Funny story...Here is a little background I guess I have been using finasteride for about 1.5 years and minoxidil 2% for about 2 years. I am happy with my results but I do keep my hair long and cover my thin spot very well. Thank god for hairspray. Anyways, I went out with one of my exgirlfriends today that I havent seen since I was about 21 (14 years ago) and I had a full thick head of hair then. When we saw each other she said I look the same except my hair is longer and so there is so much of it. Of course I felt good b/c I was going to wear my hat. She doesnt know what ritual I have to go through everyday to cover my thin spot. She does want to see me again so should I continue to let her think that I have thick long hair or should I embarass myself and tell her why I keep my hair long. I dont think I will tell her. I would like to hear the opinions of you all.
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rapidfrontal
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chieftain said:
I am of the opinion that you should not say anything. When you make an issue of the hairloss it tends to come up quite often and then you have to continually play it off like its no big deal and it doesn't bother you, which can be difficult because it does bother you. When it comes up naturally in the course of normal interaction it is easier to brush off or make a joke out of it.
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Yeah bro, I wouldn't say anything. Although it sounds like she gave you an encouraging compliment, so who says she'll ever notice.
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Yeah, I agree with rapid, I mean you haven't seen this girl in awhile, so dropping something as sensitive as the hairloss issue so soon might be a little heavy for the second date. I say if things progress and you two get back into it, then i would tell her. But i know what you mean chieftain, it's really tough to see someone that you were involved with before male pattern baldness set in. But you should be happy and proud with the fact that you even went out and saw her, let alone to snag a second date. I actually had a similiar experience. A couple months ago during winter break, a girl that i have been into for YEARS called me up repeatedly to hang out, but i was too self concious to even call her back...It has been KILLING me ever since. So yeah, i mean just being confident and ballsy enough to just see her is awesome. Good luck with that man.
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Don't say anything now. If things go well with the girl, and you start banging her, and she starts cooking dinner for you, and then she starts sleeping over... maybe then, oooonly maybe then, on one of those mornings when you wake up together and talk about personal stuff in bed together, you might drop the secret to her.
I've told the last two gf's I have had, both reacted positively, and with understanding. Then again, the last one had a boob job, so I suppose she had no right to get all moralistic on me about it.
I've told the last two gf's I have had, both reacted positively, and with understanding. Then again, the last one had a boob job, so I suppose she had no right to get all moralistic on me about it.
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It's not her problem. If you tell her then it will become her problem.
There is no need to tell her anything. It's not a crime to lose your hair. What would you do if you did not have male pattern baldness. "Darling, I have something to tell you" What is it my dear.... "Well, I have really thick hair with no signs of male pattern baldness whatsoever"
See my point....
There is no need to tell her anything. It's not a crime to lose your hair. What would you do if you did not have male pattern baldness. "Darling, I have something to tell you" What is it my dear.... "Well, I have really thick hair with no signs of male pattern baldness whatsoever"
See my point....
I've got to agree with what everyone has said.
Bringing something like that up straight away usually means it's up front in one's mind. May be better to have it come up on it's own-IF it even does.
You can project an attitude of confidence even if you don't necessarily feel that way inside.
Bringing something like that up straight away usually means it's up front in one's mind. May be better to have it come up on it's own-IF it even does.
You can project an attitude of confidence even if you don't necessarily feel that way inside.
Well with everyones encouragement I called her up tonight and got the second date. Its not until Sunday but so far so good. You all are right I feel confident/comfortable when I talk to her so I dont even think about my hairloss. I will keep everyone informed and again thanks. This is what the site is all about getting help from those who have been through some of lifes predicaments.