Body Dismophia With Hair
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Yes, it's receded (its a little rounded), but it hasn't gotten at all worse than what you had 3 years ago. Youre panicking over some douchebag loser from xbox. That's your problem. Youre not balding but you clearly have BDD. Do yourself a favor:
Go out and enjoy your hair privilege. Try looking like this and force a smile for people to think you've got 'confidence'.
Go out and enjoy your hair privilege. Try looking like this and force a smile for people to think you've got 'confidence'.
My hairline has always had a slight curve to it though, it's never been dead straight. I can see the same curve in photos from as young as 12.
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Than you're not balding at all and you're paranoid. See a shrink instead of a dermatologist.
It's a mental health illness, i'm not crazy, just affected by an issue I hope to go away eventually. Like I said in my post, I've had number of therapies about the BDD anyhow.
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You FACTUALLY have no hair loss. You need to let that sink in and move on with your life. Nothing else can be said.
Well I posted here to hopefully get a few opinions but most importantly on how to possibly break that cycle. I assumed there would be others with BDD on such a forum.
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You need to first realize that the people on this forum aren't going to have BDD because we actually have a legit issue; real hair loss. You don't have hair loss, so essentially, you won't find many people with BDD on gourmetstylewellness.com.
I've heard though even people who do have hair loss can still very easily have BDD as it can drastically affect the way they feel about their appearance thus seeing it as worse than it is or becoming obsessive about it.
Probably just the angle, I have my head titled slightly forward in the one from a few years ago, as long as both images look normal though is the main thing to me .
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I dont think you understand what BDD is. Would you call an indian woman suffering from BDD that had half her face melted from an acid attack? How about kids with acne? Or perhaps someone with a sever glandular problem that affects their weight where diets/calorie burning doesnt do anything?
Hair loss is no different. We have a real problem, this isn't BDD.
You know who's got BDD?
The rest of society; constantly putting on this psychotic pressure on us to keep us remain as bottomfeeding BALDING plebs. That's obsession... we're just the victims.
You? You look a whole lot better than 99% of the people on this forum. And yet somehow you've had your mind warped into having BDD? For what? A slightly rounded hairline? Because some basement dwelling loser couldnt find a legit insult and resorted to petty insults over your hairline? You know an argument is lost when they result to attacks on your appearance. I'd kill for your hairline, and so would so many others here and elsewhere. The photo I posted above is of ME. If I complain about my situation and having to live with that SHITTY appearance, that's not BDD, thats just realization that your just a social reject over baldness. I'm visibly disrespected and not just over one comment by a loser, but over the course of YEARS of shit being thrown at me by friends, family, coworkers, strangers, WOMEN and losers online.
You have no idea what REAL problems are over your petty one off experience that had no weight to it anyway.
I understand BDD pretty well considering all the work I've had to with having it myself, it doesn't have to be an imagined issue although yeah a lot of the time it is also. Many people with acne, minor or major can still experience BDD over it for example. So in relation to hair loss your average person will see it as something they don't like, it might affect them somewhat but they get on with life and see it doesn't make them look ridiculous ugly. Someone who has BDD regarding it will see it as much more exaggerated, the be all and end all to the point of feeling suicidal, not wanting to go out and focus all their attention of their image on that one aspect. If you look up some stuff on BDD you'll see it can be based on real issues as well as those that totally imagined.
Moving on from that point though. BDD isn't rational and i know that all too well, many days I wish I could stop being so obsessive about my image as a whole and many days I have to work really hard at now allowing it get the better of me. I think you're kind of making very light of something you can't quite understand on my part, it's real condition and affects all sorts of people, poor looking, average or even model like people. My BDD didn't start from that comment like I said in my original post, it started years before it just took a shift in direction after that point, the real issue started because of bullying and a number of other reasons back from early high school and a bad relationship, not to mention I believe a genetic pre-disposition as a close family member also suffers the same thing (although in complete denial over it being a mental issue). Many days I manage to overcome my BDD obsessions however there are still relapses I have to overcome, the last few days have been a particularly bad patch to which I'll need to work at getting myself back to normal again
I understand what you're saying, just don't agree with all the points you've made.
