Disturbed by new girlfriends love for my hair

[Nostab2]

So, I'm pretty recently divorced. 15 year marriage. The ex wife did not know about my system until about half way through the marriage and that's only because I decided to tell her. Which she did not care.

That said, I now have a girlfriend since my divorce. She is constantly giving me compliments. She always says she loves my hair. This bothers the hell out of me. I'm not ready to get into the whole fake hair conversation with her yet. I definitely will tell her but when the time is right. In the meantime these hair compliments are driving me nuts. Can anyone relate?

 

[JaneyElizabeth]

So, I'm pretty recently divorced. 15 year marriage. The ex wife did not know about my system until about half way through the marriage and that's only because I decided to tell her. Which she did not care.

That said, I now have a girlfriend since my divorce. She is constantly giving me compliments. She always says she loves my hair. This bothers the hell out of me. I'm not ready to get into the whole fake hair conversation with her yet. I definitely will tell her but when the time is right. In the meantime these hair compliments are driving me nuts. Can anyone relate?

It's no different than parents with adoptive children who constantly get told, "she looks just like you", although different in that this person you are with eventually has a right to know. Remember, it's the vulnerability in a relationship that creates the intimacy.

The answer is "thank you so much!"

 

[Hair2019]

So, I'm pretty recently divorced. 15 year marriage. The ex wife did not know about my system until about half way through the marriage and that's only because I decided to tell her. Which she did not care.

That said, I now have a girlfriend since my divorce. She is constantly giving me compliments. She always says she loves my hair. This bothers the hell out of me. I'm not ready to get into the whole fake hair conversation with her yet. I definitely will tell her but when the time is right. In the meantime these hair compliments are driving me nuts. Can anyone relate?

How did you manage to go 7 years without your ex wife finding out about your hair system? Surely she must've noticed you detaching/attaching, or that you had hair systems and supplies delivered to your house, and she would've felt it during sex too?

As to your new girlfriend, have you had sex yet and if so how did you manage to avoid her feeling your hair system?

 

[TooBad]

So, I'm pretty recently divorced. 15 year marriage. The ex wife did not know about my system until about half way through the marriage and that's only because I decided to tell her. Which she did not care.

That said, I now have a girlfriend since my divorce. She is constantly giving me compliments. She always says she loves my hair. This bothers the hell out of me. I'm not ready to get into the whole fake hair conversation with her yet. I definitely will tell her but when the time is right. In the meantime these hair compliments are driving me nuts. Can anyone relate?

Awkward but, it's a great problem to have!

 

[JaneyElizabeth]

How did you manage to go 7 years without your ex wife finding out about your hair system? Surely she must've noticed you detaching/attaching, or that you had hair systems and supplies delivered to your house, and she would've felt it during sex too?

As to your new girlfriend, have you had sex yet and if so how did you manage to avoid her feeling your hair system?

That's what we all really want to know. How do you deal with the terror of it coming off in a handful just when she screams "oh Goddess" while gyrating and exhorting you on to further heights of maleness.... Best keep her on the bottom is my suggestion in the interim.

 

[Nostab2]

How did you manage to go 7 years without your ex wife finding out about your hair system? Surely she must've noticed you detaching/attaching, or that you had hair systems and supplies delivered to your house, and she would've felt it during sex too?

As to your new girlfriend, have you had sex yet and if so how did you manage to avoid her feeling your hair system?

My mother does my hair so she never had to ask questions if I was in the bathroom an hour. I got my shipments sent to my mother's. We had a shitty sex life so not alot to worry about as far as touching my head. When she did she simply did not feel anything. Yes lot of sex with new girl friend. I told her which is true, that I have scalp psoriasis and please don't touch...lol

 

[Nostab2]

That's what we all really want to know. How do you deal with the terror of it coming off in a handful just when she screams "oh Goddess" while gyrating and exhorting you on to further heights of maleness.... Best keep her on the bottom is my suggestion in the

 

[Nostab2]

She wasn't a very sexual person. Hence the divorce. So we never had passionate hair rubbing sex. When It happened she must not have felt anything. The new girlfriend is very sexual and does try to grab my head. I push her arms away slowly like I'm in control. She loves it. Also I have scalp psoriasis and told her about that so she just thinks I have a thing with that.

