Having Full head of hair would change my life

[HatPrisoner91]

I swear...all these self righteous posts about how people don't understand what its like from a bald mans perspective....well guess what? I'm a 22 year old Norwood 5 who goes to university with a shaved head. Do you even comprehend how much of a minority I am compared to the rest of my peers? Guys like you and U-man couldn't even begin to imagine what its like in MY situation but I don't like playing that "if you were in MY shoes game"...

I can't understand what it's like to be in YOUR situation? Really? At age 23, I was a full NW6. Nothing on top. So try knowing something before pulling statements out of your ***, thank you.

And to be honest, I have come a LONG way in my life. But that does not change the fact that I am slave to it. I am around people with no hat a lot of the time, and I look horrible and I know it. No one "ridicules me" because I tend to do it in a professional environment.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Girls dont judge as by our hair, they judge our looks overall

And how do you think baldness effects your looks...overall? I'm familiar with your doom and gloom posts H4HR, I know your capacity for being depressed. So you can stay positive (which I encourage in your situation...feel grateful that your not bald) but if you were to reach nw5 in a year or two, you know you would be on here bitchin up a storm.

 

[uncomfortable man]

To be honest, I feel real sorry for Jason for having to wear that hockey mask 24/7.............................................. :whistle:

And to follow that analogy, some people would sit there and try to convince Jason that he can walk around not wearing the hockey mask and fit in. That's it's all in his head and if he can exude confidence, women will love him, no matter what his disfigured face looks like...

Ha Ha, that is so F-n true.

I swear...all these self righteous posts about how people don't understand what its like from a bald mans perspective....well guess what? I'm a 22 year old Norwood 5 who goes to university with a shaved head. Do you even comprehend how much of a minority I am compared to the rest of my peers? Guys like you and U-man couldn't even begin to imagine what its like in MY situation but I don't like playing that "if you were in MY shoes game"...

I was nw5 by 25 and yes I was still in college so I do know what it is like Q.

 

[s.a.f]

bitchin up a storm.

:laugh:

 

[Hope4hairRedux]

Girls dont judge as by our hair, they judge our looks overall

And how do you think baldness effects your looks...overall? I'm familiar with your doom and gloom posts H4HR, I know your capacity for being depressed. So you can stay positive (which I encourage in your situation...feel grateful that your not bald) but if you were to reach nw5 in a year or two, you know you would be on here bitchin up a storm.

I guess your right. I dont know what its going to be like being completely bald.

However I have still lost enough hair for it to have a significant impact. And the way I see it, its still your choice to get up everyday and aim towards a healthier mindset. I dont think our mental outlook is directly correlated and determind on how much hair we have on our head. The important thing is being able to refigure your mentality towards it.

And for you, you've been living like this for ages. Your completely stuck in your negative mentality. Completely attached to your negative way of thinking. Im not here to try and cure your way of thinking Uman; thats up to you. Choose your life. There is no magic bullet. There is no one fits all way to stop suffering. Its a process, and also a subtle transformation in thinking.

Im not going to lie; a lot of bald white men I see, older types, nw4's and above look like complete sh*t. Id hate to be them. But then there seem to be two types of bald men. There are those who still look pretty healthy and are in good shape, and are on a good path in life. Successful, educated, interesting, athletic, whatever. Then there are those are completely let themselves go. And I also want to make clear that we dont know how much people care about their hair in the first place.

I do concede that yes, being completely bald might be really tough. To be honest, id rather have a bit of a horse shoe then be completely bald anyway. Unless my complexion and head shape suited it. We'll see. But one of the big points im making is that we can still choose our attitude in any given circumstance. Hairloss does effect me. But I actually try everyday to water some more postive seeds. How can I improve my happiness today? Br rubbing loads of chemicals in my hair or wearing a wig? Or by looking at myself in the mirror and thinking that I am already perfect, that I can accept my reality. And Im working my way back to a good level of confidence and good self esteem. In my experience, you have to find some inner beleif and conviction to push yourself forward.

We may lose our first realm of attractiveness being bald(ing), some youth, but women, as i said again, dont judge guys on their hair alone. If you have style and confidence, a good outlook on life, good physique etc etc(which by the way isnt simple but is a workable goal) then I dont see why bald has to mean anything.

