Female Dating site headline "Must have hair or be bald by choice"

Lollerme

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Look, she does not find bald men attractive, whats wrong with having that on her profile? Everyone has their preferences.

I understand that losing your hair Fred has really affected you because of your age but I believe you should seek therapy. I don't mean that offensively but I belive it might help. Nothing to be ashamed of.

He should, can't be healthy being miserable 24/7.
 

Sir Gilgamesh

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Wrong again, confidence is what causes the attraction if, and only if the girl finds the guy hot.

How is that not common sense really?
Actually that isn't wrong at all; you're simply acting as if physical attractiveness is the only way to get women when it's not. There are other forms of attraction and confidence is one way to attract a woman; if you have confidence and actually have a presence when you walk into a room you don't need to be attractive to get women's attention and attract them. I'm sorry that you have trouble understanding this and there's nothing I can really do to help understand it. I'm just surprised you've never experienced any situations like this yourself to be quite honest.

I do find it funny that you continually post that I'm "Wrong" when I've experienced these things first hand; it can't be wrong.. It's proven now get that through your thick head and quit being so dense.


EDIT: Fred didn't you say that you've dated models and are currently dating a woman who had modeled for Belgian magazines? Since you're bald and automatically "ugly" for being bald then how did you get those models and your current girlfriend? If you aren't physically attractive I'm assuming you at least have some kind of confidence or other qualities that caught their attention and therefore their attraction, right?
 

Sir Gilgamesh

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As i know he's not bald anymore, had a hair transplant.
Well to put it in different words then, but still using his logic... "Since you've experienced hair loss and automatically "ugly" for having experienced hair loss..."

To put that in perspective that isn't what I think, but that's the kind of logic he seems to live by; personally I think someone can be physically attractive without hair and some people even look better without hair than with it.
 

jabbathehair

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Let me guess, you and all the naysayers in this thread are not bald. Am I wrong? That's what I thought.

As uncomfortable man said many times, the opinions of members who are not beyond NW3 should be disregarded.

You have no say on this matter. Wait until you're bald and you'll see things more clearly.

My dad is 52, he had the horseshoe shape by 30. I showed him this thread because I had a feeling you would say this. He doesn't hold back like I do. He honestly said you need help and sound obsessed. He won't touch finasteride or min and it's never bothered him. He shaved it as soon as he lost it. If a cure came out then yes of course he'd take it but he doesn't let being bald obscure his views of the world and women nor is he bitter. If a woman ever turns you down I'd be more inclined to believe it's because of your mental health state rather than being bald,that and you come across a real *** sometimes.
 

ssjpotato

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If you ever feel ugly, just remember there is a movement of girls on the internet who think Benedict Cumberbatch is the hottest man alive. If that doesn't make you feel better about your chances being attractive to at least someone then i don't know what will.
 

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I posted this thread and this has been an interesting discussion:) I see both sides here but I do think since this is a dating site and the goal being to meet someone and do it in a respectful way I have to lean towards Fred's point of view. I'm not attracted to heavy women either but I wouldn't put it in a headline, she can simply not reply or block any guy she isn't interested in talking to, hair or no hair:) Can we all agree she's rough on the eyes? LOL
 

maher

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I don't have any mental health problems right now. I used to because of hair loss, but it's over now.

Also, you don't think I'm the same in real social situations or with my girlfriend than I am on this forum?

I've had girlfriends with model looks but it wasn't necessarily confidence that attracted them to me.

More like persistence, I'm not sure it has something to do with confidence. I had to insist while I'm sure a NW1 would have had nothing much to do to get her.

And one hot girl wanted to be with me simply wanted to be with because she saw I was in a relationship, became jealous and wanted to have me.

I was bald at the time, and it's only because of these "tricks" that I got her, not because of confidence. She didn't stop making fun of my baldness during our relationship by the way.

My current girlfriend is also making little jokes about my bald head (I accidentally shaved my head two weeks ago) but she's not as harsh as the one I was with when actually bald.

Bottom line, you're in denial about how baldness will inevitably put you at the bottom of the dating pole. You'd like to believe that my "struggles" with women happened because of my attitude.

Sorry to disappoint you, I don't want to sound arrogant but I think that I'm a quite funny, charming and confident guy. But as I often say: nothing will compensate for a lack of hair but hair itself.

Haven't they offered you a modelling job when you were younger?
 

maher

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You know what... You had this comming :p :

[video=youtube;39YUXIKrOFk]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39YUXIKrOFk[/video]
 

shookwun

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I don't have any mental health problems right now. I used to because of hair loss, but it's over now.

Also, you don't think I'm the same in real social situations or with my girlfriend than I am on this forum?

