Hiding meds from girlfriend

[treeshrew]

So I've recently started dating this girl (about 3 months) now, and I do not tell her I am taking hair meds (propecia and minoxidil foam). I hide them in my house and have switched to using foam in the mornings once she's left.

I'm curious if anyone else does this, or people's general opinions on it. I truly think if she knew it might jeopardize the relationship. My hair was in pretty bad shape about 2 years ago and finasteride+minoxidil have really saved it. She runs her hands through it all the time and says it grows so thick.

The other night she asked me if anyone in my family is bald. My mom's dad is, and so are a lot of uncles on my dad's side but I told her no. She goes "that's good".

I know she is into me for more than just hair (obviously) but that plays a large part in attraction and I really do wonder what she would think if she knew I was on hair meds. I realize at some point meds stop working (fingers crossed that they don't) but maybe by then it will be harder for her to leave over something like that.

Just curious for people's general thoughts and feelings on a situation like this.

 

[wemustchange]

It's understandable that you feel the need to hide it. I did/do the same. At some point though, you will realize if she can't deal with the fact you could go bald and are trying your best to stop that for your own confidence, she wasn't worth it. It's complicated.

 

[Shma]

The other night she asked me if anyone in my family is bald. My mom's dad is, and so are a lot of uncles on my dad's side but I told her no. She goes "that's good".

Dude! I would be very disappointed about this reaction.

 

[captain_que]

The other night she asked me if anyone in my family is bald. My mom's dad is, and so are a lot of uncles on my dad's side but I told her no. She goes "that's good".

Dude! I would be very disappointed about this reaction.

Seconded. So she wouldn´t like you if you lost it? Ask her if anyone in her family´s fat or have wrinkles..

 

[juanfran123]

If she did leave, then you would know that you had a lucky escape, too many shallow people in this world sir.

 

[Obsidian]

My g/f saw my minoxidil when she stayed the night and she was like 'Why do you need that? You have plenty of hair!' I made the joke 'It's preventative :whistle: '

 

[Shma]

My g/f saw my minoxidil when she stayed the night and she was like 'Why do you need that? You have plenty of hair!' I made the joke 'It's preventative :whistle: '

Have you lost a lot of hair since opening your thread? As far as I know you're on minoxidil+spironolactone only, right?

 

[Nene]

The other night she asked me if anyone in my family is bald. My mom's dad is, and so are a lot of uncles on my dad's side but I told her no. She goes "that's good".

Dude! I would be very disappointed about this reaction.

Wow. I would've said, get out.

 

[Obsidian]

Actually I started .5mg of Propecia again last Monday. I wouldn't say I have lost a lot of hair but steadily though. Yet if I wasn't using anything I would probably be losing a lot more.

 

[s.a.f]

The other night she asked me if anyone in my family is bald. My mom's dad is, and so are a lot of uncles on my dad's side but I told her no. She goes "that's good".

Dude! I would be very disappointed about this reaction.

Depends how she meant it, It IS good to have no m.p.b in the family. Does'nt automaticly mean that she's going to leave him if he loses hair. He should of asked her what if all my relatives where bald? Then he'd have found out her real feelings on the subject, maybe she would have said I dont mind bald guys.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I wouldn't hide them. If she sees them and asks anything just let her know its just stuff you use to help your hair get thicker. Don't even mention the word balding or thinning. You can always tell the truth but its how you word it that makes all the difference. However, if she sees them and says nothing then don't open up a can of worms and mention something about them. I get comments from women all the time that I don't need to use anything and I just tell them I'd like to keep what I have and those meds will help do that. That satisfies them enough to not say anything further. Its hiding things that shows your weakness which women do not like. When you have nothing to hide in a relationship its makes it so much easier for yourself without causes stress to thin out your hair more.

 

[Nene]

The other night she asked me if anyone in my family is bald. My mom's dad is, and so are a lot of uncles on my dad's side but I told her no. She goes "that's good".

Dude! I would be very disappointed about this reaction.

Depends how she meant it, It IS good to have no m.p.b in the family. Does'nt automaticly mean that she's going to leave him if he loses hair. He should of asked her what if all my relatives where bald? Then he'd have found out her real feelings on the subject, maybe she would have said I dont mind bald guys.

Obviously she does mind bald guys saf, otherwise she wouldn't have asked.