 

[JaneyElizabeth]

She wasn't a very sexual person. Hence the divorce. So we never had passionate hair rubbing sex. When It happened she must not have felt anything. The new girlfriend is very sexual and does try to grab my head. I push her arms away slowly like I'm in control. She loves it. Also I have scalp psoriasis and told her about that so she just thinks I have a thing with that.

I love a good excuse. I should have told my family that I had an endocrine issue for which I was receiving treatment and left it at that. People usually don't want the whole truth unless it impinges on trust, not to mention that unless you get engaged, it's not your problem to tell anyone. I love that your mother helps you with your hair. Mine still claims that women "love bald men"....

 

[Noah]

The sad truth is that once you start wearing a system you can no longer really enjoy the frisson of a woman (or man as the case may be) running their fingers through your hair. I miss it.

I had a girl who I told (somewhat obliquely) about my system, and she also became a bit obsessed about it. The feel of a new system is silky and tactile, and she would run her fingers through it when we were on our own or even in company. Also, I think she liked being in on my "secret". I tried to put her off, telling her I was sensitive about it and didn't like it touched, but she did it anyway. I suppose in a way it was a good thing, because it meant she equated the system with nice natural hair - something to be felt and enjoyed in an intimate setting. I got used to it when we were on our own, but I was always on edge if she touched it in company in case she would do something to make it obvious it was a system.

 

[Fanjeera]

I love a good excuse. I should have told my family that I had an endocrine issue for which I was receiving treatment and left it at that. People usually don't want the whole truth unless it impinges on trust, not to mention that unless you get engaged, it's not your problem to tell anyone. I love that your mother helps you with your hair. Mine still claims that women "love bald men"....

Hahah

Well androgenetic alopecia actually is a dermatological problem or andrological or endocrinological, so we can actually all say something like that. I've since been a bit more truthful and said that it's a psychological problem.

 

[BaldBearded]

I try to impress upon clients, we are going to do our best to make your hair LOOK as natural as possible. The feel is something different entirely.

 

[grincher]

7 years and the wife didnt know - thats some "achievement"

 

[Hair2019]

My mother does my hair so she never had to ask questions if I was in the bathroom an hour. I got my shipments sent to my mother's. We had a shitty sex life so not alot to worry about as far as touching my head. When she did she simply did not feel anything. Yes lot of sex with new girl friend. I told her which is true, that I have scalp psoriasis and please don't touch...lol

So how did your ex wife end up finding out about your hair system, and what was her reaction?

 

[George Hen]

This whole thing reminds me of a couple of my own experiences, maybe worth sharing.

The first is from the only person who I’ve told I’m wearing a hair system. He says he sincerely forgets/doesn’t ever think about it when he sees me.

The second is my own gf who I’m sure knows I’m wearing but has never brought it up and I haven’t ever brought it up with her.

Surely it’s impossible to live with someone and have them genuinely not ever know. Even with the best system or style you’ll surely have days where it looks even a bit unnatural or ever so slightly ‘wiggy’ for one of many reasons - dryness, puffiness, the system not sitting right or bed head etc.

What about when you get a ‘hair cut’ and replace your dilapidated system with a brand new one and return home with more hair than when you left?
X-D

I think people quickly forget if it looks good. They might ask themselves why your hair was receding but isn’t any more but, if it suits you, they’ll forget about it or stop caring.

 

[jimlad]

My housemate saw my with a BRAND new system on a while ago. There was a funny look...

 

[irishguy1989]

My housemate saw my with a BRAND new system on a while ago. There was a funny look...

Are brand new systems very noticeable? I’m not a wearer (yet) so intrigued to know!

 

[Nostab2]

So how did your ex wife end up finding out about your hair system, and what was her reaction?

I told her...she was surprised but claimed she didn't care.

 

[yurguardianangel]

Are brand new systems very noticeable? I’m not a wearer (yet) so intrigued to know!

If they are too poofy at first they can be.
Which can look like a mushroom on top of your head.

 

[Noah]

Are brand new systems very noticeable? I’m not a wearer (yet) so intrigued to know!

It's more the contrast with the old system, which depends how much you raked the old one before you replaced it. Some guys really give their pieces a hammering, and leave it till it's starting to look a bit ratty before they replace it, and then of course there is a big contrast. (To be clear, I'm not saying Jimlad does this . It's always tempting to conclude that it looks OK and just leave it that bit longer rather than spend money to replace it, but it's better to get into a regular pattern of retiring systems before they start to deteriorate visibly.