Yeah, I see a lot of bald guys and think, damn that guys a loser. Its not because he has no hair. Its because of that shitty attitude he seems to give off. He seems to look like sh*t. Overweight, unhealthy. Then I can see another bald guy and think wow (and im not gay, but I can honestly say I still know when I see an attractive male) that guy looks good bald. He seems to take care of himself. He exudes a nice vibration.

Its all about attitude. The most interesting people I meet in life are those with amazing attitudes. I was particularly moved by a group of british amy veterans who have had limbs blown of in the iraq war. There was a documentary about a group of the going on a sponsered expidition to climb mount everest base camp. They had such a great attitude despite being disabled. Im sure most women would fall for them.

A good attitude is sexy.

Im not going to go on and on. There are probably people who have no legs. One person might say 'my life sucks, you dont know what its like being disabled.' and another might have a great attitude and still accomplish a lot. Its the same with anything. There are thousands of things that can happen to us that we have little control over. Sometimes we only have control of our attitude. Uman or any other people; feel free to continue your habit of thinking. But I dont think you are free; your completely consumed by how you look. Or how you think you look. The first thing to understand is how much we overplay our ownlooks and how little others care.

People talking about how bald men are discrimated against for example. Jesus.

Im not saying that everything should be rosy and idylic. But it sure as f*** doesnt have to be terrible and depressing. There is at least a middle way to strive towards. I believe I can be an attractive bald man with a life that I want to live. It all starts with the intent. If you wake up everyday and think that you hate yourself all the time, that your not attractive, then your deeper mind will beleive that. Im not saying that with a good attitude we can magically become the sexiest men on earth. But it all starts there. Being attractive is 90% attitude and 10% actual looks in my opinion. As long as your not a quasimodo freak type, then you have as much chance as anyone else to do anything you want. Iit just comes down to how much you beleive you can attian something.

 

[Obsidian]

To be honest, I feel real sorry for Jason for having to wear that hockey mask 24/7.............................................. :whistle:

And to follow that analogy, some people would sit there and try to convince Jason that he can walk around not wearing the hockey mask and fit in. That's it's all in his head and if he can exude confidence, women will love him, no matter what his disfigured face looks like...

Are you really trying to use a fictional mass murderer as an example of your plight?

 

[superfrankie]

H4HR, your last post is the most powerful Ive read so far in here. It creates many inevitable positive vibes within me. No matter your hair situation, if you can have that mindset, only sky is the limit.

Ive realized, when I acutally do believe in myself, when I truly feel confident about something, Ive always got what I want. And conversely, when I feel like a bald looser not being worth anything in life (not having the ability to attract girls for example), thats what is going to happen in reality, cause my reality reflects that shitty attitude I have. But I can change it quickly, but only if I do BELIEVE.

Ive had a hard time admitting to myself how much power I do have over what is happening in my life. For a long time now, Ive felt like a passenger only reacting to what is happening around me. Im sick of it. I rather prefer to create my own destiny.

 

[HatPrisoner91]

Are you really trying to use a fictional mass murderer as an example of your plight?

I didn't bring it up, he did. Correct? Ok thanks.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Come on Obsidian, stop "tormenting" these people. HP and UC deep down inside are really great human beings. So are YOU. On the "surface" they are "hurting". So are YOU. I brought up the stuff about Jason as a joke to lighten up the thread and HP just explained my point but it had nothing to do with his plight. Honestly, most of you people don't see what I see in UC. He probably is one of the most intelligent posters with great insight on here who everyone reads the wrong way. He is the "good guy". I wish you would finally realize that and "shake hands" already. I wish people would stop "attacking" him already. He gets that enough already in his local town. Sorry but I have been a victim myself so many times, I can't stand seeing this still at my age. Obsidian, you are better than this. You know you are. I remember you posted one time how losing your hair made you a little more humble and that you said you were not going to treat people negatively like you did in the past. What happened to that person. Let him come back. He was a cool guy.

 

[HatPrisoner91]

Heck I would say I posted about 10 times in the past year. I ended up not seeing a point to it. Only a couple of people here can have any idea what it's like to be bald, though many claim it.

