Encouragement

[pleasegodno]

yep. i really had to bite my tongue in my previous posts.

 

[losin_it]

yea, and why do you think these hairloss forums have such a great proportion of young people? it's because it affects them emotionally to such a great extent. nobody's jealous--we're just pissed off that you think age doesn't play a factor in how hairloss affects someone. i'll readily admit that it's even worse for someone to begin losing hair in highschool--i would have been even more devastated if i had lost hair at a younger age so i have a great deal of sympathy for anybody who has. why you continue to insist that age doesn't matter in terms of emotional consequence when it so clearly does is beyond me.

If any of you younger guys started losing your hair at 30, you would cry about it just as much as you do now. You would do the same at 40 as well. Why? Because noticing your balding, sucks *** for EVERYONE at ANY AGE. Its how you handle the situation after the intial shock of the discovery.

I still see some of the same guys on here after 2 years and the attitude is the same. Total misery. There are others on here that have learned to deal with it. You have a choice in how you handle the situation no matter what your age.

 

[pleasegodno]

no sh*t it sucks for everyone!!! no one is saying it doesn't, but there is a spectrum to the psychological effects it can have and it is GENERALLY much more damaging (INITIALLY ESPECIALLY) to younger people--this CAN'T be debated. and no sh*t people can respond to it differently. but if you don't understand how the effects COULD be (and generally are) more profound at a younger age, then you lack something called empathy. i'm done with this sh*t.

 

[juststarting]

haha, too funny. Well, how can you mourn what you never really had? Us poor 30 something hair loss suffers KNOW how great hair can be, those in their teens probably never really appreciated their hair anyway.

lol. I am soooooooooooooo just kidding!!! Trying to lighten the mood in here :hairy:

 

[juststarting]

People who start balding in their 30's didn't even have to think about it in their twenties. If nothing else, you guys had an extra decade wherein you were minus one extremely large stress factor.

You wanna bet? I been worried about this since I was 20, when the shift to norwood 1 happened.

 

[Guest]

grrr i am pissed off by these posts.

From what I read, people got the impression that I am misery guts cos my hair loss. Well f*ck you, until recently had a very fit gf, have lots of good mates, go out often, enjoy myself basically.

BUT doesn't detract from the fact... hair loss @ 19 is like incontinence @ 30. Sucks

 

[Guest]

yea, and why do you think these hairloss forums have such a great proportion of young people? it's because it affects them emotionally to such a great extent. nobody's jealous--we're just pissed off that you think age doesn't play a factor in how hairloss affects someone. i'll readily admit that it's even worse for someone to begin losing hair in highschool--i would have been even more devastated if i had lost hair at a younger age so i have a great deal of sympathy for anybody who has. why you continue to insist that age doesn't matter in terms of emotional consequence when it so clearly does is beyond me.

If any of you younger guys started losing your hair at 30, you would cry about it just as much as you do now. You would do the same at 40 as well. Why? Because noticing your balding, sucks *** for EVERYONE. Its how you handle the situation after the intial shock of the discovery.

You've said nothing new or insightful here. Losing one's physical attractiveness is going to be painful at any age--women in their sixties still go for botox and face lifts, men still wear wigs, etc. Our point is that some things are more painful at a younger age--balding is something most people associate with the preserve of adulthood, not youth. As such those youth with a condition that usually affects older adults suffer from a stigma that is more pronounced with every year you are younger than the age at which this condition is supposed to begin its onset. If this doesn't make sense to you--and it appears it doesn't--I would suggest not complaining when you have to start taking arthritis pills at 40, or your skin goes all dry and wrinkly and saggy at 35.

 

[juststarting]

BUT doesn't detract from the fact... hair loss @ 19 is like incontinence @ 30. Sucks

Wow! I am sorry, I didn't realize you were incontent too? That sucks. male pattern baldness and bladder control probllems! I know a couple of forums if you like on incontence I can post?

:hairy:

 

[losin_it]

This is exactly why I stayed away from these sites, there are way to many pity pimps on here.

Okay, give everyone an excuse to be miserable. Yeah, your young and going bald, so go hang yourself.

