Do you think appearance is important ?

[Muzzle]

How many of you think that our appearance is important in society we live in

I saw this video and wanted to share with you, it's not about hair. It's about clothes and shows people's reactions towards different clothes. I wanted to share this video because we hear a lot of people saying that inside beauty is more important than outside appearance. What do you think about it, dou you agree with these people ?

Btw the explanations are in Turkish language but i can't really translate it

[video=youtube;YWU74gTFUAE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWU74gTFUAE[/video]

 

[EvilLocks]

"Inner over outside beauty" is crap. The truth is appearance does matter, and more than we think. We associate certain features with certain things, take baldness as an example; "old, loser, pedophile, creep, unattractive, illness" are words that come to mind. On the flip side a full head of hair will give associations like; "young, successful, attractive, healthy". We are constantly judged by our looks, and also judging other people the same way. Looks aren't everything, but it's what attracts us to certain things or people. It's also ironic that the whole "inner beauty"-preach often comes from attractive people. It's easy to say looks don't matter when you are already attractive / beautiful.

 

[isishearmyplea]

I would just like to say that there arent a lot of wise people in the world.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Appearance is what draws us to someone but its what comes out of their mouth that can make all the difference in the world.

 

[bald29]

Appearance is what draws us to someone but its what comes out of their mouth that can make all the difference in the world.

This is true. But no one cares what comes out of your mouth if your appearance is not good enough.

 

[EvilLocks]

This is true. But no one cares what comes out of your mouth if your appearance is not good enough.

You just won this thread! That is the truth right there.

 

[DoctorHouse]

This is true. But no one cares what comes out of your mouth if your appearance is not good enough.

Not always true! When someone says I am a multi- millionaire or very famous and want to spend money on you, someone will care. Obviously, Julia Roberts was drawn to Lyle Lovett and I doubt it was for his looks, money or fame. She has all that herself. Every rule has an exception. Just remember that.

 

[swingline747]

Talking at our standpoint as thinng/balding men appearance is not important if you want to go after uglier women.
Im sorry but Im online ALL day and work and sometimes like now when looking at my hair depresses me so much (after spending a day with my brother and his 10 year old hairline) I start looking online for reassurance. You know what I get? A whole lot of "it doesnt matter if he has hair or not" or "I LOVE a bald head" but then you look at the profile pic and its just some fat or gross female who obviously has zero options anyway.


All the good looking ones always say the same thing "well if you are obviously thinning just shave it off I think that looks better" They never say "its hot" or "i love a bald guy" UNLESS its their husband who started balding after then met.

Its really an awful feeling. I can no longer look people in the eyes and am pretty much angry and depressed all the time.

I spend/spent so much of my life working out and being fit only to get stuck with this.
My brother was helping me in my rental yesterday and we stopped to get a coffee. In the place a HOT looking girl walks in with this HUGE gorgeous ***. Who does she look at? Take a guess. And the second I try to test my luck with eye contact its like I just raped her and she walked away into an isle.

If my damn forehead wasnt SO ****ING big I could pull the shaved look but when I shave its just ALL HEAD!

My ma recently visited and it just drove me nuts having to see her. She says "oh you still have your hair"; Im like REALLY? DO I?
I wanted to punch her god damned mouth but I was being cordial because she is lending me and my GF her timeshare in Oct to go to New Orleans, so after that Ill become a dick again.

 

[tommy e]

people think the guy use a wool hat to hide his hairloss, that's why nobody helps him. :turned:

 

[bald29]

Not always true! When someone says I am a multi- millionaire or very famous and want to spend money on you, someone will care. Obviously, Julia Roberts was drawn to Lyle Lovett and I doubt it was for his looks, money or fame. She has all that herself. Every rule has an exception. Just remember that.

But they don't care about you, they care about your money. I rather go to the strip club and spend money on a girl there for a couple of hours, instead of having a girlfriend or wife trying to get as much as possible from me.

There are exceptions? Yeah sure there are, there might be a decent girl who wouldn't care about my baldness. But looking for her is such a hard task that it's not even worth my time anymore. Having a 'dateable' girl go for a few drinks with you is supposed to be natural, not take you years of talking to hundreds of girls until one wants to make that compromise (like Fred has said a few months ago). And if you find her, then what? That's right, you have to hold on to her as if she was the eighth wonder of the world, only because she looked past your baldness.

