Balding guys just cant catch breaks

[Pondle]

You dont understand that some people have no place in this society. I know what Taug feels. I'm also get rejected by people all time. No one invites me for anything for example.

Then you have to make new friends. Join a club. Take up a hobby. Do something different.

 

[Guest]

there is a saying...if you give up, you have lost already.

i think both, IBM and tauge have given up their (social) life.

if you do so , noone can help you.

 

[hair today gone tomorrow]

there is a saying...if you give up, you have lost already.

i think both, IBM and tauge have given up their (social) life.

if you do so , noone can help you.

really? Ive never heard that saying.

Maybe you meant this one?

If you fight, you may lose, but if you don’t fight, you’ve already lost.

 

[s.a.f]

Well if you approach any girl you like as if she's "the One" you'll probably scare her off anyway :lol: . The point is, Taug is always complaining that he can't get dates/sex/a girlfriend. And if, like Taug, you never approach anywomen, you will never get dates/sex/a girlfriend. However, if you do want dates/sex/a girlfriend it doesn't mean you have to approach every woman!

Well, if we ignore my social phobia and the total lack of social skills then I actually might approach a girl. But the fact is that none are interested in me. They quickly look away when they see me coming or ignore me thinking something like:"Omg, hopefully that ugly fellow won´t talk to me." I can read this in their faces.

you see what you want to see, get some help man

This is the whole problem Taug you need to sort out your personal issues and social phobia's. Only thenm can you even consider having a girlfriend.

 

[Guest]

there is a saying...if you give up, you have lost already.

i think both, IBM and tauge have given up their (social) life.

if you do so , noone can help you.

really? Ive never heard that saying.

Maybe you meant this one?

If you fight, you may lose, but if you don’t fight, you’ve already lost.

ya, maybe i meant this. lol.

 

[hair today gone tomorrow]

there is a saying...if you give up, you have lost already.

i think both, IBM and tauge have given up their (social) life.

if you do so , noone can help you.

really? Ive never heard that saying.

Maybe you meant this one?

If you fight, you may lose, but if you don’t fight, you’ve already lost.

ya, maybe i meant this. lol.

:lol:

 

[Guest]

there is a saying...if you give up, you have lost already.

i think both, IBM and tauge have given up their (social) life.

if you do so , noone can help you.

Look, I don´t give up. I am just trying not to get into any situations where I might lose. If I don´t approach any girls there isn´t any danger for me to get hurt or disappointed. I stay out of all the trouble. It is as simple as that.

 

[s.a.f]

You've got to take a few chances in life or it will be very dull..

 

[hair today gone tomorrow]

there is a saying...if you give up, you have lost already.

i think both, IBM and tauge have given up their (social) life.

if you do so , noone can help you.

Look, I don´t give up. I am just trying not to get into any situations where I might lose. If I don´t approach any girls there isn´t any danger for me to get hurt or disappointed. I stay out of all the trouble. It is as simple as that.

everyone has a danger of being disappointed....everyone gets in situation where they might lose...do you think guys get every girl they approach? Do you think people get every job they interview for?

 

[JayB]

Look, I don´t give up. I am just trying not to get into any situations where I might lose. If I don´t approach any girls there isn´t any danger for me to get hurt or disappointed. I stay out of all the trouble. It is as simple as that.

"I told Worm you can't lose what you don't put in the middle. But you can't win much either. "

what kind of life is spent in a safety net.

 

[hair today gone tomorrow]

Look, I don´t give up. I am just trying not to get into any situations where I might lose. If I don´t approach any girls there isn´t any danger for me to get hurt or disappointed. I stay out of all the trouble. It is as simple as that.

"I told Worm you can't lose what you don't put in the middle. But you can't win much either. "

what kind of life is spent in a safety net.

bingo

 

[Guest]

very true.

tauge, doesnt it hurt to get no girl. doesnt it hurt to be a nerd. doesnt it hurt to have no friends?

yes , it does.

i know why life is like this...but if you want success, you need to get hurt.

since you get hurt anyway by your complete life....why not get hurt from women or potential friends?

it doesnt hurt you more than your life hurts.

and if you get hurt this way....if you get hurt by people when you try to approach them and get friends or a girlfriend.....then you definatley learn.

you learn automticly and it will make your life better.

learning social skills makes your life better. you realize that , dont you?

so....your life hurts you . better now make steps forward where you get hurt ...there is no other...no easy way...better to do so and get this big hurt which comes from your whole life away than getting hurt forever.

think logical. you are an intelligent guy. if you approach a person and it hurts ...there are so many benefits for your life. first you learn if you try it with some encouragement and really try to make it good.

just trying is wrong. you need to make a good try. its hard i know.

and it will maybe hurt...but not really.

in fact it wont hurt if you try your best. try really your best .....be friendly , talk a bit with the person and if it doesnt work. just go away and it wont hurt.

its so much you need to know that i cant say it all.

only thing for the end...if you do it the right way...even if you dont "succeed" it wont hurt you. and if it doesnt hurt you can do it as often as you want to.

just find a way when it doesnt hurt. i dont know where you want to start? do you want to start with girls or with potential friends?

just be friendy and open and when you see the person doesnt react positive then just go away and think "what an ***" or "what a b**ch" ...then it doesnt hurt.

ok? so go out and try it.

