Hairloss in your twenties is the worst

[gravesen]

It seems so obvious, but some people here speak about "hairloss" without even taking that in consideration. You can't talk about how some people who are over thirty have a "normal" life with hairloss and then jumb to the concluision that a 20 years old guy can also do that.

 

[maradona]

It's not so bad in your mid twenties setting aside that all your dreams about landing the girl of your dreams are probably over.

But losing your hair in highschool that must've been FUCKED up.

I can't even imagine if I had gotten through college or high school had hairloss hit me before. I probably would have committed suicide no joke or quit my education !

Luckily my hair loss started in my last year of college. I lost my motivation, grades went to sh*t, the smart and confident me, leader of the groups was gone.

But he now is gone when I don't need him so much, that part i consider myself lucky.

 

[CaptainForehead]

how about losing hair at 18
.

Or at 13.


Losing hair in 20s must be nice...comparatively speaking. :whistle:

 

[CaptainForehead]

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[theangryone]

Ain't that the truth.

I first started losing my hair when I was 18, and I was able to mask it somewhat until I was 21. When I was 21, people who didn't know me thought I was in my 30s. Hairloss took away my remaining youth and, worst of all, my ability to get women.

 

[Primo]

I started losing it at 18, I'm 25 now and a NW3.

It was undeniably shocking to start losing my hair at that early age but there are many people far worse off then me and I've definitely regained my confidence and self esteem since then. My hairloss will probably progress to a NW4 before I'm 30 but I've accepted there's nothing I can do to change this and it doesn't bother me as much as before, besides I'm lucky it's been slow and steady.

I think the people who have it worst, are those who have no hairloss for a number of years and think they're safe and in the clear, then all of a sudden out of nowhere, they lose about 3 or 4 norwoods in the space of a few years, that's a huge psychological shock to process all at once and I can see how it would cripple somebody's confidence.

I think a number of the doom mongers on this forum have suffered this sudden, rapid hairloss scenario, where they never had a chance to acknowledge and accept their hairloss situation and get their confidence back in life because it all just happened so damn quickly.

 

[Beingbaldsucks]

I'm 21, I was Norwood 3.5 even 4, I remember being outcast, people hated me, then I used products and my hair grow, I'm Norwood 2 now, some say even 1 cuz I don't look like someone with hair loss, and needless to say that people like me more now

 

[oldmpber]

It sucks at any age though it is easier to accept when you are older. Well most of the time-though I still have moments- like seeing my old classmates who are mysteriously still NW0's. I would be lying if I said that did not bother me.

Oh and this may help some of you deal with it---- I can say that starting early does not always mean you will go bald in say 3-10 years. Yea I thought it too and worried about it when I was 17. A woman who cut my hair said I was starting at 14 though I didn't see anything till 17. But regardless I slowly receded for about 10 years then it stopped. Then nothing till I was pushing 40 and vertex started forming. Even that slowed down after about 4-5 years.

What I am saying is your male pattern baldness could slow down to a crawl and it will take you many years before you appear bald to others. A hair dr told me that male pattern baldness will often come in spurts where you have a few years of aggressive male pattern baldness then nothing for the next 10 years. If you talk to hair dr's they say that usally male pattern baldness is a gradual progression over many years- and that has been true for both me and my uncle. So don't give up just yet,you still too young to know what is going to happen.

Older guys told me this when I was in my 20's so just passing on what turned out to be true for me and hoping the same for you guys.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I was nw5 by 23, no slow haulting progression for me unfortunately.

 

[DonaldAnderson]

how about losing hair at 18
.

Or at 13.


Losing hair in 20s must be nice...comparatively speaking. :whistle:

:agree: uke:

 

[slipy]

Loosing hair in 20's is still garbage, you still feel so unfortunate.
Look around and how many are loosing it at that age? only few.

 

[oldmpber]

I was nw5 by 23, no slow haulting progression for me unfortunately.

Well here is something that may help you deal with it, if only a tiny bit:

When I was 19 or 20 , a friend of a friend was an old man (79) & NW6 or 7. He preceded to tell me his story of what it was like dealing with male pattern baldness from 17 to 79.
He said he was the ONLY one in his class to start receding in high school and said he stuck out like a sore thumb. He also said dealing with male pattern baldness is far far far worse when you are young and the only one or just one of the few having to deal with it. If there was anything good about dealing with it so young, was that the pain is lessened with time. Part of that is just time itself but the other part is somewhere around your 20th or 25th reunion, everything flip-flops and you are no longer the minority, but in the majority. He said that it was at the 20th or 25th where suddenly most of the other men in his class were balding too and there were only a few holdouts left. He said you will never like it but the pain and anxiety is greatly lessened as you get older.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I've heard that, and I've also heard the opposite. I guess it just depends on the person and the circumstances. But there are still old men who long after going bald in their twenties feel insecure. How old is Larry David and he is still obsessed with his baldness.

 

[oldmpber]

I've heard that, and I've also heard the opposite. I guess it just depends on the person and the circumstances. But there are still old men who long after going bald in their twenties feel insecure. How old is Larry David and he is still obsessed with his baldness.

Well he said you will never like it just that it will not cause anxiety/stress like it does when it's just you or you and a few others. It's because you stand out when you are young. My biology teacher said the same thing basically. That there would be no stigma at all if it happened to men at the same time like beard growth. But some it happens to some when they are young, some middle age, and a few not till old age. Made me wonder if beard growth would be considered a stigma if it happened at different times like male pattern baldness?

 

[CaptainForehead]

. Made me wonder if beard growth would be considered a stigma if it happened at different times like male pattern baldness?

No, because beards can be shaved.

 

[Beingbaldsucks]

Like I said before, baldness in your 20' is a good reason to commit sucide

 

[Islander]

Nuff said. I feel like I was robbed of my youth. It's like I finaly has aged into my looks. I look best than ever and at the same time I am being complitely downgraded by hair loss.

 

[oldmpber]

. Made me wonder if beard growth would be considered a stigma if it happened at different times like male pattern baldness?

No, because beards can be shaved.

But if they were a stigma, the guys who had developed them early would be embarrassed about having them, especially if most of their friends did not have them. It's embarrassing, because they stand out from the majority.


And you don't have to be young to feel it. That old man told me that by his 25th, most of his classmates had started balding too. So he did not feel singled out and his baldness did not bother him at that point as he was in the majority. But I have recently mentioned in anothor thread something that has bothered me. My 30th is coming up in a year and my class meets up on FB. So far I have seen almost 10 guys who look to be perfect NW0's. Not sure if they have had work done or just lucky, but that will make me feel weird if I show up next year and stand out as the only guy who has some balding.

We are told to accept people who are different but it sure doesn't seem to work that way in the real world...

 

[slipy]

And you don't have to be young to feel it. That old man told me that by his 25th, most of his classmates had started balding too. So he did not feel singled out and his baldness did not bother him at that point as he was in the majority.

what is this place he lived in where the majority of men are balding by 25? a commune of bald outcasts?
when im out among the crowds all those full heads, young and old, are driving me insane.

 

[oldmpber]

And you don't have to be young to feel it. That old man told me that by his 25th, most of his classmates had started balding too. So he did not feel singled out and his baldness did not bother him at that point as he was in the majority.

what is this place he lived in where the majority of men are balding by 25? a commune of bald outcasts?
when im out among the crowds all those full heads, young and old, are driving me insane.

25th class reunion- and to be a bit more accurate I think he said that is when he first saw more balding guys than full headed ones. And at each following reunion he kept seeing more and more guys join the club. What made it worse for those guys was the fact that there were NO medications way back then-their male pattern baldness was completely natural and they had no way to slow it down.