 

[Nene]

I wouldn't hide them. If she sees them and asks anything just let her know its just stuff you use to help your hair get thicker. Don't even mention the word balding or thinning. You can always tell the truth but its how you word it that makes all the difference. However, if she sees them and says nothing then don't open up a can of worms and mention something about them. I get comments from women all the time that I don't need to use anything and I just tell them I'd like to keep what I have and those meds will help do that. That satisfies them enough to not say anything further. Its hiding things that shows your weakness which women do not like. When you have nothing to hide in a relationship its makes it so much easier for yourself without causes stress to thin out your hair more.

Good post doctor house, I agree. I knew a girl who said she dated a guy on propecia. He told her that hair loss ran in his family and thats why he was on it. She didn't seem to mind.

 

[Shma]

I wouldn't hide them. If she sees them and asks anything just let her know its just stuff you use to help your hair get thicker. Don't even mention the word balding or thinning. You can always tell the truth but its how you word it that makes all the difference. However, if she sees them and says nothing then don't open up a can of worms and mention something about them. I get comments from women all the time that I don't need to use anything and I just tell them I'd like to keep what I have and those meds will help do that. That satisfies them enough to not say anything further. Its hiding things that shows your weakness which women do not like. When you have nothing to hide in a relationship its makes it so much easier for yourself without causes stress to thin out your hair more.

Good post doctor house, I agree. I knew a girl who said she dated a guy on propecia. He told her that hair loss ran in his family and thats why he was on it. She didn't seem to mind.

Yes, but the guy has to ask himself wether she would have become his gf when he was already past the stage when he was able to hide it (meaning it was obvious he was bald/going bald)

 

[Hoppi]

Joke is you wanna know something?

This is one of the reasons I choose things like Spectral DNC over Dr Lee's minoxidil or Rogaine (for example). Because it looks fine, I actually think the bottle looks pretty cool lol

And as long as I keep my internal regimen like.. short n sweet.. also I take the more embarassing labels off lol, and shampoos like Regenepure look pretty cool anyway lol

 

[s.a.f]

Obviously she does mind bald guys saf, otherwise she wouldn't have asked.

Not really if they were discussing hair anyway. He should have said does it matter to you?
Only he knows wether she's a shallow type of girl or not.

 

[Guest]

You have been dating her for three months??? You wait for her to leave in the morning??? You're living with someone who have dated for 3 months? If you moved into that serious of a relationship that fast, then obviously there is a strong connection there and you shouldn't be afraid to hide it. Itm ay take time though... For example, when i moved in with my girlfriend i wouldn't take sh*ts with her in thehouse or i would do my best to hide it. Over time that fades and now i will drop one with the door open.

Give it some time bud, i'msure your answers you are looking for will come to you in time...

 

[Sig]

I wouldnt bring it up to her. If she finds out (which eventually she will) then just tell her the truth. If you bring it up, it brings about a sense of insecurity. I went through this same dilemma 3 years ago. I had jsut noticed my hairloss, was extremely depressed about it (even saw a psychologist), then I met the most beauitiful girl. Got together with her, she found out about my hairloss, 3 years later we are still happy (no doubt she's the girl I want to marry). Unfortunately what I did do was become very comfortable, and I stopped taking propecia for about 1.5 years. DO NOT DO THIS.

Basically, I wouldnt worry to much about it. If she dumps you because of this, she basically did you a favor. Hairloss is already a big problem in our lives, we dont need a b**ch of a girlfriend to make it any worse.

 

[Cybergod]

If you are going to tell her, I wouldn't bring it up randomly if I was you. Just leave a bottle of minoxidil lying around, and if/when she notices it, if she mentions it; just say you're using it to make your hair thicker. Don't make it a bigger deal than it actually is. You'd be surprised how many girls relate to wanting thicker hair.

You are certainly not alone in this; I hide my propecia in an ibuprofen box; and my minoxidil I hide by taking off the label and replacing it with a contact lens saline solution label. Simple but effective . Obviously I still keep them hidden in a drawer, don't want someone taking propecia thinking it'll cure their headache :whistle:.

 

[ComeOnPropy]

My girlfriend has known since day 1 of our relationship that i was taking it, i basically told her because i knew of the hassel it would cause trying to hide it daily, Fast forward 2 1/2 years later we still going strong and she is actually telling me about hair loss stuff, like when she saw an ad for spectral DnC LOL