Dating advice needed: improvement of front line but terrible crown

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bald29

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So it seems like medication is doing something after almost 5 months, and my front line has reached a point where it just looks normal. It's a mature hairline, but completely normal, and I can feel how people treat me differently when they see me.

Now, the problem is that the crown looks terrible. I believe it's much better than a few months ago, but for people who just met me it looks like I'm thinning badly.

And one of the new people is a girl I met online. Obviously, my pictures there (and on other social sites) show my face, hence no apparent baldness. This girl is really attractive, and we've been talking every day for a few weeks now, with conversations getting more personal every time, and with an obvious understanding that something will happen between us.

The problem is that we're meeting next week, and I have a feeling all that will be lost. I'm not sure if this is part of my conditioning in these last 2 years, of being rejected all the time due to my baldness, or if it's just reality. She's only 21, and I'm afraid at some point she'll go to the bathroom or something and see my scalp on the way back and end everything as soon as possible.

What do you think? Maybe I can hide it somehow? Maybe those things don't happen and she won't care? (hard to believe from my experience). Anyone had similar experiences? I'd love to let her know that my crown looks really bad, but I don't know how to do that, it would be weird to tell her or send her a picture of the back of my head.
 
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Your hairline is a lot more important as it frames your face and gives you that 'normal' appearance. I don't know how bad your crown is, but if there's some hair - maybe consider some concealer for now, while waiting for the meds to (hopefully) have more effect? That, or then just go for a shorter haircut or something? I dunno, it really depends on how bad it actually is; if it's just a small spot, it's likely she won't even notice, especially if you're taller than her. (In normal situations, someone shorter than you won't have that bird perspective on you).

I wouldn't worry about it so much - surely your confidence levels have risen as it is, with your hairline making a comeback? If she really likes you already based on the online-convos, it's unlikely she'll be insta-turned off unless you truly blow it.
 
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Don't decide for herself why she rejects you. :)

You can't do much with your hair in one week anyway.
So concentrate on clothes, shoes, dating place selection, present, conversation plan. Something you might change.
 
CaptainForehead

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Toppix?
 
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Thanks guys for the advice, much appreciated.

Toppix? I don't know, I never used it, not sure if I have time now, as I have to play with the colors for a while until I find a match, I think?
 
CaptainForehead

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Look at the amazon reviews, and what the reviewers suggest for colors. Then order it with 2 day shipping tomorrow, and you should have it in time.
 
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Hiding it will only steas you out more. Like it or not this is a reality of life you must face. If she's not into you because of your hair, then she's not into you because of your hair. All you can do is suck it up and get in the game.

Plus, she may well be worrying about her own issues that don't show up in the photos.
 
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Well I just got a Toppik's starters kit. I went to a hairdresser who seems to be an expert on this. He made a demonstration of Toppik on my head so that I could see the results and the color that I needed, and I purchased a kit!

The price was higher than online but not that bad, $39 for the standard fibers, or $78 for the kit. Just for testing purposes I got the kit, brings a spray and some other stuff that I believe will be useless, but oh well... He said the fibers, due to my current density, could last me up to 7 months of daily usage, so if that's true it's not a bad deal.

Anyways it looks pretty good, can't see my scalp anymore, even with bright lights above my head :) Will experiment more with it this weekend to get the best results, including some field tests tomorrow night!
 
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Glad Toppik worked out. Excellent decision on going to a pro for showing you the ropes. Once you figure everything out, you can get it online, and experiment with different brands (there are some just as good but less expensive brands).

AFAIK the spray *is* very useful.

PS: Why do I, an NW6 know about Toppik? I lead a sad life. :woot:
 
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CaptainForehead said:
Glad Toppik worked out. Excellent decision on going to a pro for showing you the ropes. Once you figure everything out, you can get it online, and experiment with different brands (there are some just as good but less expensive brands).

AFAIK the spray *is* very useful.

PS: Why do I, an NW6 know about Toppik? I lead a sad life. :woot:
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Let's raise a beer for our sad lives!:beer:

And to bald 29 I hope that your crown regrows and of course that you are going to have a great time again after 2 years. :)
 
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She will notice eventually. Accept it, it can't be avoided :)
The best thing you can do is to not ruin the first impression.
 
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wrwr said:
She will notice eventually. Accept it, it can't be avoided :)
The best thing you can do is to not ruin the first impression.
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I'm sure that she'll also be hiding something, with make up, which I will also realize eventually. I'll wake up in the morning with her next to me and say "wow! your eyes were not surrounded by perfectly beautiful green lines after all!", or "wow! you have a bit of acne on your left cheek!", and I could go on forever.

If she realizes I also have some kind of make up, or I have to tell her, I'll do it. But I'm tired of baldness getting in the way of my dates, as it has been for the last 2 years, thanks to believing all those lies about confidence or personality. On a first date, she has all the right in the world to ditch me because of my baldness, and there's a 99% chance it will happen. I agree that later on in a relationship this is not an issue anymore, but it's important to know the difference between a first date and a few months of relationship.

Or at least that's what experience taught me. If your experience is different, I'd love to hear about it, and maybe learn something new today :)

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Exodus2011 said:
remember brotha, use AS LITTLE AS NEEDED. i used to use concealers and overdoing it looks unnatural. less is more.
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Yeah, I've been testing it... Tonight I'm gonna use again, to keep gaining experience --I used too much yesterday :D --.
 
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Just wanted to update... Date went great, dry spell broken, we had a few days of sex and are now kinda dating... We'll see what happens :D

On a side note, I discovered that she has a few bald spots on her head as well, very small but I could notice them on close observation. When I told her, she confessed to me having used minoxidil in the past. Maybe that's why she didn't care about my hair loss, I don't know... Anyways, hopefully things will keep improving for me, and I also wish the same for all of you guys, even for maher.

:)
 
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