I.D WALKER
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Yeah why would we want more miserable company?
It's too damn crowded in here already.
Seriously though, Androgenetic Alopecia can blindside you at anytime.
Stay vigil, but ease up a little mate.
It's too damn crowded in here already.
Seriously though, Androgenetic Alopecia can blindside you at anytime.
Stay vigil, but ease up a little mate.
Yah, BDD is a horrible thing to deal with but people don't understand that even if a photo shows concrete proof that something may be that way you can still manage to see the flaw in an over the top exaggerated way. You look in the mirror and it looks so atrocious but in reality people say they don't even notice it or its not that bad, but in your mind its life consuming. I haven't seen your original post since it was deleted but I think Hellhouser has a valid point what we think is bad in early stages of hair loss would be a blessing to have for a majority of people on this forum.
Now I'm not saying that you don't have BDD, I suffer from it as well so I know all 2 well how something most people consider minor is enough to cause a mental breakdown. I don't know the severity of your BDD but I hope you get past it god knows it took me ages to just be able to go outside without having a **** load of anxiety. But my BDD didn't originate from hairloss not sure if yours did. Good luck.
Now I'm not saying that you don't have BDD, I suffer from it as well so I know all 2 well how something most people consider minor is enough to cause a mental breakdown. I don't know the severity of your BDD but I hope you get past it god knows it took me ages to just be able to go outside without having a **** load of anxiety. But my BDD didn't originate from hairloss not sure if yours did. Good luck.
BDD123, I would kill for your hairline. I have always had some degree of recession and have never been able to wear my hair off my forehead because of it. It's gotten worse since my hair loss started three years ago. Here's what it looks like:
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DoctorHouse
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BDD is a form of OCD where you obsess with a certain body part. The slightest change can set if off even more. I have suffered with it all my life and it can regress and advance depending on how your perspective presents. Right now I got my hair cut short mostly because I did not speak up and say just a very light trim. And to the normal person its not going to attract any comments as it has not so far. Yet, to me I see it as something I am not familiar with and it looks so foreign to me I am fearing it. Today is a very hard day for me because my fear is in full force and its giving me a painful gut pain. Each day I have to accept it and realize it will grow back but it does make me very aware that I have lost so much density in such a short period of time and that is what I fear. My biggest fear right now is balding and I have a bad head shape and how I am going to shave my head for a transplant. These are the thoughts of someone with BDD. We dwell on trivia stuff that most people would say is only minor but we obsess about it all day long and suffer with anxiety at the same time that someone is going to call me out on it. That is when you just have to realize this is part of the process of acceptance and you have to just let it go. Take your power back and don't react with anger. The OP has great hair so far mostly because he is still young but I do understand his fear and that is just what it is. And when that fear involves your image, its manifests into BDD of all magnitudes. You can't just turn it off. It manifest from low self esteem and not being able to accept the cards life throws your way. I wish I can turn mine off permanently but its just what makes me tick.
DoctorHouse, how do you handle compliments? For me, it's a quick "high", followed by a low, when I go home and scrutinize myself in the harshest mirror in my house. Then I think about what I look like first thing in the morning, puffy eyes and no makeup. I think, "I wonder what they'd say if they could see me now?" Then I panic, thinking what people will say when my hair is noticeably thin, when a wig or some helper hair will be necessary. What will people say then?
DoctorHouse
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Unfortunately, I don't get the great complements like I used to when I was younger. One of the major complements I used to get was "I had great hair". I don't get that anymore. The only thing people tell me is I look great for my age and I am in good shape. Those ego boosts last for a few hours and then it fades very fast when I see too many good looking guys surrounding me. I went to visit my parents and we were in an area of mostly hispanic and almost 95 percent of them have unbelievable thick NW1 and look like male models. That is when my BDD and envy is in full force. Joan, when they say, when you age, looks do fade. They were right. So that is why I hope all these 20's and 30's something enjoy their youth as long as they can with or without a full head of hair.