I've never read anything that says women and children don't have 5ar1 in their brains. Do you have a reference for that claim?
5ar1 must be present in our brains for a reason. It wouldn't be in the brain in the first place if it served no function whatsoever.
What is interesting is that unlike 5ar2 deficiency, there is no biological model for 5ar1 deficiency. This suggests that congenital 5ar1 deficiency is invariably lethal to a developing embryo.
There is also a third 5ar enzyme, 5ar3, which is potently inhibited by both finasteride and dutasteride. Like 5ar1, it is also present in the brain. Evidence shows that it has a critical role in cell metabolism, and that its main function is to synthesize a specific type of alcohol called "dolichol". This alcohol has an essential role in protein folding within the endoplasmic reticulum of cells for the very beginning stages of glycosylation. Evidence also suggests that 5ar3 converts testosterone to DHT. Individuals who are born with mutations in the gene that codes for 5ar3 display a wide range of serious health problems such as severe mental retardation, psychomotor retardation, serious eye problems, skin abnormalities, bone and joint abnormalities, and coarse facial features.