Dating younger women??

[virtuality]

Being 30 something I find it really difficult to find someone age appropriate to date, I work in a small place and most of those girls are married. On the other hand, I don't feel comfortable with the idea of dating someone 10-15 years younger than me, I've never done it before.

Anyway, on Saturday I was in a cafe and a some good looking girl sitting on the next table was looking at me. Then her phone rang, and she was talking on the phone and still staring in my direction. I got the impression that she wanted me to hear her conversation and she was intentionally dropping hints about her life, eg she's a student, she about 20 or 21, etc...

I really fancy her, she's 5'10", I have a thing for tall women, and I think I can "randomly" bump into her again, I know enough about her to find her. The only problem is, I don't feel comfortable with the age difference..

Most probably, I'll find her very immature or I'll start behaving like her father or something.

any comments?

 

[s.a.f]

Anyway, on Saturday I was in a cafe and a some good looking girl sitting on the next table was looking at me. Then her phone rang, and she was talking on the phone and still staring in my direction. I got the impression that she wanted me to hear her conversation and she was intentionally dropping hints about her life, eg she's a student, she about 20 or 21, etc...

Wow,
Firstly are you really sure that you got the right impression? Without something more concrete you could be way off on this.

Secondly you have'nt even spoken to her and you're already imagining a relationship! :shock: Thats like something a teenage girl would do.

 

[HughJass]

Give it a crack.My parents are 10 years apart.

 

[virtuality]

Anyway, on Saturday I was in a cafe and a some good looking girl sitting on the next table was looking at me. Then her phone rang, and she was talking on the phone and still staring in my direction. I got the impression that she wanted me to hear her conversation and she was intentionally dropping hints about her life, eg she's a student, she about 20 or 21, etc...

Wow,
Firstly are you really sure that you got the right impression? Without something more concrete you could be way off on this.

Secondly you have'nt even spoken to her and you're already imagining a relationship! :shock: Thats like something a teenage girl would do.

Of course there is the possibility that I might be wrong...

The thing is, I don't like playing games for simple relationships. For me, it either has to be easy sex or if I'm interested in the person, then I might make an effort. Assuming at least half of the female population are not interested in easy sex, it's very reasonable to assume that she'd first want to go on a few dates. That's where my problem lies, I don't know if I should make an effort for someone 12-13 years younger than me. Whether it ends up in a relationship or not is not relevant at this point.

Even if it's not the girl I'm talking about, there are still others out there that are interested in me. There is one particular girl that keeps messaging me almost every day... She's 12 years younger than me, and the age difference shows in her behaviour. I keep her in the loop because I hope to bang her, but she's implied that she wants a relationship and in return I implied that I'm not interested in a relationship :whistle: If I had bad intentions, I'd take her out on a date and bang her, but I don't like the idea of giving someone the wrong message just to have sex with her.

 

[Man in Space]

Firstly your 30 and considering girls 15 years younger. Secondly your considering 'bumping' into her based on information you gleaned from an overheard coversation.

With that post you just entered peadophile-stalker county. I would suggest an about turn back into normalsville

I can only assume your winding us up here to call a few people out?! :dunno:

Otherwise that post is a little bit freaky, no offense

 

[virtuality]

Firstly your 30 and considering girls 15 years younger. Secondly your considering 'bumping' into her based on information you gleaned from an overheard coversation.

With that post you just entered peadophile-stalker county. I would suggest an about turn back into normalsville

I can only assume your winding us up here to call a few people out?! :dunno:

Otherwise that post is a little bit freaky, no offense

Dude, I said im 30 something... do the maths, she's either 20 or 21 and im 33, ill be 34 soon...

 

[Cassin]

The social gap between 30-something and 20 is massive. Won't be worth the hassle.

 

[Paulgreer]

Dude I don't know where you are from, but last time I checked you can go to jail for dating 15 year old's when you are 30! EDIT, just saw that you said 30 something.

 

[Man in Space]

sorry didnt read it properly, my bad.

For what its worth i do think you will struggle,young girls and 30 something guys are poles apart, but good luck

 

[virtuality]

The social gap between 30-something and 20 is massive. Won't be worth the hassle.

For what its worth i do think you will struggle,young girls and 30 something guys are poles apart, but good luck

That's what I think as well...