What consulation was it to me that there are other 30 year old's losing their hair? All anyone cares for is themselves, at any age.

Your argument is there arent that many blading young guys but then you say there are alot of young balding guys on this site. Which is it? Again it just seems like some of you are determined to find reasons why it sucks *** so much. Its a free country, do as you wish.

For my own sanity, I'll leave this post alone for you young guys to wallow in. :roll:

 

[Guest]

losin_it that has gotta be the silliest post i have ever read.

i don't even need to point out the gaping flaws in it, they stick out like a candykid in a blackout

 

[pleasegodno]

losin_it, way to misinterpret/misrepresent/misunderstand everything said in this entire thread again and again, even after clarification. yea, you better just stay off these sites and stick to trying to develop a functional brain.

 

[drinkrum]

You guys mind if I chime in here?

Can you all just shut the f*** up? You're arguing about the dumbest possible thing to argue about. This is a site to work together and share information to help yourself and others about balding. It's not a site to b**ch and moan about why your life sucks the most. Honestly, who the hell cares?

D.

 

[pleasegodno]

goddamn...it's not about whose life sucks the most, it's a simple statement that losing hair at a younger age generally has more emotional consequence. these guys, who have no experience losing hair at a young age, come in here and say that age doesn't matter at all. all we've been trying to say is that it does because we know it does as we are going through the sh*t and yet they think they know better than us. that is the root of the problem. really done with this f*****g sh*t.

 

[Guest]

Clicky!

 

[losin_it]

losin_it, way to misinterpret/misrepresent/misunderstand everything said in this entire thread again and again, even after clarification. yea, you better just stay off these sites and stick to trying to develop a functional brain.

Your pain is quite evidant. Do you want to talk about it?

 

[juststarting]

You guys mind if I chime in here?

Can you all just shut the f*** up? You're arguing about the dumbest possible thing to argue about. This is a site to work together and share information to help yourself and others about balding. It's not a site to b**ch and moan about why your life sucks the most. Honestly, who the hell cares?

D.

Hahah, very funny post! Made me laugh outloud.

What was the point of this thread originally anyway? Its definitely become who is more miserable with male pattern baldness, 20YRO or 30YRO ? lol :hairy:

 

[Guest]

see no-one clicked my clicky

 

[The Gardener]

Lots of 'Encouragement' in this thread.

Personally speaking, there is not enough time on this world to spend a single minute of it wallowing in despair or pity. A person might not be able to control the things that happen in life, but the one thing we can control is our attitude towards them.

The color of our attitude is also the color of the lens that we choose to see the world, and ourselves with. You can have the pink shades or the gloomy shades, it is YOUR CHOICE.

Crying over spilt milk might be theraputic in the short term to vent some emotions, however, it all too often becomes a habit. Additionally, a predisposition to negativity does more to make one an unattractive person than any hairline or lack therof could do.

I know that hairloss is traumatic and depressing. But, our time in this life is limited, and I am not going to spend it feeling bad. No matter what my hair looks like, I am getting my *** up every day and I am going to attack the day, enjoy the people around me, and make the most that this life has to offer. Hairloss is a challenge and an annoyance, but as long as you have ten fingers and toes and can speak and hear, and see the world around you, and have friends, and family, and a roof over your head and obviously a computer, then you are not doing all that badly.

I don't mean to minimize the effects of male pattern baldness. Yes, it is annoying and I don't like it, and I'm using minoxidil because I can, but all this defeatist talk about this being the end of the world is way, waaaay out of perspective. Sorry if I offended anyone, but that is just my stand.

Officially declare yourself a 'No Pity Zone'! Fight for yourself in life, and appreciate what you have. It is a liberating attitude to have! And, I know that if you try to do this, you will feel pulled back by the old chains of the habits of defeatism and self-pity, but in doing so you will finally realize just how much this defeatism is real, and how much is merely what you have convinced yourself is should be like!

 

[drinkrum]

You can have the pink shades or the gloomy shades, it is YOUR CHOICE.

Your hair loss treatments are turning you into a bit of a fruit, Gardener. 8)

D.

 

[Guest]

mods lock this thread already plz