Balding is a death sentence for online dating

[Norwoodcel]

I would say balding is the number one killer for your chances on online dating because it's so obvious and blatent to see.

In the ages of fast 1 second swiping, a woman doesn't need to challenge the brain and eyes too much to see that you're a genetic failure because the hairless head is so obvious to see. I feel you can get away with a bit of averageness in the face if your hair is there. Some women will find you cute if you're a 5/10 in the face.


I have a fairly decent face.. i'd say 6.5/10. Been called handsome/cute all my life and did well when i was younger. One of my buddies is fairly average looking in the face and shorter than me, but he has a good hairline and grows his hair out.. His Tinder matches outdo me by 5 times. He has 5 times more matches and likes than me.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I would say balding is the number one killer for your chances on online dating because it's so obvious and blatent to see.

In the ages of fast 1 second swiping, a woman doesn't need to challenge the brain and eyes too much to see that you're a genetic failure because the hairless head is so obvious to see. I feel you can get away with a bit of averageness in the face if your hair is there. Some women will find you cute if you're a 5/10 in the face.


I have a fairly decent face.. i'd say 6.5/10. Been called handsome/cute all my life and did well when i was younger. One of my buddies is fairly average looking in the face and shorter than me, but he has a good hairline and grows his hair out.. His Tinder matches outdo me by 5 times. He has 5 times more matches and likes than me.

Anyway we can sway the Judge to lessen our sentence. What can we do to get paroled?

 

[Diffused_confidence]

I would say balding is the number one killer for your chances on online dating because it's so obvious and blatent to see.

In the ages of fast 1 second swiping, a woman doesn't need to challenge the brain and eyes too much to see that you're a genetic failure because the hairless head is so obvious to see. I feel you can get away with a bit of averageness in the face if your hair is there. Some women will find you cute if you're a 5/10 in the face.


I have a fairly decent face.. i'd say 6.5/10. Been called handsome/cute all my life and did well when i was younger. One of my buddies is fairly average looking in the face and shorter than me, but he has a good hairline and grows his hair out.. His Tinder matches outdo me by 5 times. He has 5 times more matches and likes than me.

Online dating is terrible right now. I did read a study that a person with hair is 5x more likely to get responses over someone who is bald but the picture they used I think grew out some hair on sides.

I saw another one on tinder where this guy was jacked and good looking with and without hair. Hair was 2.5x the matches but without hair still got 17 matches out of like 300 which is actually decent. That's like a 5% success rate. The hair version got like 42 /300. So it's a disadvantage but not a death sentence.

 

[trialAcc]

You know what else is a death sentence for online dating? Being an average looking guy with median income. Study after study, stat after stat on every online dating platform or app shows that 10% of the guys get 90% of the swipes.

I don't know how old you are, and it sucks that it's covid times, but know your strengths and don't put yourself in a position to fail. If you don't have other features to show off (like you're rich, have a 9/10 face or jacked with tattoos) and have significant visible hairloss, just ditch the apps. Go out and meet people the normal way where your personality and other features get to do the heavy lifting.

You said your friend is short, so the difference here is that he gets 5x more matches then you on the apps, but wouldn't get that in real life. Being short is just as much of date killer as hairloss, and he's just playing to his strengths and using the apps to get to know people before they can judge him for his height. Follow his lead.

 

[Norwoodcel]

All online dating is 90%, men...

That's right 90 PERCENT MALE.

The official studies and stats citing figures like 80% or 85.. but I'm betting they are not taking into account the fake/bot accounts, the men pretending to be women, and other assorted weirdos out there frauding.

The figure is around 90

 

[trialAcc]

All online dating is 90%, men...

That's right 90 PERCENT MALE.

The official studies and stats citing figures like 80% or 85.. but I'm betting they are not taking into account the fake/bot accounts, the men pretending to be women, and other assorted weirdos out there frauding.

The figure is around 90

It doesn't change the fact that of those 90% of men, 10% are getting all the attention.

 

[doubleindemnity]

You know what else is a death sentence for online dating? Being an average looking guy with median income. Study after study, stat after stat on every online dating platform or app shows that 10% of the guys get 90% of the swipes.

I don't know how old you are, and it sucks that it's covid times, but know your strengths and don't put yourself in a position to fail. If you don't have other features to show off (like you're rich, have a 9/10 face or jacked with tattoos) and have significant visible hairloss, just ditch the apps. Go out and meet people the normal way where your personality and other features get to do the heavy lifting.

You said your friend is short, so the difference here is that he gets 5x more matches then you on the apps, but wouldn't get that in real life. Being short is just as much of date killer as hairloss, and he's just playing to his strengths and using the apps to get to know people before they can judge him for his height. Follow his lead.

How exactly does a bald guy 'go out and meet people the normal way'? If you say hello to somebody with romantic intentions, within 30 seconds they will give you "I have to go". And, when or where do you go? I'm basing that on my experiences in bars and shopping mall areas.

Also I'm not disagreeing with the idea that a bald guy has no chance online dating. What I am saying is that a bald guy has no chance in any system of dating.

 

[vondoom]

can confirm, 5 matches in ten years... with hair, though^^

 

[INT]

How exactly does a bald guy 'go out and meet people the normal way'? If you say hello to somebody with romantic intentions, within 30 seconds they will give you "I have to go". And, when or where do you go? I'm basing that on my experiences in bars and shopping mall areas.

Also I'm not disagreeing with the idea that a bald guy has no chance online dating. What I am saying is that a bald guy has no chance in any system of dating.

You keep on projecting your own (chosen) reality and defeatism onto others. Why? It does not change your own position.

