Hiding the treatments from the girlfriend???

[Titan]

Hi, I've been on propecia and minoxidil for about 5 months now and things are pretty stable - my hair is actually looking pretty good at the moment, and the loss seems to have stopped. Anyways, met this chick recently who's been staying over a lot, which is great - cause she loves to go at it hard, and she likes to make my bed in the morning. I know, its crazy.... plus she's a nice girl too I guess. However, the problem is: I've been hiding the rogaine and propecia tablets in the closet - due to me being a bit paranoid about her finding it and how she'll react. I'm also skipping a treatment or two of minoxidil cause I don't like using it when she's there in the morning. Anyway, I know she's going to find out some time, and I'm a bit worried about the ensuing embarrasment, I know its probably not warranted - but its not really the same as her finding out you take multivitamins, or how you like to whack off goats in a batman suit on sundays - wait, no thats probably a little worse. But you know what I mean.
My question: does anyone else conceal their treatments??? and what to say when she finds out?

 

[The Gardener]

Oooh haaa... that my friend is the key question!

For me, it has depended on the mindset of the girl. My current gf appreciates my regimen. Being a woman, they do all kinds of things regularly (manicures, taking care of their LONG hair, makeup, etc) to keep themselves looking GOOD and in this context she understands and appreciates that as a man, we have similar things that we have to do to keep ourselves looking GOOD too. When I initially brought it up with her, that is kind of how I framed it, and she understood, and believe it or not she actually likes applying my minoxidil in my hair for me. Of course, I reciprocate this with massaging her feet while taking long baths together, etc. In short, we groom each other, and thanks to her understanding it actually has added quite a bit of openness and honesty to our relationship.

Then again, for some women, the thought of their man using hairloss treatments is a sign of getting old. I had a previous gf who I THOUGHT had such thoughts... and I brought it up to her this way. I said, 'look, I am getting older and most men at a certain stage start their last stage of puberty, which is the beginnings of hair loss. In the old days, people just accepted it, but because now there are treatments to fend it off, LOTS of men regularly use them and I am not going to be left behind. It is no different than you getting a facial treatment, or a manicure, or that 'masque' that you apply to your face on weekend nights when you are conscious of people seeing you. It has simply become a good part of male grooming to spend a little time every day to do what I can.' She completely understood. I mean, the time that most women spend primping themselves every day to maintain THEIR youthful looks is far more than the time we spend to keep our youthful looks by using our treatments.

 

[Guest]

Depends on what age you are in - between 22 and up it will just make you seem very confident and selfaware. From 22 - down your girl might, with emphesis on might, think that you are geeky and should just let nature have it´s tool.

In general though 9/10 I´d go with playing an open hand.

 

[Stokes]

Tell her man, she will be happy to know that you care about your apperance

 

[lynne]

Why should ur g/f possibly think ur geeky if u take treatments at a younger age that ultimately make u look better???

I'm sure hardly any people my age (19) take anything to combat hairloss, since i see extreme cases quite frequently round my uni.

so doens't that mean that ur more self-aware and confident if u decide to take action at a younger age???

 

[chuckie]

No sense in keeping it a secret, if she can't understand then she may not be worth it.

 

[Cassin]

My girlfriend knows I am using stuff. She doesn't know what exactly, or cares. I sleep over there 3 times a week or so and I told her to never open the bottle of Proscar and touch a pill. Other than that, she doesn't care. I agree with everything the Gardener says, but I would have to be happily married for a few years before I would try to pull off walking around with a fresh coat of green Folligen.

 

[HairFreak]

but I would have to be happily married for a few years before I would try to pull off walking around with a fresh coat of green Folligen.

LOL good one.
Anyway, I did hide my stuff for a while. Then I figured it would be better to tell her what that greasy and smelly thing on my head is. :hairy:
The only way to hide it in a serious relationship is to miss treatments, which would be a stupid thing to do.

 

[Axon]

I keep my bottles of minoxidil unlabeled. My GF mistook it for rubbing alcohol or something (because of the scent) and tried cleaning a wound with it.

Mwahahahahaha

 

[Wezz]

just say its just good for hair and makes it look good :lol:

that really works !