I've had girlfriends with model looks but it wasn't necessarily confidence that attracted them to me.

More like persistence, I'm not sure it has something to do with confidence. I had to insist while I'm sure a NW1 would have had nothing much to do to get her.

And one hot girl wanted to be with me simply wanted to be with because she saw I was in a relationship, became jealous and wanted to have me.

I was bald at the time, and it's only because of these "tricks" that I got her, not because of confidence. She didn't stop making fun of my baldness during our relationship by the way.

My current girlfriend is also making little jokes about my bald head (I accidentally shaved my head two weeks ago) but she's not as harsh as the one I was with when actually bald.

Bottom line, you're in denial about how baldness will inevitably put you at the bottom of the dating pole. You'd like to believe that my "struggles" with women happened because of my attitude.

Sorry to disappoint you, I don't want to sound arrogant but I think that I'm a quite funny, charming and confident guy. But as I often say: nothing will compensate for a lack of hair but hair itself.


Persistence is key, had it not been for that you'd be forever alone.

Didn't you say you swiped thousands of times on Tindr, and by luckily had a girl who was willing to give you a shot. Doesn't that say a lot about the dating market, and value as a skinny bald man. That mental fortitude of yours has a barrier in itself, knowing that thousands of girls dismissed you, and having a 0.05 acceptance rate. Just goes to show the reality of the situation for most baldies, and how being consistent, and persistent is a must in order to make it in the dating world.


I haven't used Tindr myself, but for friends of mine in this whatsapp group I belong to make it seem like a walk in the park. They of which are all relatively jacked, and have Strong hairlines. Constantly posting responses, and trolling the women with bodybuilding misc lines, and picking up chicks around campus like it's no biggie. Once you reach a level aesthetics where you're trolling, and having a acceptance rate of 1 in 6 is when you know you're attractive versus the latter.



Rele just goes to show the gravity of the sitation when you're handsome versus average and bald on Tindr, and other dating applications.
 

shookwun

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Using Tinder will shove the red pill through any man's throat.

I've indeed got exactly two (successful fortunately) dates out of Tinder out of thousands of swipes.

Average or even above average guys with hair loss get next to nothing, while good looking men with NW1 get absolutely everything.

Welcome to the golden age of female hypergamy.

indeed.

Like I said these same guys post responses, and received pictures (nudes) of Tindr girls all the time on this whats app group I belong to. Their response is 'oh dude you got to use this line to open them, then it all goes up hill from there', Right because Tindr is based on what you say rather then what you look like :roll:
 

Lollerme

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My dad is 52, he had the horseshoe shape by 30. I showed him this thread because I had a feeling you would say this. He doesn't hold back like I do. He honestly said you need help and sound obsessed. He won't touch finasteride or min and it's never bothered him. He shaved it as soon as he lost it. If a cure came out then yes of course he'd take it but he doesn't let being bald obscure his views of the world and women nor is he bitter. If a woman ever turns you down I'd be more inclined to believe it's because of your mental health state rather than being bald,that and you come across a real *** sometimes.

There's no use in discussing with him, he's right we're wrong. Every bald man feels just like him and we will cut our wrists and cry ourselfs to sleep when we're bald :(
 

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indeed.

Like I said these same guys post responses, and received pictures (nudes) of Tindr girls all the time on this whats app group I belong to. Their response is 'oh dude you got to use this line to open them, then it all goes up hill from there', Right because Tindr is based on what you say rather then what you look like :roll:

Bingo.

If the girl finds you attractive, you'll get away with saying anything. You could even be raping her mom and she'd still sleep with you after. But if you're unattractive (bald)... you're fvcked.
 

Lollerme

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Bingo.

If the girl finds you attractive, you'll get away with saying anything. You could even be raping her mom and she'd still sleep with you after. But if you're unattractive (bald)... you're fvcked.

The same goes the other way around
 

shookwun

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That's why these PUA gurus all have their heads up their asses. They think that it's their pick-up lines and techniques that works while it's most likely all about their looks.

Aaron Sleazy, former PUA who debunked the entire PUA community and fallacy said that at a point, he just tried to make "mistakes" and say whatever that was on his mind to girls.



Guess what, he still managed to sleep with them. Looks are almost everything in dating.



How about that RSD Julian guy? He's 6'4, and handsome yet it must be the PUA:roll:


Women absolutely go googoo gaaagaaa over tall, handsome dudes.7



rather studying PUA, andall that bull**** those socially insecure recluses should form hobbies, and interests. Gain experience, travel, and open your paradigm... then tell me you still don't know how to talk to women. It's all about social experience.
 
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