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

And Online dating is a death sentence for a happy and meaningful life.

 

[Notdifferent]

Hair or not, online dating is stupid. Most of the girls on there are bottom of the barrel too, I'm sure most of them only use it to boost their self esteem but not for seriously finding a partner.

This exactly. It has been proven over and over again and ppl are still like omg why do i not get matches

A lot of ppl who don't get laid while bald forget that they didn't get laid with hair too, it's kind of easy to take all your life problems and attribute them to one thing.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Online dating requires too much work. Just go out to places that interest you or go to local meet ups. Spontaneous meet ups are easy and you know what you are getting right away. With online dating you are handicapped by your photos and your profile and most people just use old photos when they were thinner or looked younger. Or frequent the same places and eventually you meet someone doing the same. Online dating attracts too many people to filter through. At meet up places you have less competition. I did better in event dating than online dating so I quit online dating many years ago.

 

[iCloud]

I don’t like online dating, and I have trust issues. Too many weird things going on.

I recently was on a dating site, and got a nice, cheerful, message from a guy. I was going to respond, but then I received a second message, and that message was clearly not intended for me but was sent to me by mistake. It was a long, pathetic message, addressed to a woman that he had apparently had a very brief relationship with, but who had dumped him. He was talking about being desperate, that he could not live without her, and how she had been wrong to reject him, and how he was nearly suicidal etc. This was about ten minutes after he had sent me a regular, fun message, sounding normal.

I kindly brought it to his attention that he had sent me a text that was obviously not for me.
He got into a rage, and denied having sent that message to me. He said I was lying and that he had only sent me one message. It was so pathetic. He had the unusual habit of ending sentences with two dots.. And in both messages there were these two dots at the end of every sentence. I don’t know why he kept denying it. Really, what a loser. I blocked him.

Also a friend of mine was dating a guy, who she discovered to have lied about his name. She found out by seeing his bank card which had his real name on it. He turned out to be a convicted stalker who had threatened his ex-wife with a kalashnikov (we found an article in the newspaper). I also found out he was living with another woman (I have connections who can trace this kind of information )

I prefer to meet people in real life. It’s less artificial. I would consider speed-dating though.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

This thread again..

I have a good hairline and my face looks very trustworthy, plus for some reason I look much taller in pics, and I'm in good shape.. I get more matches than the average guy, but it doesn't change much.. all I know about online dating is that it makes all parties involved (men and women) feel like sh*t.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

I don’t like online dating, and I have trust issues. Too many weird things going on.

I recently was on a dating site, and got a nice, cheerful, message from a guy. I was going to respond, but then I received a second message, and that message was clearly not intended for me but was sent to me by mistake. It was a long, pathetic message, addressed to a woman that he had apparently had a very brief relationship with, but who had dumped him. He was talking about being desperate, that he could not live without her, and how she had been wrong to reject him, and how he was nearly suicidal etc. This was about ten minutes after he had sent me a regular, fun message, sounding normal.

I kindly brought it to his attention that he had sent me a text that was obviously not for me.
He got into a rage, and denied having sent that message to me. He said I was lying and that he had only sent me one message. It was so pathetic. He had the unusual habit of ending sentences with two dots.. And in both messages there were these two dots at the end of every sentence. I don’t know why he kept denying it. Really, what a loser. I blocked him.

Also a friend of mine was dating a guy, who she discovered to have lied about his name. She found out by seeing his bank card which had his real name on it. He turned out to be a convicted stalker who had threatened his ex-wife with a kalashnikov (we found an article in the newspaper). I also found out he was living with another woman (I have connections who can trace this kind of information )

I prefer to meet people in real life. It’s less artificial. I would consider speed-dating though.

That's crazy. I've talked to a lot of weird and obsessive girls on the apps.

But mostly I feel like it's rare to form a good, meaningful, genuine connection through it.. I feel like I have a good personality and I'm mature enough to be a great partner to somebody, but I never get a chance to show it through an app because the platform is so shallow and everyone is so unfocused, traumatized and stressed out.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

I hear from friends that their experience was the same. Never heard anything else, if y'all did, it was probably a lie.

 

[iCloud]

That's crazy. I've talked to a lot of weird and obsessive girls on the apps.

But mostly I feel like it's rare to form a good, meaningful, genuine connection through it.. I feel like I have a good personality and I'm mature enough to be a great partner to somebody, but I never get a chance to show it through an app because the platform is so shallow and everyone is so unfocused, traumatized and stressed out.

That’s true. You get matches, but that’s about it. I am also on Tinder, but I am unable to get a genuine connection with any one. It’s a very shallow world, and people quickly lose interest, ghost you when you don’t respond quickly enough etc. It’s depressing.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

That’s true. You get matches, but that’s about it. I am also on Tinder, but I am unable to get a genuine connection with any one. It’s a very shallow world, and people quickly lose interest, ghost you when you don’t respond quickly enough etc. It’s depressing.

Yep. It makes me feel pathetic. Like "bro you're almost 30 and you play 'getting matches', do something productive with your life". And then I tune out.

 

[iCloud]

I am thinking to go to a speed date event in June, at least I can talk to men in real life then.

Edit: I just registered, it’s on the 8th of June

 

[shoegazing]

How does this match thing on tinder work? Never used it, and I have little to zero interest in online dating to be honest. My previous relationship lasted 4 years and I met her personally when we both were in high school. We were both shy, but somehow I managed to take an initiative. Nowadays I don't have the self steem I used to due to my hair problems, and I doubt online dating would be easier to me.