Bald guy with some questions...

[vjon]

Hi guys...my name is Jon. I'm a younger guy who is already completely bald on top. I'm recently single and I have some questions...I guess maybe looking for advice on what to do. Up until recently I was in a very long term relationship where in the beginning I still had almost all my hair, and throughout the course of the relatationship the rest of my hair on top fell out. I'm pretty much the "Norwood 7" Nothing grows on top anymore, but I buzz my sides/back with a #1 guard every week, or so. The #1 seems to cut to about an 1/8 inch and then I just wear a hat. My last girlfriend/fiance always said she didn't care that I was so bald, and I just always felt we would be together and the bald thing would never be an issue for me..at least in the love department. Well, now that I'm single I'm wondering how much this is going to hurt my chances with the ladies. I've always preferred girls younger than myself, and so I'm wondering if they would even be interested in a guy that is already bald? I know it's too late for any of the medicines, but should I do the hair transplant, a toupee, razor shave what's left right down to the scalp, or just continue on buzzing it? The only drawback I see to the buzz it that it obviously shows how little hair I actually have and so I was thinking the razor shave might help to conceal my "ring" of hair? I'm really nervous about getting back on the dating scene again, especially now that I look so different. This whole experience of my fiance giving my ring back because she said she doesn't love me and that we just got together too young has left me at a complete loss...my world has been been turned upside down. I thought we were going to be married and start having kids etc Anyway, enough of that I appreciate any feedback.... Thanks

 

[Pyro]

hey man tough break about your fiance Sorry to hear this man

I guess you should just keep it 100% shaved if your NW7. Ofcourse, if you really didn't like the bald look, i guess there are some good looking wigs out there nowadays. In saying that, if you're OK with the bald look, then yeah just shave it and save yourself alot of hassel!

Good luck with whatever comes your way mate! :bravo:

 

[wendal]

If I personally were in your position I'd see if I were a good candidate for a hair transplant. I know they are expensive but so is buying a car and you eventually get rid of the car, you keep your new hair for life. Either that or learn to love being bald. Since you are new to the dating scene again, quite honestly, being bald will limit your options a little (that's what so unfair about losing your hair!). There are always going to be women who simply are not attracted to bald men, that's just a hard fact of life. However there are plenty of good women out there that can overlook and even be very attracted to the bald look.


I asked myself recently if I could seriously consider wearing a hair piece and at first I thought I could because you can get the perfect hair without all the fight and hastle of medicines, surgeries etc but the more I thought about it the more I knew it would actually be worse than being bald. Constantly worrying if people knew. And then what happens when you meet someone and fall in love but then you have to wonder if she'll accept you after you are forced to tell her....screw that.

So anyway, yeah either continue shaving bald or hair transplant.

 

[anxious1]

Its totally up to u. my my advice is ...

forget transplants , hairpieces, wigs etc, and rock the skinhead look
its really ur only choice in my opinion. If ur really into younger ladies, then they will hate transplants and wigs just as much as baldness, maybe even more. not that there isnt plenty of ladies who wouldnt care, i suggest u find one of those.

I think if ur confident and honestly dont care about ur shaved head, they will not care either, but if u act depressed about it, u will draw attention to it, and look pathetic.

i suggest u focus more on ur body, and less on ur head. if ur not already start going to the gym, and find ur aesthetics that way.

Use ur hurt from ur break up and channel it into working out. (its a great release trust me), if ur not into gym, then do a new degree, or learn guitar or something. An electric drum kit is a great way to do all at once. (learn a new skill, release all inner anger, get fit)

Youll notice if ur great at guitar, or sport, or a scientist etc, people remember u as that person, and forget about the baldness. Powerful men with confidence attract many females, bald or not.

bald men that hide in a corner feeling sry for themselves, are destined to be lonely. Its fuked, but its reality.

 

[s.a.f]

Since he does'nt sound like the average crazy person on here :whistle: I'd suggest just shave it. Accept that you're a bald guy and try to put it all behind you. But be prepared that some women will not like it especially the younger ones. However how you carry it off will make a huge difference. The slightest display that you're self conscous about it will drasticly reduce your chances.