I don't think I'll make an effort to meet her, but if I ever happen to see her again, I might try talking to her. She might turn out to have a mature personality, or she might reject me :whistle:

 

[Cassin]

When I used to live in Dallas a buddy of mine ran a bar near a university. He's got a rock solid personality and is a decent looking guy so he could go after as many early 20's girls as he wants that came into his bar with little effort. They throw themselves at the staff. It didn't take long for him to realize what a terrible idea that is.

See remember all the dumb sh*t you and your friends did when they first started living on their own? People that age still do that. Dumb little things that make no sense and could have been easily avoided. Like parking in a handicap spot somewhere weird because "it's the weekend and nobody cares." The the car gets towed and you end up spending the next day dealing with it. Losing an ID at a bar, losing keys somewhere, driving somewhere stupid far away only to realize there is nowhere for you and the other dumbasses in the car to sleep at that friends house. All that crap thats a important part of growing up but you never want to deal with again, well their going through it right now.

For sure not worth the piece of *** unless your tolerance level is that of a Buddhist Monk!

 

[Paulgreer]

When I used to live in Dallas a buddy of mine ran a bar near a university. He's got a rock solid personality and is a decent looking guy so he could go after as many early 20's girls as he wants that came into his bar with little effort. They throw themselves at the staff. It didn't take long for him to realize what a terrible idea that is.

See remember all the dumb sh*t you and your friends did when they first started living on their own? People that age still do that. Dumb little things that make no sense and could have been easily avoided. Like parking in a handicap spot somewhere weird because "it's the weekend and nobody cares." The the car gets towed and you end up spending the next day dealing with it. Losing an ID at a bar, losing keys somewhere, driving somewhere stupid far away only to realize there is nowhere for you and the other dumbasses in the car to sleep at that friends house. All that crap thats a important part of growing up but you never want to deal with again, well their going through it right now.

For sure not worth the piece of *** unless your tolerance level is that of a Buddhist Monk!

Hahaha, I know what you mean, it's funny that you bring this up because my brother used to work in a bar before too, and he told me he went through the same stage, I guess when you work in that industry it's inevitable, that you might hook up with a younger chick once in a while (unless you are bald lol), but you never know what kind of drama you might get yourself into, especially if you sleep with the waitresses! He did, and wound up getting fired because the chick started an arguement with him at work.

 

[Man in Space]

I used to work in a bar, woman literally throw themselves at you. I know a couple of guys who keep it on part time just to score. I can assure you from personal experience that you do get into some scrapes. Plus the younger they are the more clingy they are. Young women screech and squeel at you to get your attention, older women lure you into the web silently like a black widow! Either way its a trap!! (I jest of course)

 

[Paulgreer]

older women lure you into the web silently like a black widow! Either way its a trap!! (I jest of course)

LOL! That one really got me, nice one!

 

[virtuality]

For sure not worth the piece of *** unless your tolerance level is that of a Buddhist Monk!

Funny you should say that... I've been thinking if I'm too tolerant...

I do happen to be a very tolerant and understanding person. I think it gives a positive energy but at the same time some people try to take an advantage of that and I do get annoyed as well.

On the other hand, that's one of the reasons why younger people find me approachable.

older women lure you into the web silently like a black widow! Either way its a trap!! (I jest of course)

LOL! That one really got me, nice one!

:agree:

 

[Ori83]

You have my approval to attack!
my step brother in his early 40's and shags girls in their mid 20's weekly... ( btw, he is nw6, very funny guy, immature and full with confidence, so that help too)
if you like her, and she legal, go after her...

gl Popeye!

 

[virtuality]

Funny story...

I met my boss today. He knows I'm single and he knows I'm gonna quit at the first opportunity I get, so he always teases me that I should get a gf. I think that's his way of trying to tie me down so that I stay longer.

Anyway, he tells me that he's got someone for me. He wants me to go and visit one of our business associates, a professional visit, where I will just happen to see and possibly talk to the woman in question :whistle: ...

I might actually do that next week, I have nothing to lose and at least I'll have an afternoon out of the office :woot:

 

[Man in Space]

Do it! Youll have an afternoon out of the office but no doubt you will end up working the night shift!! unk:

 

[Bald Dave]

I went out with a girl 5 years younger than me and she was sooo immature. Her mummy and daddy had to drive her everywhere and she couldn't do anything for herself. She acted like a spoilt brat and if she was in her 30s like me then she prob would've been very mature. Saying that she did let me do her up the *** so every cloud................ :whistle:

 

[Ori83]

Dude... too much info..... :dunno: