Not only do I have to deal with losing my hair which has been happening since I turned 20 years old (I'm 29 now), but my father died of cancer 2 months ago. To make things worse I also had nobody to help me mourn my loss since my best friends moved out of state 3 months apart this past year and I've never had a girlfriend in my life and I have no female friends. It just totally sucks but I'm going to try to continue dealing with this without medication because I don't believe in it and I feel like I can still function ok. The combination of dealing with both has to be one of the worst feelings in the world. To other people who have dealt with the same thing, how did you cope with it?
Father just passed away + I have to deal with this crap
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Man that sounds tough. It must be hard enough getting over something like this with people around you, so I cant imagine it must be hard for you. I assume you are still in contact with your friends, so you should call them when your feeling particularly low. When I was depressed after splitting with my ex (and losing 2 kids) I found just talking to people helped. That and listening to music.
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my condolences
my father passed away when i was 5 years old, and i also have to live with this shitty curse (male pattern baldness). Its tearing me apart inside out big time.
I WANT MY LIFE BACK
I know how you feel. It's like an emotional prison, where you are restricted from feeling good and happy, and always have to put a fake smile when meeting new people. I am only 20 years old, and it seems as though I am already dead. I fuckin hate seeing 30-40 year olds with more hair than me, it just sucks.
I really do hope dutasteride can help me recover the hair that I have lost over the past 1.5 years, then I can live with my life.
Life sucks big time for some people, especially for young people like myself. Others are able to enjoy their lives and their youth. I have always believed that those who suffer in life, make up for those who enjoy life.
We are just unfortunate ones who have to suffer.
my father passed away when i was 5 years old, and i also have to live with this shitty curse (male pattern baldness). Its tearing me apart inside out big time.
I WANT MY LIFE BACK
I know how you feel. It's like an emotional prison, where you are restricted from feeling good and happy, and always have to put a fake smile when meeting new people. I am only 20 years old, and it seems as though I am already dead. I fuckin hate seeing 30-40 year olds with more hair than me, it just sucks.
I really do hope dutasteride can help me recover the hair that I have lost over the past 1.5 years, then I can live with my life.
Life sucks big time for some people, especially for young people like myself. Others are able to enjoy their lives and their youth. I have always believed that those who suffer in life, make up for those who enjoy life.
We are just unfortunate ones who have to suffer.
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dude i know how difficult it is to deal with such situations
but having a good sense of humour always helps,smiling at troubles is the key
when i'm depressed i don't need anybody.i just try to make myself happy with little things like movies,music like our good friend mentioned,etc
well its easy to be thankful in a country like india(thats where i live).coz the moment u step outside home there's so much pain to see all around.there r homeless people,orphans,hungry kids,etc
so when i'm depressed i take a casual walk,and within 10 mins i'm back home,smiling,more thankful than ever
so dude like i always said before there is a blessing in every little thing we have,we just fail to see it.
i understand your pain,but worrying about it will just ruin u further
man there r many situations in life where nobody comes to our rescue,we have to fight all alone
likewise,hairloss is also a situation where even god can't help us,but we alone have to fight against it using the proven stuff
so dude,keep on fighting,and don't ever lose hope
and as far as girls r concerned,u should be happy u don't have them,some of them can be a real pain believe me.in fact majority of them
hope u got my point even thought my english is terrible..sorry
but having a good sense of humour always helps,smiling at troubles is the key
when i'm depressed i don't need anybody.i just try to make myself happy with little things like movies,music like our good friend mentioned,etc
well its easy to be thankful in a country like india(thats where i live).coz the moment u step outside home there's so much pain to see all around.there r homeless people,orphans,hungry kids,etc
so when i'm depressed i take a casual walk,and within 10 mins i'm back home,smiling,more thankful than ever
so dude like i always said before there is a blessing in every little thing we have,we just fail to see it.
i understand your pain,but worrying about it will just ruin u further
man there r many situations in life where nobody comes to our rescue,we have to fight all alone
likewise,hairloss is also a situation where even god can't help us,but we alone have to fight against it using the proven stuff
so dude,keep on fighting,and don't ever lose hope
and as far as girls r concerned,u should be happy u don't have them,some of them can be a real pain believe me.in fact majority of them
hope u got my point even thought my english is terrible..sorry
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Sorry to hear that and my deepest condolences to both you guys... All I can say is keep fighting those tough situations in life... I agree life is not fair and can be very cruel to some and not so much to others...there is a famous saying " This too shall pass " which holds eternal.. meanwhile indulge is something that brings you pleasure and peace of mind. Try to detach your self with such things in life... One thing I have found out through experience is that the more attached you are with something the more you will mourn its loss...so try to fight it out the best way you can but try to detach with it slowly. easier said that done I know but if you try you will for sure... maybe you can comfort your self in the fact that more than 40% of men in the world are balding although at different rates and there are worst things in the world than balding...try to be more social and indulge in some social causes... it will take your attention away from your problems and you ll feel mental satisfaction that you are contibuting something good in the world rather than just worrying bout your own problems. Just remember worrying about it will not make it any better...
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Sorry to hear about your father dude! You should try to join something. It will give you a sense of self worth. It will also keep your mind off the stress. I have been going to the gym for the last 2 years. I go four days a week and I love it. We all need to focus on someting else other than our hairloss. Join a group or play a pickup game with total strangers. It worked for me.
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I'm sorry to hear about your losses. Keep your head up and continue to fight through and prosper. I would recommend joining a health club and working out. It's a great way to kill stress and leaves you feeling energized and looking great. I know how things can get tough but if you shift you're focus to things that you CAN control it'll def help change your mindset and allow you to focus on more positive things.
Sorry to hear about your loss. For me, tragedy in my life has had a somewhat different effect. First it tends to take my mind off the hair problem for a while, and second, it's made me realize that hair isn't the most important thing in life. Don't get me wrong, I really want me hair back, but if I was forced to choose, I would rather have someone I love back instead of my hair.
baldguy28,
My sincere condolonces on the passing of your father. My father died a year ago in an industrial accident and I had and still have so much I wanted to say to him before he went to work that last day.
I hope that you can overcome your loss and use it as a source of strength.
I am 31 and have been losing my hair since my mid teens. I was so self conscious about having such a big forehead and the further receding at 17 caused me to neglect and waste many aspects of my life including forming a more closer and loving relationship with my father.
Continue with your regimen and have a positive attitude in terms of your hairloss. Try to form new relationships with different people and don't obsess about not having a girlfriend at this point. It will happen if you remain honest and positive.
My sincere condolonces on the passing of your father. My father died a year ago in an industrial accident and I had and still have so much I wanted to say to him before he went to work that last day.
I hope that you can overcome your loss and use it as a source of strength.
I am 31 and have been losing my hair since my mid teens. I was so self conscious about having such a big forehead and the further receding at 17 caused me to neglect and waste many aspects of my life including forming a more closer and loving relationship with my father.
Continue with your regimen and have a positive attitude in terms of your hairloss. Try to form new relationships with different people and don't obsess about not having a girlfriend at this point. It will happen if you remain honest and positive.