How big of a disadvantage is bald/balding really in dating?

[baldguy28]

I work in downtown Chicago and every day on my way to work while I'm walking from the train I can't help but notice that every other guy that I see seems to have a good head of hair and I feel defeated. I never checked out hairlines until I started losing my hair and if you think about it, it's amazing what a disadvantage even slight recession is as it can drastically alter your whole appearance. Having a cool hairstyle seems to be very big with women maybe even at the top of the list of what they look for maybe even more than height, with very few liking the bald look. So all things considered, while shaving your head has become a lot more acceptable and commonplace now I still think that especially if you're a white guy and even if you get a tan, bald/balding is still a huge disadvantage with women unless you are a movie star with a ton of money.
Sadly, women have the final say in the dating game and the way that I've heard many of them talk, if you're bald or going bald badly now you may as well not even exist because they will typecast you as a loser even before you open your mouth. Now is probably the worst time in society ever for a white guy to go bald because of all of these appearance oriented shows popping up on television. What are your thoughts?

 

[jeffsss]

having hair loss isnt the biggest disadvantage in the world. It sucks.. but you can still live with it.

i work in retail.. and it just pisses me off when i see men 20-30 years older than me with full thick heads of hair..

and as far as television is concerned..... it's always been that way..

 

[theendoftheend]

it's not a disdavantage in dating. it's a disavadvantage in GETTING dates.

Once you're on a date, it's all about your charm.

 

[Deaner]

jeffsss, you seem to have calmed down about your hairloss situation? That's good man. And yea, hairloss isn't the hugest disadvantage at all, it can definitely be overcome, as long as you're willing to just be yourself and not let it take control of you.

 

[bgred90]

I used to work in downtown chicago also, and I dont see every other guy with a full head of hair.
Where are you looking??
I actually saw a lot of balding guys around when I was down there last week. Young guys.

 

[Pob]

Going bald is a definite advantage. It takes their minds off my small knob.

 

[Aplunk1]

Re: How big of a disadvantage is bald/balding really in dati

I work in downtown Chicago and every day on my way to work while I'm walking from the train I can't help but notice that every other guy that I see seems to have a good head of hair and I feel defeated. I never checked out hairlines until I started losing my hair and if you think about it, it's amazing what a disadvantage even slight recession is as it can drastically alter your whole appearance. Having a cool hairstyle seems to be very big with women maybe even at the top of the list of what they look for maybe even more than height, with very few liking the bald look. So all things considered, while shaving your head has become a lot more acceptable and commonplace now I still think that especially if you're a white guy and even if you get a tan, bald/balding is still a huge disadvantage with women unless you are a movie star with a ton of money.
Sadly, women have the final say in the dating game and the way that I've heard many of them talk, if you're bald or going bald badly now you may as well not even exist because they will typecast you as a loser even before you open your mouth. Now is probably the worst time in society ever for a white guy to go bald because of all of these appearance oriented shows popping up on television. What are your thoughts?

You have the final say in what women YOU choose. You cannot let a genetic predisposition control control your life... your blood says you're supposed to be bald... Then why do you ALSO think you're supposed to be without a woman?

It's not a bad time in society for a man to be bald. In my opinion, this is one of the best times for someone to go bald. Treatments are much better than what they used to be, and they're becoming better... So much research is underway... There are many ethical doctors and good people who can give you a head of hair, if that's what you want.

Man, it takes time to adjust with the little that God gives us... Maybe try an anti-depressant to help take your mind off things. It's helping me, and I was shopping for shotguns just a few weeks ago.

Is the Big 3 not working for you? Have you considered Avodart?

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck.

Andy

 

[emery]

woman are far more attracted to personality rather than your hairline. the problem is men are attracted to physically attractive woman and thinks woman think the same - they don't think the same.

then here come the problem: once they start losing hair, they THINK they are being less attractive, and they start to feel insecure and less confident... THAT IS THE PROBLEM. Woman are not attracted to insecure and inconfident men.. it has nothing to do with their hair.

Because most men cannot figure this out, most bald man are walking around lifelessly and that is why bald guy are being viewed as loser. It wasnt bcoz of their hair line, it was because of their lack of confident.

Anyone with me here?

 

[nervx]

I find that a lot of women don't really care about hair loss on guys too much providing they present themselves nicely. If you have messy thin hair or a combover to hide the toilet seat pattern your basically fucked. However if you have a style that fits your hair loss or shave it off, keep in decent shape and dress nicely(no sweats from walmart) your chances are basically as good as those with perfect hair.

 

[Felk]

Anyone with me here?

There is definate truth to what you say. By that i mean the power of the mind is almost unlimited (especially when it comes to generating a convincing bad self-image unfortunately!) and i agree with the quote of "Life is 10% what happens to you, 90% how you think about what happens to you"

However i think it's still a generalisation. Some women would just be looking for looks, as some men do, because everyone's different.

 

[TourdeForce24]

Women like money, and they like power. The sooner you realize this, the better for you. The only ones concerned about hairloss are twenty year old college girls who think they are entitled to the perfect man. When they realize that they are not, they will change their narrow minds. Earn some decent money, buy a house, and get promoted to a position of power at your job and woman will be all over you.

 

[tembo]

Hardly any disadvantage unless you are really ugly with hair too.

Even than, its still possible if you got the confidence...but unfortunately that kinda confidence is very hard to build.

Nowadays even women are going bald so the playing field is evening out hehehe

 

[techprof]

I have a great cousin. She makes big bucks and she told me that balding does not bother her when she looks for a date.
However, when I stressed on the Norwood scale, she said she cannot marry anyone with a shiny crown.
That is many women will accept NW2 or NW2.5 or minor recession. But being slick bald is not gonna help.
(I was a NW2 (from NW4) when I got married). For my wife balding does not matter. So women are different, but on an average my guess is that NW2 or 2.5 should not lose sleep over this.

 

[Thinning]

it's not a disdavantage in dating. it's a disavadvantage in GETTING dates.

Once you're on a date, it's all about your charm.

I agree on this, almost every girl I have gotten to date me has always had fun and wanted to see me again.

But lots of girls wont give you a chance unless you look like "Mr. Right".

I dont mind too much, but the guys that are in the high demand from women lead really awsome lives - moving from hot girlfriend to hot girlfriend every few months, always having hot sex available to them from ex's, easier time at work. I know a guy at work like that - 6'4, 220, full head of sandy blond hair, good american looks. The stories he tells of getting hot girls are crazy - ever finger girls on a dancefloor? get bj's in club bathrooms? have all the office girls chase you around and flirt with you? Have sex with a different girl every day of the week when going to the beach on vacation? Thats common for him. Ive seen the girls too, beautifull.

And the thing is, he has the personality of a grapefruit.

 

[theendoftheend]

I dont mind too much, but the guys that are in the high demand from women lead really awsome lives - moving from hot girlfriend to hot girlfriend every few months, always having hot sex available to them from ex's, easier time at work. I know a guy at work like that - 6'4, 220, full head of sandy blond hair, good american looks. The stories he tells of getting hot girls are crazy - ever finger girls on a dancefloor? get bj's in club bathrooms? have all the office girls chase you around and flirt with you? Have sex with a different girl every day of the week when going to the beach on vacation? Thats common for him. Ive seen the girls too, beautifull.

And the thing is, he has the personality of a grapefruit.

That is the most depressing thing I have read in months - and I'm not the kind of guy that gets depressed or down about sh*t.

but it got to me, good work!

 

[Private Ryan]

although somehow been bald does affect your chance of getting a date, i think the worst it can do is to affect the balding guy self-confidence.. i think self-image sometime can be much harder to build then trying to regrow hair... it a terrible process to go through...

sometime, i wonder how some folks seem not been bother by it at all...

 

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