So I would have to pay for it

in any case I'm trying to lose some weight before I consider going down that route, because it will help my case.

 

[2bald2young]

I can't even take a hair transplant since my sides are thinning too, so that is not an option for me...

 

[wrwr]

My summer is fine. Just got back from resort after spending 4 days with a girl I liked several years ago, but it did not work. Now it's different story - so much better

I was also looking for other balding guys on the beach. There were plenty of them, and most of them looked happy. And plenty of guys were wearing hats, and it looked natural.

stop worrying - enjoy the sun while you can)

 

[2bald2young]

My summer is fine. Just got back from resort after spending 4 days with a girl I liked several years ago, but it did not work. Now it's different story - so much better

I was also looking for other balding guys on the beach. There were plenty of them, and most of them looked happy. And plenty of guys were wearing hats, and it looked natural.

stop worrying - enjoy the sun while you can)

If I was walking on a beach in my natural state people would look at me like i am some kind of alien and hair loss doesn't play much of a role.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I hate summer. So many "beach bods" showing off their privaliged genetics while I have to cower under a hat... in the heat. Yuck. Give me winter when I can get away with wearing a beanie any day of the solar year.

LOL @ WRWR.

 

[dreamermerlin]

I hate summer. So many "beach bods" showing off their privaliged genetics while I have to cower under a hat... in the heat. Yuck. Give me winter when I can get away with wearing a beanie any day of the solar year.

LOL @ WRWR.

In the summer it's even necessary to wear a hat, to not get sunburned, anyway too much sun exposure is not good(skin cancer, etc).

 

[dreamermerlin]

No, those guys are too "trivial" looking. Trust me, i don;t envy their hair at all.
And wtf about being 25 and haging with 16 year old girls? Are you serious?

 

[2bald2young]

The summer reminds me extra hard how bad my luck is, like most of us Looking at the normal guys and seeing them grabbing girls reminds me even further of that followed with a fml. Sigh

 

[Quantum Cat]

It's normal here in Belgium, since the age of consent is 16. Not the whole world is the US.

In France, the age of consent is even lower (15), it's just not well see by older women and insecure men.

"I would have nothing in common with her!" Yeah I'm sure guys saying that would hating dating hot 16 years old girls...

Dating these very young girls seems to be the only to possibly have a girl who hasn't had sex with 15 men before you.

there's a girl who I think is really hot but she's 19 so a part of me is thinking that's too young (I'm 32) and people would start labelling me a pedo.

I'm considering asking her out. Not expecting it to amount to anything though (as usual) :sad:

I guess she wouldn't be interested in someone my age anyway, unless I was rich, which I'm not.

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actually the majority of US states have the age of consent at 16

 

[resu]

Summer, winter, autumn, spring... rise and repeat.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Summer has always been a "looksist" season.

 

[zdm632]

What's that special about summer? It is a bit too hot for my tastes...
And, paradoxically or not, thin hair looks better in summer, yes! Because in the cold seasons, you have to spend more times in rooms with artificial light, and in my opinion, thin hair looks worse in that condition.

 

[FlopTurnRiver]

What's that special about summer? It is a bit too hot for my tastes...
And, paradoxically or not, thin hair looks better in summer, yes! Because in the cold seasons, you have to spend more times in rooms with artificial light, and in my opinion, thin hair looks worse in that condition.

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The appearance of thin hair is greatly worsened in sunlight. All I can see is scalp and it's gotten to the point where I don't look into my bathroom mirror which is just in front of the window in direct path of the sun in the mornings, as it depresses me greatly. The hair I have left looks better when I'm indoors with artificial lighting.

 

[zdm632]

Summer is good if you are good looking with a head full of hair.

Get out of here...in summer even guys with great hair buzz their hair, because it's hot and , for god's sake, you sweat...
Get out of the house, delusional guys...

 

[jeffshair]

I can definitely relate...Summers used to be my favorite season until I realized I was losing my hair, now I dread going outside
in the sun for fear of displaying a shiny head. Weird thing is I've been shaving my head (#2)
for so long that my hairloss to me went unnoticed, but now that I know I'm thinning
it just seems much worse since it's not by my own choosing. It reminds me of the Seinfeld episode
where Elaine is dating a swimmer who chooses to shave his head for both swimming and because he likes the feeling, then later
finds out after Elaine sees an older picture of him that he's actually losing his hair.


I also have a theory too that almost every situation in life can be related back to Seinfeld, but more on that later.


I used to like summer because I like to wear shorts and tshirts, for comfort, now I realize
I probably look like an old guy trying to "act" younger, or "hip" which I despised
when I was a kid.


It also sucks when your grandfather (who's 84, mind you) and uncles (all over 50) have thicker hair than you,
I guess I drew the unlucky genes. Life's a b**ch, but what'd you gunna do?