 

[Nene]

Hope4hair, I'm really proud of you for turning around your attitude man. You make some really good points. It's hard but we have to learn acceptance. Yes we will look older and less attractive without our hair, but I"ve seen some good looking bald dudes. The damages can be mitigated, and even if you don't really suit the bald look, that is no reason to live your life hating yourself. You have to accept that you're looks have taken a blow, and it's not easy in this superficial world, but you can't stop living your life.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

My answer to this topic title would be yes.

I travel alot with work, move from place to place every few months, I avoid meeting friends and colleagues I havent seen in a year+ now due to the embarrassment of hairloss. Even the simplest things like un-tagging facebook pictures due to how shocking I look pisses me off. It doesnt HAVE to be done but then I'd rather folk who knew me a couple of years ago remembered me as the cool guy who always had a lass on the go and have no contact with them, rather than be known as the baldy guy I'm mates with.

As for women, dont get me started, 3 years ago I had them throwing themselves at me, my rating out of 10 has gone from an 8 to a 4. Been single for a year now and can only will only ever get my end away with fatties, even they dont seem as grateful as they should be. I earn way more money, I'm in much better shape, I'm more mature and a hell of alot smarter, my looks are the only thing thats gone.

Getting all my hair back would change my life, the only aspect of my life it hasnt changed has been with work and obviously with family. It may well affect my career in the future if I ever have to move on, right now I'm as good as my own boss and answer to nobody. I work in sales and can get by with the business I'm doing now, if I ever had to start selling to women again I'd imagine it'd be alot tougher for me.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

Diffuse NW5 here, the slick bald top is coming and its just a matter of time, I agree 100% that those who say it doesnt change your life are either deluding themselves in the way that only this medium allows (and agree it changes your life when staring in their mirrors offline) or are NW2 or less.

I've had one night out in the past 2 years that I've relaxed and enjoyed, for somebody who used to go out 4 times a week its been massive. The club, on the night I did enjoy myself, was half full of bald men (and no it wasnt a gay bar :innocent: )

 

[KANGA]

If hairloss crushed your desire to live, then chances are that even if you had a full head of hair you still wouldn't pull chicks.

Guys that rely on their looks to attract women are in for a world of hurt; even if the dude manages to get a few chicks in bed, he's going to be depressed as sh*t because he won't know why he can't maintain any sort of relationship.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

Is that from experience KANGA or are you just making assumptions about good looking NW1's?

Having hair and thus extra points for looks makes it easier to meet women, break the ice. Obviously if youre a gimp no woman will go anywhere near you regardless of your looks. You cant assume that I miss my hair because it makes it harder to randomly deck hot slags, I miss it because forming ANY kind of relationship with a woman is harder.

Nobody solely relies on their looks in life but having them can open doors the rest of us have to kick our way through.

 

[KANGA]

Nobody solely relies on their looks in life but having them can open doors the rest of us have to kick our way through.

Is that from experience, BrightonBaldy or are you just making assumptions? :whistle:

You should re-read my post. You're wrong on 2 parts: There ARE some people who rely on their looks in life (Models?) and some men DO rely on their looks to pick up women.

The majority of guys on here going, "OMG IM BALDING... I CANT PICK UP WOMEN :sobbing: :sobbing: :sobbing: " are the ones who rely on their looks to get women.

If you can't pick up women because you're balding then you have much deeper issues than male pattern baldness.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

Anybody can pick up women, most of them are stupid, insecure and just as horny as us, if you aint fussy theres millions of them out there.

Meeting women to see if you like each other is difficult when ugly, most wont give you a second look and treat you differently, in my experience.

 

[qball01]

Nobody solely relies on their looks in life but having them can open doors the rest of us have to kick our way through.

Is that from experience, BrightonBaldy or are you just making assumptions? :whistle:

You should re-read my post. You're wrong on 2 parts: There ARE some people who rely on their looks in life (Models?) and some men DO rely on their looks to pick up women.

The majority of guys on here going, "OMG IM BALDING... I CANT PICK UP WOMEN :sobbing: :sobbing: :sobbing: " are the ones who rely on their looks to get women.

If you can't pick up women because you're balding then you have much deeper issues than male pattern baldness.

