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I had hair loss from around 22 and it actually started when I was 16 (very slowly) although I didn't know of it. This was due to my hair loss being caused by lichen planopilaris rather than general male pattern baldness. In some ways, this actually hurts me more and depresses me more as if some doctor (the doctor I had was complete garbage) woke me up and told me "You will lose your hair if you don't do something about this" then of course I would have. At 16-22 though, with shoulder length hair covering it, it was of course too late to do anything about it. Think about it, many of you lost your hair through genetics but imagine someone telling you "yea, if you just took this medication for 1 month you would have kept most of your hair" how that would make you feel.
In regards to the main title, I find that this moronic line is spouted by countless people who are already established, in marriages and maybe have kids. Even if they themselves are bald, how the hell can they sit there and tell me with a straight face that it's all in my head or that women "don't care" when they themselves were smarter than me in relation to quickly snatching someone up? I am in my early 30's at this point and while some people say it get's easier, I don't really know about that. I have to contend with other 30 year olds with hair on dating sites. In one second they can swipe past my profile and see someone with a full head of hair and that will be done with it. Now though, these people-family members, acquaintances-who already are established are the ones to tell you that nope, it's just your personality. I don't think I've ever seen someone meet their partner and marry them once they are already bald. It seems like this only really occurs before they turn bald where they build a deeper connection so at that point, their wives can look at other features beyond their baldness.
So for years now I am being told this by the same people, in the state I described and funny enough, nothing has changed in my life. I remember at 22 I somehow covered up my care for this issue. I immediately shaved my head once I saw the thinning and thought to myself "I don't care". I subconciously though did care and in result I became angrier, stopped caring about having friends, stopped caring about having any relationship with any women under the guise of "well, I'm just asocial, I really don't need anyone". Once I hit 30, it came down like an avalanche and let me tell you that each day is somewhat of a struggle in this regard. Once you admit to yourselves the truths and that you can't escape it becomes worse and apathy grows every day.
In my life I still have my family and health but really nothing else, life plays on repeat and no one will understand this because they most of them are already established, even if they are already bald. I already don't think I have a great donor zone and can't do much about it. It's worse in the fact that if I do a hair transplant, my condition might reactivate. So yea, this is pure garbage.
In regards to the main title, I find that this moronic line is spouted by countless people who are already established, in marriages and maybe have kids. Even if they themselves are bald, how the hell can they sit there and tell me with a straight face that it's all in my head or that women "don't care" when they themselves were smarter than me in relation to quickly snatching someone up? I am in my early 30's at this point and while some people say it get's easier, I don't really know about that. I have to contend with other 30 year olds with hair on dating sites. In one second they can swipe past my profile and see someone with a full head of hair and that will be done with it. Now though, these people-family members, acquaintances-who already are established are the ones to tell you that nope, it's just your personality. I don't think I've ever seen someone meet their partner and marry them once they are already bald. It seems like this only really occurs before they turn bald where they build a deeper connection so at that point, their wives can look at other features beyond their baldness.
So for years now I am being told this by the same people, in the state I described and funny enough, nothing has changed in my life. I remember at 22 I somehow covered up my care for this issue. I immediately shaved my head once I saw the thinning and thought to myself "I don't care". I subconciously though did care and in result I became angrier, stopped caring about having friends, stopped caring about having any relationship with any women under the guise of "well, I'm just asocial, I really don't need anyone". Once I hit 30, it came down like an avalanche and let me tell you that each day is somewhat of a struggle in this regard. Once you admit to yourselves the truths and that you can't escape it becomes worse and apathy grows every day.
In my life I still have my family and health but really nothing else, life plays on repeat and no one will understand this because they most of them are already established, even if they are already bald. I already don't think I have a great donor zone and can't do much about it. It's worse in the fact that if I do a hair transplant, my condition might reactivate. So yea, this is pure garbage.