And that's the main problem here. People are out there dating, meeting each other in a natural way. Everything just flows naturally when your appearance is normal. Just like in the video. When your appearance doesn't fit with that of the others, the vast majority of people couldn't care less about you, even if you are dying in the middle of the street.

@swingline: Totally understand you. Hope things will improve for you soon.

 

[hellouser]

"Inner over outside beauty" is crap. The truth is appearance does matter, and more than we think. We associate certain features with certain things, take baldness as an example; "old, loser, pedophile, creep, unattractive, illness" are words that come to mind. On the flip side a full head of hair will give associations like; "young, successful, attractive, healthy". We are constantly judged by our looks, and also judging other people the same way. Looks aren't everything, but it's what attracts us to certain things or people. It's also ironic that the whole "inner beauty"-preach often comes from attractive people. It's easy to say looks don't matter when you are already attractive / beautiful.

I think I love you.

 

[CaptainForehead]

"Inner over outside beauty" is crap. The truth is appearance does matter, and more than we think. We associate certain features with certain things, take baldness as an example; "old, loser, pedophile, creep, unattractive, illness" are words that come to mind. On the flip side a full head of hair will give associations like; "young, successful, attractive, healthy". We are constantly judged by our looks, and also judging other people the same way. Looks aren't everything, but it's what attracts us to certain things or people. It's also ironic that the whole "inner beauty"-preach often comes from attractive people. It's easy to say looks don't matter when you are already attractive / beautiful.

Well said, but this beauty handicap is mostly restricted to "attraction", as your text seems to imply.
If you have other things to offer, society will still value you, just not sexually.

 

[Exodus2011]

so much red pill in this thread lol. i'm definitely doing it. i'm trying out a ****in hairpiece lol. **** this. i just screamed at someone today out of anger . . . . . . i'm tired of this

 

[Zombie]

It objectively IS.

- - - Updated - - -

It objectively IS.

 

[Deadman1]

people think the guy use a wool hat to hide his hairloss, that's why nobody helps him. :turned:

Exactly! I was going to say the same thing. Had they used a well dressed bald guy for the first part, the results would have been the same. Had the guy taken off his hat he would have been helped.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Here is the conundrum in a nutshell... our upbringing told us that "it's what on the inside that counts." Yet our biology is hardwired to find attractive mates. And while beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, there is a standard or ideal that is glorified and aspired to. And from this contradiction much pain and heartache propetuates.

 

[CaptainForehead]

"it's what on the inside that counts."

The biggest lie that is told to us growing up.

 

[uncomfortable man]

That is the problem because the truth is that appearance counts for so much more than many would like to admit. So you could try and argue that it makes a big difference but they can always come back with "well it's what on the inside that counts" and "If you care so much about appearance then maybe it's you who are superficial". What's on the inside.... do you know what social rejection and being persecuted does to bald man's insides? It makes them bitter and resentful. But of course they can just turn it around on us again and say "Or maybe it is your rotten attitude that is why people dont like you and not the baldness?"

It is not a chicken egg scenario. Society hates bald guys and their obvious disapproval of me is the cause. I did't start feeling this way until I began to notice how people treated me with much less respect than before. I used to be happy.

 

[Exodus2011]

its funny cuz our looks come from genetics, which is inside all our cells. so its still on the inside in a sense.

 

[bald29]

That is the problem because the truth is that appearance counts for so much more than many would like to admit. So you could try and argue that it makes a big difference but they can always come back with "well it's what on the inside that counts" and "If you care so much about appearance then maybe it's you who are superficial". What's on the inside.... do you know what social rejection and being persecuted does to bald man's insides? It makes them bitter and resentful. But of course they can just turn it around on us again and say "Or maybe it is your rotten attitude that is why people dont like you and not the baldness?"

It is not a chicken egg scenario. Society hates bald guys and their obvious disapproval of me is the cause. I did't start feeling this way until I began to notice how people treated me with much less respect than before. I used to be happy.

Happened to me too... And now that my hairline is looking almost normal again, people are treating me better... Girls smile at me, and try to make conversation, even when I had a ****ty day and don't wanna talk to anyone, and my face looks like I want to kill someone.

The inside? That's the biggest lie ever... Girls just use words such as "confident" or "insecure" as excuses.... With every passing day I realize that those are just code words; a girl saying "he is not confident", is basically saying "he is not cute enough".