From what I've read of your posts on here, aren't you a young guy with extensive hairloss who can still attract women as a bald man? Well...you must be incredibly rich then, or have some sort of "other" stuff going on...roofies perhaps because as you know from dudemon and the other reliable posters on here....the "law of bald men" states that "after X amount of hairs are lost on a man's head...attraction with the opposite sex becomes physically impossible, unless a substantial amount of dollar bills are involved." Its a law man...how dare you come on this site and try to insinuate that balding men have other problems to blame for their despair other than solely the hairloss? Who the hell do you think you are? Oh...you're an actual bald guy? Well....I'll have to figure out some sort of excuse as to why your positive opinion still isn't valid and that you're actually deluding yourself as to the REALITY of the situation. (Must be all the money and fame you have. You're also probably built like Mr. Olympia)

Because you know what?...its just insulting on your part to try and imply that us bald men should still accept responsibility for our lives despite our crippling condition. Isn't it just better to accept that we're going to live awful lives, face constant abuse and have to settle for women who look like Rosie Odonnell because we're bald? Why delude ourselves otherwise? We both know we've never seen an attractive woman with a bald man before...EVER. And if that was the case then they either met before he lost his hair....or hes a billionaire. NO EXCEPTIONS. :shakehead:

I mean...look at the people who make these posts too...like dudemon and U-man and Brighton Baldy....its not like they're negative or pessimistic or hate themselves or anything...its clearly ALL to do with the fact they're bald and if you try to imply otherwise...well, YOU'RE JUST WRONG!


lol

 

[qball01]

No I haven't been rejected by being told its because I'm bald...the closest thing was one Halloween when I was talking to my friend who was talking to this dumb blond girl and I said "I'm tired of this wig" so I took it off...and she was like "you're bald?" in what I perceived to be a negative way. I didn't give a sh*t though at the time....plus, I can also understand how it could have been a shock to her considering its not the norm for young kids...thats why I never wear a hat when I go out unless I'm outdoors.

but FYI...a woman who tells you she isn't interested in bald guys is in my mind more likely to date you than a woman who makes up an excuse....women are amazing liars...they could easily say "I have a boyfriend" when in reality they don't like bald guys...a woman who says "I don't like bald guys" to your face is either just a huuuuuge b**ch...or is testing you to see your reaction because they know men are insecure about losing their hair. I've told this before...my mom told my badly balding father on their first date (after he had told her that he could see them getting married) that she would never marry a bald man. Obviously that wasn't the case. Even if she did care when they first met, it didn't matter to her in the long run. His reality was much stronger than hers. When women say stuff like that...its not rooted in anything firm. Like Brighton said...most women are insecure and needy. IF you are a strong willed man, centered in your own reality and you know what you want out of life then most mature women really won't give a f*** about something as pointless as how much hair a man has.

THINK ABOUT IT MAN....women know hairloss happens to guys! It may not be ideal, but it happens. Why would they actually care nearly as much as you say about hair? You act like "bald" is going to repell women in all cases (even if the man still looks good) JUST BECAUSE THE MAN IS BALD. Seriously...why would women really care that much? Thats what I don't get...you guys spend all this time complaining about how its so bad being bald...but never look into the deeper reasons as to why. Its just an unfortunate genetic condition, but its not in a woman's best interest to dismiss bald guys altogether....it IS in her best interest to dismiss weak minded, insecure men altogether, and that is unfortunately what many bald men become. You really have to understand...and I know we've ALL seen cases of this often....there really are a lot of women who don't give a f*** about a man losing his hair. They know its just something that happens, and as long as he ACTS LIKE A MAN, they won't care....who cares if they would "prefer" he had hair? I would "prefer" all my women look like Megan Fox but it doesn't mean I won't get with a girl who isn't a perfect 10. I would also "prefer" if I had my hair, were 5 inches taller and had darker skin...but should I just give up on life and accept that I'm a loser because I lack those things?

 

[BrightonBaldy]

Would rather words were not put into my mouth, where did I say i hate myself?

Whats true for one person may not be true for anoher, for me the sad truth is that hairloss made me ugly and being ugly is a turn off. Its near impossible to get a woman to speak to you, nevermind flirt, most here know the score.

There will always be couples that dont appear to match to us onlookers, works with both sexes. I'm sure theres thin women who wonder why a handful of men want fat women, it is far from normal. Just because one guy likes fatties, it doesnt mean we all do.

Theres always exceptions.

Just because a bald guy was lucky to find the 1% baldy loving girl, it doesnt mean the other 99% dont care about looks.