Does it take more guts to wear a piece or be a baldy

[jakeb]

Hey, try it out. But there is a stigma, fair or unfair, with wearing a piece. If it's good, 99% of people will never notice it... but lets say you find yourself a lady friend and things progress to the point where she's running her fingers though your hair. I can't see how that situation is going to end well. In our society, there's a very sharp cutoff to how vain a man is allowed to be before it's time to subtract some points.

No matter how many points in looks you gain from the piece, you will get many more subtracted if you appear vain.

 

[CCS]

In our society, there's a very sharp cutoff to how vain a man is allowed to be before it's time to subtract some points.

No matter how many points in looks you gain from the piece, you will get many more subtracted if you appear vain.

i got news for you: the only people who claim to be subtracting points are the ones who know they can't get a date with you if they wanted it, and the ones who don't think you look good enough for them anyway and don't want to say it, so they point to the piece as the reason. The ones in the middle don't care, but they do care about your social status. You have to control the haters, or hide in a big enough group of accomplished people, to keep your status up so that the middle people will like you too. The people who did not want to date you anyway will not mention your piece unless you hit on them, since it then would be an easy way for them to reject you and not look bad themselves. The ones who know they can't get a date with you are the ones who will initiate rumors. Just don't get close enough to them for them to know, and don't pressure hotties for reasons why they turned you down, and stay close to the middle people, and you will be fine.

 

[ToupMaster]

[/quote] I need to work on my social skills a lot. I still think better looks will help though. But I might do OK even without the piece if I can talk better.[/quote]

Well, you average almost 14 posts a day for almost 2 years on here, which doesn't leave you much time to learn to interact with real people. You state the desire to bag 18 year olds, rather than interacting with women your own age, you state you only want month long relationships rather than lasting ones.... and you blame it all on misdirected hair roots.

Have you thought of therapy?

 

[Bald Dave]

I'm buying some books and going to learn as much socially as I can. But I'm also going to try to learn how to socialize with guys. I notice they act the same way around me that the women do, so if I can learn how to converse with them, I'll be a step closer to keeping conversations going with the women. But I'm still getting the piece. It wouldn't be my main thrust, but I'm sure it will help. At the very least it will give me a chance to get more words out before I'm blown off.

If I had to guess, I would say your social problems are probably due to your over-analysis. You need to think a lot less and be relaxed in social settings. You should try not to care too much what people think about you. With guys, its best to act like you don't care and be chill. Also, following sports and watching a lot of movies and popular tv shows helps with coversations. With girls you should pay attention to them and try to make them feel special and be funny.

Thats some really good advice and I think I need to do this as well!