 

[Titan]

Thanks for the advice lads, I'm actually 24, old enough to know better some would say. Gardener, you're spot on - But I'm still going to go about it very carefully, sure she might not care - but my paranoia is still with me, especially since the relationship is still in its early stages - interesting, and very hard to think that one day she may be helping apply minoxidil - obviously you've been in your relationship for some time. I mean its not really the most romantic experience you could introduce a girl to is it? Couldn't see it being like the pottery scene in ghost, both of us tenderly slapping rogaine on my head.... I think I'll just let her know what the products are for the moment and that should be enough.
Plus, I am a little worried now about her "using my minoxidil to clean a wound." Axon - that's some nasty stuff man, but funny too.

 

[The Gardener]

Hehe, actually, I have not been in this relationship all that long... but, I think my gf just has kind of a fascination with it...

At first, she made a comment about my hair, actually saying that she liked my hair which almost made me piss my pants. (Of course, inside I was thinking to myself that if only she had seen in a year ago she might not have felt the same way!.. not that I have really gained a lot of hair, but the additional thickness and stylability that minoxidil gave my existing hair really improved my look). Well, after that comment I told her. I said that I do things to make sure my hair looks good as I age. I think she read my body language or something, because she came right back and asked "do you use rogaine?" I said, yeah... and, nowadays the sh*t is cheap and it works and I can't understand why any man wouldn't!

She didn't bat an eyelash. To her, it just didn't carry the same stigma as it does to talk about hairloss and treating it does with men. I think it is a macho thing. We men are so sensitive about it, like we have this deep dark secret. Well, I think that women really don't care as much as we do. Think about it, women spend hours shampooing and conditioning and primping and styling, and plucking eyebrows, and getting manicures, and moisturizing and makeup and lipstick... to them, this is just part of life. So, relatively speaking, it really is not a big deal to them that we spend a few minutes to drizzle a little liquid on our scalps.

Now, as for the part about her actually applying it on my head, I think that might just be her. She just has this unexpected fascination with it, loves to apply it for me. Don't ask me why?... but I do think that in her mind, her applying my minoxidil is kind of like her way of showing intimacy. Like, when you are in the shower with a girl, and she helps you wash off that spot on your back that you can't reach. It's that kind of a vibe.

But in a nutshell, don't worry so much about it. Just be honest and tactful about it, like it is no big deal and I would bet that she will take her vibe from you and also think it is no big deal. I mean, you are preventing or delaying baldness here, which is a good thing, right?

 

[nikeaddict]

im not going to lie, i hide the sh*t from girls, friends and family. if it gets more serious id tell her, if not, who cares. good luck. peace

 

[youngone2]

I hid it from my previous GF and missed alot of night treatments because of that.. but also due not wanting it on my head when it may get everywhere.. its just a messy nuisance..

Personally i would hide it until everything became serious enough that it wouldn't matter to her. I alwyas had the fear that a girl would be like im dating a guy thats going to be bald soon, i dont want to be with a bald guy the rest of my life type of thing.

But even if i wasn't hiding the minoxidil i wouldn't want to put it on around her because it would get messy annoying, hell its a pain enough sleeping by myself with it on my head trying not to have my pillow soak it all up.

On the other side, taking propecia would be easier to disclose especially if you have decent hair.. i mean its just a pill and your just taking it to prevent hairloss....

On the other hand you can tell im going bald and im only 23. its quite obvious enough so that you can see the complete norwood 5 outline in light so i guess they knwo anyways.

Now im just babbling but id say hide it as needed until you are close enough that it wont be a big deal at all. Some women in a new relationship while being young be like man im going to be with a bald guy. But once they get to know you its not about looks anymore and if it is do you really want to be with them?

 

[KrazyK]

I would say go for it and tell her. You'd be amazed at how understanding people are. Everyone that I have told, they are all totally understanding.

 

[rill]

If you tell her you can be pretty sure that she will tell her friends and family.
:freaked2:

 

[mr_sparkle]

As long as you hide away in the bathroom whilst you do it you could go undetected. Otherwise say it's to keep your hair straight or something.

When you get to know her it should be okay though. I mean if you have a lush head of hair and tell her it's to keep it there she shouldn't mind. If she does then she's just too shallow and it wouldn't be right.