 

[vjon]

Hey guys! Wow! Thanks for all the replies! To answer a few questions, at 5'7", I'm on the shorter side. I weight about 145...I stay pretty lean through running 4-5 times a week, though I'm not really all that muscular. Hitting the gym is something I know I should probably do. I've always been told I dress well and not to toot my own own horn, but I've also been told I have a handsome face..think olive skinned italian. One of the reasons I've never razor shaved the "horseshoe" is because my ears do protrude quite a bit and at least the 1/8 inch stubble maybe takes a little away from them? When I was little I used to get made fun of for them, but then my parents allowed me to grow the hair over the tops of my ears, which did conceal them. Of course, this is no longer an option lol After doing some reading on here I've pretty much decided that I either need to just completely shave the sides & back, or continue to buzz them with a #1 and just move on... I don't really think a hair transplant with body hair is for me, neither is a wig or a toupee. I have a great job and a way to provide for a family, so hopefully I can find another girl that can appreciate these things and look past the fact that I'm already bald. I want kids...pretty much just the simple famiy life would be so awesome! I was with my fiance since my senior year of high school....which meant we were together for almost 10 years. I never cheated on her...never really wanted to. Sexually, she was the only girl I've ever been with. I hope another attractive, younger girl can also appreciate this. Being single has brought all my insecurities...bald, protruding ears, short etc to the surface.

 

[vjon]

....something else I forgot to add

is that I've never really fully accepted being bald quite so young, but I know I need to. Having a girl by my side throughout the entire balding thing allowed me to kind of hide behind a hat etc... Though, I know it still bothers me because otherwise I wouldn't wear a hat all the time and I wouldn't get so embarassed when my friends sometimes yank it off my head and rub it etc... I know it's just what guys do and they're not trying to hurt my feelings, but having your bald head suddenly exposed is never fun lol I'm also afraid of the day when I do meet another girl and I have to take off my hat and let her see my blinding scalp....

 

[optimus prime]

If you are a NW7 then you will have to drop the hat all together otherwise people will think you are trying to hide something when the hat comes off.

If you act like you don't care and show the NW7 then others won't care.

How old are you?

 

[spss]

girls don't give a s**t that you're bald.. its the same thing as height, weight, dressing style. some girls like more guys with hair, some don't care. some girls like guys dressed like metrosexual, some like the macho style. Whatever!

Fact of the matter is my friends who are bald and are confident still pull girls, my friends who are bald and ashamed about it do not pull girls.

The issue with baldness does exist and it's huge, but it is completely psychological and in ourselves. If you get past that (which is not easy, otherwise we wouldn't be here, myself included) you'll see there is no difference between being bald or not.

i challenge anyone to look at their friends and find just ONE bald guy that is confident/fun/well groomed and does not pull girls. no way!
i could make thousands of examples relating to all kind of supposed appearance "problems" and find the same thing apply.

and slowly try to step away from using the hat, which is only reinforcing your thoughts of shame and having to hide it.

after my long *** post i ask you, what is your issue with being bald again?

hope my post isn't interpreted as challenging or something.. unfortunately discussing such a delicate topic over the internet in the appropriate manner is not easy!

 

[Dedge89]

Hey man, sorry to hear about the break up I stayed with my 'school sweetheart' for about 3 years up until my 19th birthday, wanted to spend my life with her but she had other plans and cheated on me...what I'm getting at though is when I was with her I was (not blowing my own trumpet) one of the best looking guys around, and she was/is probably one of the best looking girls I've met so I was always confident with the girls and never had problems.When we were together I had a full thick head of hair and during our last few months together I had started thinning quite bad and she used to tease me about the bald patch emerging and shave my hair off for me every week. So fast forward a year after we broke up (as if I wasn't distraught enough) my hair had thinned pretty f*****g bad on top, like you could see the horseshoe starting to develop. At 20 this DESTROYED my confidence fully. I had gone from feeling like Brad Pitt to feeling like the biggest loser ever. I stopped going out, seeing my friends, talking to girls...man those were low times...

Anyway, point is, I hit the gym, boosted my self confidence, started buzzing my hair to a grade 1 and using meds and eventually when my confidence rose back up I realised really attractive girls were still interested in me, even though I was going bald (dont be fooled by my avatar picture, if you saw a top view its a diff story!!). And dude I'm only 21 now (bout to be 22 real soon) and to have a faint horseshoe developing already at this age is a pretty big set back but if 18/19 yr old girls are still interested in me despite this then I'm sure females younger than you will still find u attractive, especially if you're well older than me and its more acceptable for you to be bald/balding at that age!

Anyway man, best of luck hope your confidence and self-esteem go back to normal soon. Break-ups + balding is a merciless combo...probably the worst period in my life!