Have you ever seen your bald "equal"?

[Mercury]

I remember one night I was at a bar (sad and alone as usual) and from across the bar I saw him. He was my exact balding pattern. He was my exact body build. He was my exact complexion. His facial features were even quite proportionate to mine. He was for all appearances sake my exact physical equal.

I studied him closely...


He seemed nice. He seemed to have a friendly, relaxed disposition. Even when I heard him speak he sounded intelligent and self-assured. He had a clean look to him. His clothes suited him nicely. Even his posture was that of a well adjusted young man.

So case closed, right?


No, there was something else. Something was dulling his aura. Something seemed to negate his personality. It was something boring. It was something lifeless. There was something missing. Yes, it was his hair, specifically the top part. But it wasn't just the hair. You see, I tried to imagine him walking in with a beautiful girl (or two) but I just couldn't. I tried to imagine him joining in all the laughter and joking that was going on around us, but I couldn't see him doing that either. I tried to imagine him being attractive, strong, creative... but I just couldn't see it in him. Of course I knew it was the balding that did it because that's what did it to me too, but I could also see clearly how the balding hung like a dark cloud over every single one of his good qualities. Looking at him I couldn't escape the sorrow of loss looming over him in every way.

Even as I sympathized with him. Even as I saw clear as day all this good human qualities that he possessed. Even though I could see that if only he had hair he would obviously be a VERY good looking young guy. Even as I was in the exact situation as he was. I still couldn't deny that he was quite unappealing because of that one factor...

So there we both sat, on opposite ends of the bar, two young balders, quitely sipping our beers and looking on while everyone in the middle of the bar was embracing eachother. Everyone who had hair.

 

[Exodus2011]

That must hve been depressing

 

[Benjamin36]

You should have talked to him. Your opening line could have been "Hey, are you bald too?"

 

[Mercury]

i did say something to him, i don't remember what it was. i remember he was very chill, very cool and had a great smile. people have said the same of me, by the way. the dude was just seriously prematurely bald is all. it made him look a bit nervous, kind of shy, timid, etc. that's one thing about balding, it looks unconfident no matter if the guy really is or not.



now this other guy i saw, who was about my age too, he works at the grocery store and by some evil force he is even balder than i am. i didn't think that was possible! but sure enough he has nothing but a very thin strip of hair looping around the back of his head. he assisted me with my shopping and the dude was pleasant as can be but that bald pattern was clearly a chick repellant. the guy looked like he may never get laid again! i hate to say it but it's true.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

ive met my bald double, worst thing about it was me thinking he was an ugly bastard, thats what id look like to the world lol

 

[IrishFella]

I met my NW1 doppleganger. Infact he lives near me, I'm an NW2 so not exactly what the OP was looking for but I thought I'd share! Everyone keeps confusing the two of us from a certain distance, but I cleverly style my hair, hiding my recession while he rocks that 50's combover look I used to rock when I was 18. It's as if he's showing off his perfect hairline to the world. It doesn't really bother as I've always being an NW2 but when it started thinning over a year ago I was fretting (thinning was becoming noticeable , thankfully finasteride and nizoral came to the rescue and it's been getting better and better.

But yeah, I wouldn't mind having his hairline!

 

[Benjamin36]

It's as if he's showing off his perfect hairline to the world.

That Bastard!

 

[nothing]

I used to do slick back......not anymore.
knew quite a few baldies, all went from NW1 to NW2.5~3 in maybe 2 or 3 years.

 

[ladysmanfelpz]

Man I try not to be negative about the whole balding thing too and people that aren't bald are just like get over it, but I see the exact same thing. There is just a cloud that looms over like you said. Nice guy, attractive, smart, good smile, funny. Got everything going for him except hes bald. It does cause the shyness and many other things. Even if a guy acts like they don't care about it, they do, and us baldies can see the demeanor.

 

[slipy]

not that i remember exactly. but i've seen something more horrifying. a future version of myself in the form of an old, short, extreamely thin old man with a horseshoe couple of weeks ago. he looked so messed up in comparission to your average civilian and even your average bald guy. i immediately identified him as a future version of myself cuz we shared so many traits. i wondered how bad his life must be. it's needless to explain how disturbed i felt seeing that sight.

 

[kelan]

It's bad enough to see myself in the mirror, so if i saw my body double I think I would just look away. I'd probably end up looking at other people and their reactions (if any).

When I see bald people, I've trained myself to look at their face and not where their hair should be, or not look at all. (Just as I would expect from others)

When I see bald people, they all seem pretty content, and seem confident with themselves. (unless they are just good at acting)

When I'm out in the world I'm usually quite conscious of myself, but when I'm at work my hair is the last thing I think of (which is pretty lucky!) - there is just way too many other things to think about. And when everything thing is done, you're drained! I usually feel the best at work!

 

[andrew lincoln]

Haha, yeah I bet that would have been an entertaining conversation, if you would have actually approached him and told him what you were thinking that is.