 

[Guest]

Yo, thanks Neo for your help!

Of course it hurts to be a loser but you know I am still able to hide myself from other people and pretend that I am not suffering. If I would approach other people then they would see that I am a loser and have no social skills. Then I would be ashamed in front of them. Yeah, it might not be that bad when I am approaching complete strangers, but I definetly won´t approach other people at Uni since I would have to see them again.

My priority would definetly be to find friends or buddies to go out with. I think if I would take this step then I might find a girl sooner or later.

 

[s.a.f]

I'm actually going to agree with Neo1234 That was a good post.

Taug what type of people do you want to be hanging out with? (let me guess) the coolest most popular guys, the most good looking girls?
Well its unlikely that they will accept you straight into their group from nowhere. You need to find just one average guy as a freind and from then on you will eventually get introduced to his circle of freinds and the people he knows etc...
Thats the way it works. :wink: I see so many new people who start work at my place they come from another area and dont know anybody but they just act freindly and get talking to other people and in just a few weeks they have made loads of new freinds. Most people have no problems making new freinds this way, if you're shy it may be a little more difficult but you've just got to take the initiative and do it!

 

[Guest]

Such the life of a balding guy. The only strike against him because he would prob be a decent looking fellow if it wasnt for the lack of hair..but that girl just blasted on the flaw and was confident in saying he wishes that he could get her...She believed it too, as all girls do regardless of if their fat or ugly...they know any balding guy would be happy to just have sex with a member of the opposite sex. What a confidence booster for women to say to themselves "well a bald guy would still do me" and then move on

Yeah, being a girl must be like living in paradise in today´s western society. Even ugly ones get so much attention by guys, it is just insane.

But I don´t want to give these sl*ts this power. Whenever I see a girl I look arrogantly away and clearly show them that I am mot interested in them. I don´t want them to think: "Oh, yeah, that ugly guy wants me, I am so beautiful."

yeah you have issues.

 

[Guest]

I'm actually going to agree with Neo1234 That was a good post.

Taug what type of people do you want to be hanging out with? (let me guess) the coolest most popular guys, the most good looking girls?
Well its unlikely that they will accept you straight into their group from nowhere. You need to find just one average guy as a freind and from then on you will eventually get introduced to his circle of freinds and the people he knows etc...
Thats the way it works. :wink: I see so many new people who start work at my place they come from another area and dont know anybody but they just act freindly and get talking to other people and in just a few weeks they have made loads of new freinds. Most people have no problems making new freinds this way, if you're shy it may be a little more difficult but you've just got to take the initiative and do it!

No, I am not looking for the most alpha types as friends. Exactly like you have said I want to meet an average friend and then maybe get introduced to his circle and friends meet their friends and so on......

Like you say i have been observing so many guys. They come to a new place and a few days later they suddenly know all the people. I have been thinking about this for a long time. Why this doesn´t work for me? What I am doing wrong? Am I too ugly? The answer for this problem might be the root for many of my other problems. I don´t know it.

 

[s.a.f]

Looks do not come into it, maybe people are more attracted to good looking people on a subconscious level. (infact I'm sure this is true) but 99% of people are not that shallow that they would ignore somebody who they did'nt think was attractive. Maybe its the fact that you've been a loner/hermit for so long that people think you dont want to be sociable. If you had a job working with other people they'd have to talk and interact with you, I dont understand how you've managed to go to uni for so long without interacting with the other students.

 

[barcafan]

I honestly think its only a matter of time untill taug actually snap and god forbid brings a gun to school.

 

[blondeguy]

i'm not lighthearted about it at all. i was actually making fun of both the guys who claim hair loss is life ending(taug) and the guys who claim it doesnt matter at all(blondeguy). they're both stupid extremes to live at.

I don't think it's a stupid extreme to not obsess over hair loss every day. It hasn't mattered at all in my personal experience, and based on your posts it hasn't mattered in yours, either.

 

[s.a.f]

And thats why you searched out a hairloss forum and make 100's of posts on it... because it has'nt mattered to you at all. :wink: