Greetings gourmetstylewellness.com members,
I come here to tell my story and maybe some of you guys can learn something or relate to my views.
I'm 21 years old now and I started balding at 19 yrs old (noticable). 3 years ago I was a school going kid, pretty populair with my friends and with the girls. I have had the greatest set of hair you could imagen... And I'm not kidding. Actually my hair is what kept me "cool" and handsome for the girls. My head has a funny shape so thanks to my great hair it wasnt noticable at all. Then just one day I started noticing my great hair was thinning slightly and I immediatly tried to fix it by seeking on the internet to thicken my hair (I wasnt aware at all that it was male pattern baldness). I ran into a forum (a dutch forum) about hairloss and I can still recall on the first reply I got saying "Well you might be balding? Thinning is the start of balding". I refused to believe such nonsense because that was something I would never be able to handle. As time went by I had to face it eventually... I was loosing my hairs and I cried many nights (I'm not ashamd to tell it like it is). But it wasnt noticable so lucky me. For months my hairs thinned but I could still do my normal thing except my hair started loosing some volume. I was in my last year of school now and the thinning kept on doing its thing and it went from bad to worse when the thining temples moved in. I started to get many reponses from my friends that something was going on with my hair and it got on my nerves definetly knowing that every morning somebody said something about it so going to school really was getting to me after a while. Since my great hair was what was covering my funny head shape and now it was fading people started noticing my head shape and I got laughs from here and there and that really blew my self confidense aswell. I went from a very popular guy to a loser with a alien shaped head! Reality.
At that point in life I ran into various theology's & filosophy's and it spoke to me immediatly. I knew there was a bigger truth I had to conquer. I eventually started studying Zen Buddhism & Taoïsm and practicing some meditation and it teached me alot about my problems and its causes. I started to appriciate my suffering because it was needed to make happiness excist and such insights came to my mind. After I graduated I studied more of these kind of teachings. I took the suffering of my hairloss as my tool in my practice. And I think my hairloss was a blessing otherwise I would never have such a chance to empower my knowledge and insight about life. I learned alot from my hairloss. To this day I still use my hairloss as a tool in life rather then a curse.
If there would be any tip I want to give to those suffering from Hairloss then this would be it: Use your suffering as a tool rather then see it as a curse. "Its not what you see, its how you relate to what you see", this sentense counts for every sort of suffering in life and has helped me greatly.
Hairloss, my teacher. Thank you. :notworthy
With kind regards,
Brian.
I come here to tell my story and maybe some of you guys can learn something or relate to my views.
I'm 21 years old now and I started balding at 19 yrs old (noticable). 3 years ago I was a school going kid, pretty populair with my friends and with the girls. I have had the greatest set of hair you could imagen... And I'm not kidding. Actually my hair is what kept me "cool" and handsome for the girls. My head has a funny shape so thanks to my great hair it wasnt noticable at all. Then just one day I started noticing my great hair was thinning slightly and I immediatly tried to fix it by seeking on the internet to thicken my hair (I wasnt aware at all that it was male pattern baldness). I ran into a forum (a dutch forum) about hairloss and I can still recall on the first reply I got saying "Well you might be balding? Thinning is the start of balding". I refused to believe such nonsense because that was something I would never be able to handle. As time went by I had to face it eventually... I was loosing my hairs and I cried many nights (I'm not ashamd to tell it like it is). But it wasnt noticable so lucky me. For months my hairs thinned but I could still do my normal thing except my hair started loosing some volume. I was in my last year of school now and the thinning kept on doing its thing and it went from bad to worse when the thining temples moved in. I started to get many reponses from my friends that something was going on with my hair and it got on my nerves definetly knowing that every morning somebody said something about it so going to school really was getting to me after a while. Since my great hair was what was covering my funny head shape and now it was fading people started noticing my head shape and I got laughs from here and there and that really blew my self confidense aswell. I went from a very popular guy to a loser with a alien shaped head! Reality.
At that point in life I ran into various theology's & filosophy's and it spoke to me immediatly. I knew there was a bigger truth I had to conquer. I eventually started studying Zen Buddhism & Taoïsm and practicing some meditation and it teached me alot about my problems and its causes. I started to appriciate my suffering because it was needed to make happiness excist and such insights came to my mind. After I graduated I studied more of these kind of teachings. I took the suffering of my hairloss as my tool in my practice. And I think my hairloss was a blessing otherwise I would never have such a chance to empower my knowledge and insight about life. I learned alot from my hairloss. To this day I still use my hairloss as a tool in life rather then a curse.
If there would be any tip I want to give to those suffering from Hairloss then this would be it: Use your suffering as a tool rather then see it as a curse. "Its not what you see, its how you relate to what you see", this sentense counts for every sort of suffering in life and has helped me greatly.
Hairloss, my teacher. Thank you. :notworthy
With kind regards,
Brian.
